I want to try to write down what we encountered on the way to read picture books, hoping to give mothers a reference.
One day, Mai Dad looked at the bookshelf and sighed, "Mai Bao had more books before he was 2 years old than all the books before I went to primary school." Can you finish reading so many books? Is it useful? "
He doesn't know that reading is never an immediate thing, but the books he has read and the habits he has developed will be engraved in his heart and affect his life.
There is a saying that you may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me-I have a mother who reads to me.
For me, parent-child reading is not to let Mai Bao learn much knowledge from it, but to cultivate his good reading habits and high-quality companionship at a fixed time every day.
I built two 1 m2 book corners at home.
For Mai Bao, parent-child reading is probably the most anticipated time every day. No cell phones, no toys, no interruptions. Only I sat on the carpet or bed with him, took out my favorite picture books from the bookshelf one by one, and put them back after reading them.
For me, parent-child reading is a very ceremonial thing, creating a special reading space in a small room, holding his small soft body and telling him all kinds of interesting stories.
The book corner doesn't need much space. One or two squares is enough. I made two at home.
One is to fix a small vertical bookshelf on the wall in the bedroom and put some quiet picture books before going to bed. Reading quietly under the warm yellow light has become a fixed procedure before going to bed every day.
In the living room, there is a cartoon ladder combination bookshelf, and most of the picture books inside are institutional books that can be played and flipped through. There is a pile of hoarded books in the space next to it, and a batch will be changed from it every month and put on the stepped bookshelf. There is a soft blanket in front of the bookshelf. Mai Bao especially likes to nest on it and turn pages at will. Do you have my company?
The advantage of establishing a reading corner is that children will be more interested in reading. If you have enough conditions at home, you can find a sunny bay window or open space, provide a soft little sofa, some pillows, and even put some little dolls as reading partners. Create a comfortable and pleasant reading environment, and the reading corner will become a place that children are willing to go.
The foreshadowing of early reading habits:
Let the children see me reading first.
Generally speaking, the earlier parent-child reading begins, the better. You can tell stories to your baby from the moment he is born.
At the beginning, children's concentration is usually only one or two minutes. The fun of treating picture books is not in the content, but in violent actions such as biting.
Usually, when I first started talking about picture books, my mothers would have a headache. My child ran away after listening to a page. What should I do if I can't sit still and don't like reading?
This is a very normal behavior in the early stage of parent-child reading. At the beginning, what we need to cultivate is children's familiarity with books and their interest in parent-child reading.
Children often follow their parents' example. If parents never read books at home and hold their mobile phones every day, children will naturally think that mobile phones are a good thing. But if parents always read a book, children will also be interested in books.
So the first thing parents should do is to let their children see you reading.
Many parents probably haven't read a book after graduation, and it's a bit reluctant to pick up a book seriously. But since you can read novels on your mobile phone, it's ok to buy novels and leave them at home. Bullying is that children are too young to understand. Who says reading novels is not reading books?
When books appear in every corner of the house from time to time, children may still not like them, but at least they won't resist. This is the first step to success.
The formation of early reading habits;
Persevere and let the children get used to reading it.
The cultivation of reading habits needs perseverance. In behavioral psychology, it takes at least 2 1 day for a person to form and consolidate a new habit and idea, which is the so-called 2 1 day effect. In other words, a person's actions or thoughts, repeated for 2 1 day, will become habitual actions or thoughts.
After reading 2 1 day, you will find that you are no longer pulling your child to learn, but he is pushing you to learn. Even if you are tired, children will let you read some picture books before going to bed.
There is no time limit for parent-child reading, as long as you have a picture book at hand, you can do it at any time. However, it is recommended to set a few fixed time periods at the beginning, such as after getting up and before going to bed. In particular, reading before going to bed helps children to change from dynamic activities to static activities, relax their excited brains and slowly adjust to the calm mood before going to bed.
Mai Bao can read books by himself for about 20 minutes now. Parents and children read for more than 1 hour and don't stop until they have read all the books on the shelf.
But at first, Mai Bao's concentration was not so high, and he often climbed to other places after listening to two pages. At this time, I usually don't catch him back, just raise my voice and continue telling stories. Sometimes he will be drawn back to continue listening to stories, sometimes he will sit down and start playing with toys, and I will gather together to play with him for a while. At first, you don't need to force your child to finish listening to a book, just let him get used to reading.
This phenomenon has been greatly reduced after the book corner was set up in the dormitory. In a relatively closed and narrow space, the reading club will have more concentration. If the books on the shelf are of the right age and there are not many choices, it will be more helpful to the accuracy of reading. When children can control and identify books without interference from other things, they will increase their reading time. Once they get used to it, it is logical to read independently.
When children don't like reading,
There are two reasons for my reflection and summary.
Even if the above content is well done, children may still not like reading. Who let the children have no specific procedures and instructions?
Don't like reading can be divided into two situations-
The first is that you don't like reading books from beginning to end;
The other is that I liked it before, but suddenly I stopped watching it for a while.
If you don't like reading at first, you can consider the following possibilities.
1. Picture books are not suitable for children's age: if you are given a book you don't understand, you may leave at a glance, and so will children. The content of picture books is too simple or too difficult, and children are interested. Therefore, if you show your child a picture book, you must choose one that suits your child's age.
2. Not interested in the content form of picture books: For Xiaobaobao under 1 year-old, story books need simple and repeated plots, with colorful patterns, more pictures and fewer words.
1-2-year-old babies prefer books that can be played, such as flip books, cave books, office books, and some books with simple plots, close to life and helpful to form habits.
