Some children look like small porcelain dolls, but when they open their mouths, they are angry and depressed, and they are embarrassed to dispute with them, but they still push their luck and tell you some annoying words; Some children are ordinary-looking, humorous when they speak, and know how to be measured, which makes people feel that they are well educated.
Parents want to teach a beloved child, but no matter how to educate him, beat him, reward him and seduce him, some children are just too' arbitrary' and always difficult to talk to, so many parents are worried and want to know how to teach their children well.
In fact, children can't talk, mainly because parents didn't give their children a compulsory course in speaking etiquette when they were young.
It is very important to know etiquette, which determines a person's life.
We also have some parents who think oral English is not a big problem. As the child is still young, it is of no practical significance to always correct his speaking problems. It is normal for children to be young and ignorant, but it will be fine when they grow up.
In fact, we have mentioned this idea many times before: when children are young, if they want to grow up naturally and be sensible, they will inevitably suffer, and even make big mistakes, leading to bitter results. Parents' laissez-faire attitude will only make children worse and worse.
In real life, we can see many parents who are careless and have very strange ideas about their children's education. I once had a neighbor aunt who came to me to complain if the child was naive when she was educating her children. For example, who did the child fight with today? She stopped doing her homework yesterday and lied to her parents every day.
However, when the children were young, she took them to bully their relatives, and when they grew up, they bullied their parents. This is a bitter fruit that is hard to swallow.
Similarly, if parents think that it doesn't matter if their children are rude when they are young, they will be rude and don't know how to respect their parents when they grow up.
Etiquette in speaking is very important and can determine a person's life direction. This is not an exaggeration, but a very real reality.
Imagine that if a child makes others feel angry when he speaks from an early age, then few people are willing to be friends with him, even relatives and family are unwilling to take care of him, and there is no need for strangers to let him go.
Children who grow up in such an environment have seen few people and things, so they will be confined to their own small world, and their vision of life will become narrower and narrower, and they will not achieve much.
On the other hand, no one wants to talk to this annoying child, which can easily lead to inferiority and autism because of his unpopularity, and also lead to some psychological diseases.
Parents should teach their children manners as early as possible.
Being unable to speak will bring such a serious negative impact on a person's life, so parents, as their children's lifelong mentors, must try their best to give their children this kind of quality education as soon as possible, so that their children can speak and be a person who can communicate with others normally.
1. If you have negative emotions, don't say them in a hurry, put them on hold for a while, communicate with parents and listen to their suggestions;
2. Don't always talk to others in a teasing, teasing or contemptuous manner;
4. Ask questions about things you don't know or understand, or explain that you don't understand. Never pretend to understand;
In the process of talking with friends and close people, we must abandon our inferiority complex and keep equal communication with our peers.
When children are young, many parents will find that children are anxious to speak and want to express, but they are not good at listening. This is actually not a child's mistake or fault, but that each of us has a desire to talk.
When children are young, they are mainly influenced by emotions. Their logical thinking ability is very weak, and they seldom communicate with others with rational thinking.
Therefore, in the infancy of children, their desire to speak will be stronger than that of adults, and they will almost blurt out their thoughts.
However, we often see some adults in real life, and their desire to talk is also very strong. If they have any ideas, they will say so. This is actually because they didn't experience the education of speaking when they were young.
Children who are impulsive and easily dominated by emotions are often extroverted. They are easily influenced by emotions and say some ugly words, which is what we usually say. ''
Children with introverted personality are often very introverted when dealing with people. Children with an average degree of introversion look calm, know how to' speak half' and don't want to upset others too abruptly.
However, children who are too introverted may give up their ideas for fear of disturbing others. This is a very undesirable behavior. When such a child grows up, it is easy to become indecisive and go with the flow.
Parents should educate their children in an appropriate way.
In addition to the specific content of educating children mentioned above, parents should also pay attention to the ways and means of education. They should not respond to children with the first reaction of emotions, and criticize or scold them easily.
Children who are too introverted, as mentioned above, may have a normal personality when they were young, but after being beaten and scolded by their parents more often, they gradually close their hearts and become unable to communicate with others.
I have a friend. She has a particularly bad habit in the process of interacting with people, that is, she is too considerate. Because of this, many friends feel that talking with her always makes people anxious and angry.
This kind of' understanding' makes people angry, mainly because such children are particularly good at' explaining for others'. For example, in the process of ordinary chat, the other party will pretend to understand what he doesn't know, in order to take care of the other party's face, and then there may be mistakes or misunderstandings; For example, when the other party asked him if he needed help, he just "blocked the conversation" and said "Nothing, I'll do something".
This kind of communication makes others feel speechless, but for such children, they feel that they have wronged themselves in order to make others happy, so they choose this kind of' understanding' and don't want to bother others to do anything.
Such children will give people around them a feeling of being too independent, as if they can never get close to them, and in the process of communication, people will feel disrespected and' arranged' by them without authorization.
Most of the reasons that lead children to have such bad habits are the mistakes of parents' education. Especially when children are young, parents may often speak ill of their children and make them feel that anything they do may offend their parents, so they choose this habit of' explaining to others' in their lives.
As children grow up, they will take the habit of actively explaining to their parents when communicating with them to others. At first, others will think that the child is considerate, will not disturb others casually, and will not cause a burden to others.
But after a long time, people will think that the child never talks to people, and even think that they are fake.
Parents should be patient in the process of educating their children. When children are young, they have no rules, don't know rules, and it is normal to speak and do things rashly. In the process of educating children to learn rules and know etiquette, parents should always observe their children's expressions and actions, so that children can keep a positive attitude to learn etiquette.