Babies over 2 years old can introduce some popular science books, books with complicated plots, and let them choose some interesting books.
Baby, I love you so much. Mai Bao 1 year-old liked it very much. I used to repeat it every night before going to bed. I'm almost 2 years old now, and I don't have much interest. For example, "David Can't" 1 year-old was completely uninterested, and 1 year-old suddenly liked it. Therefore, the age of the book is very important.
3. Reading methods can't attract children: even the best books, if they are just read by the book, probably children won't be interested.
4. Parents' invisible pressure causes children's discomfort: the initial parent-child reading focuses on cultivating reading habits, and it doesn't matter how many books you read or learn. Every child has his own timeline, so there is no need to compare the length of sitting with other children and the number of books to arouse his anxiety. Even if parents don't say it orally, these anxieties will eventually turn into pressure on children, which will lead to children's uncomfortable feelings about parent-child reading.
There is another situation. I studied very well before, and suddenly I ran away as soon as I saw the book for a while.
In this case, it is not new to exclude children from being too familiar with existing picture books, and usually no special intervention is needed. Drinking milk will have a semester of boredom, and reading will also have a semester of boredom. As long as parents and children read tentatively every day, they are unwilling and unwilling. Introduce some new picture books that meet the age of months, wait patiently for a few days, and the children who love reading are back.
In order to make children interested in picture books,
I played the role in the book and acted out the story with Eva.
Early parent-child reading is more like a game, not so much telling stories to children as acting stories. To make children interested in picture books, parents must first be good actors.
When reading cheerful stories, I often dance, exaggerate my acting skills, give different voices to different roles, and buy a set of finger dolls from IKEA. Speaking of related animals, I put on that animal and do various actions. Mai Bao likes this one very much. In children's eyes, everything has spirit. They really believe that the little animals on their fingers are talking to themselves.
Some picture books with prominent storylines can interact with children. For example, three little pigs can use the toy curtains at home and so on. Mai Bao especially liked this picture book after he left, because he could hide behind the curtains and be a pig, and I would dress up as a wolf to catch him. Children of this age are in a space-sensitive period, and hide-and-seek is their favorite.
Mai Bao is using toys as a house, playing three little pigs.
There is a similar "Guess how much I love you", which is suitable for a family of three to watch together. Dad takes the baby to do rabbit movements, mom does rabbit movements, and mom and dad accompany themselves to read picture books, which is something that every child especially loves to do.
Books before bed are usually read in the last few books before bed, with a gentle tone of hypnosis, which makes him feel confused before going to bed. I don't know what kind of sound it is. I can recall the feeling of having a history class at school, or the teacher's voice when I finally relaxed after yoga.
Parent-child reading, I choose to let children lead and I assist.
Who should lead in reading picture books? Children often turn over and jump over after listening to two pages. Personal advice is that reading picture books needs to follow the child's meaning. Although children are young, they also have hobbies. Children can choose their own picture books, turn pages and control their reading speed.
Mai Bao has a book "The Railway Station in the Belly". When he first got it, he listened to the front part with relish. When it comes to the popular science stage of elf dreaming, he loses interest and always turns to these pages directly. Sometimes, for the completeness of the story, I will read these pages quickly when he turns the page, and sometimes I will be lazy to say that the elf was knocked unconscious, had a dream and woke up again. This does not affect his love for the whole book. After watching it for more than ten times, I slowly accepted the popular science stage.
Another phenomenon is that he stays on a page and doesn't want to leave. Mai Bao will look at his favorite pages over and over again, and he will keep pointing at them. At this time, I became a human flesh reading pen, and I looked wherever he clicked. He was satisfied and naturally turned over a page.
Of course, there are also repeated readings that my mother has a special headache, especially during the language sensitive period. A book can generally be said more than a dozen times, which is really a spit.
But for children, repeated reading is a process of understanding, digesting and learning. Children's understanding is not as perfect as ours. Reading a new picture book may not even understand the story. For a favorite picture book, he will ask to read it again and again. For him, every time he reads it, his gains are different. Usually, a picture book must be read 10 times or more before the meaning can be fully understood by children (especially under 2 years old, the understanding ability will increase with age).
Therefore, parents must be more patient and show their children their favorite picture books. Children's love for a picture book is hard to satisfy.
Of course, repeated reading can also have some tips:
These two magic weapons are very helpful in our parent-child reading process.
At first, I insisted on reading picture books with Mai Bao just because I thought the habit of reading would benefit me for life, but I always felt like an island that I insisted on. Later, I found some parent-child reading activities, as well as some apps and smoking machines, and reading picture books became more and more motivated.
When Mai Bao 14 months old, we took part in the 2 1 day parent-child reading punch card and got to know all the great mothers in the world. Since then, we have opened a new door to picture books and really benefited a lot.
Another particularly practical tool is the smoking teaching machine. There are many kinds in the market, such as Niuting black technology painting picture book, Biba, and an early teaching machine, which automatically plays which page the picture book turns to, and you can find what you need after comparison.
When children want to repeat their studies, the smoke machine is absolutely divine. Recently, Mai Bao especially likes to eat chicken balls, and he has encountered a language sensitive period. After reading more than a dozen picture books before going to bed, he refused to sleep. Finally, he can only suggest that Biba play chicken balls in cycles as a bedtime hypnosis.
My family's parent-child reading is carried out in happiness every day, no matter how much he has learned, he just enjoys the process. Mai Bao likes reading, and I also like spending time with him wholeheartedly, and I like watching him grow up happily.
Parent-child reading can't be done overnight, but gradually cultivate reading interest in repeated reading every day, and eventually there will be unexpected lifelong gains.