In a word, I just don't have time. I'm busy taking care of my children's food and drink every day, so how can I add value to myself? But is this really the case?
After a whole day, these mothers didn't take time to watch mobile phones to brush videos or brush TV dramas while their children were sleeping? In fact, most people have no time, just wasting time.
I have experienced it before, and I know very well that when I become a mother, I don't have much time to myself, but there are still some time fragments. If you really want to use these days to manage and improve yourself, it is enough to make you a better self. The key depends on whether you are willing or not, and whether you can be hard on yourself.
I still remember that Sun Li said on the social platform that her agent had just given birth to a baby in the early morning, and the next morning she sent a script to tell her the workflow. Even Sun Li, who had given birth to two children, admired her. A person who can be so cruel to himself can become the one who will not be eliminated by society.
I think many mothers who have just given birth will be troubled by all kinds of sensitive little emotions, out-of-shape bodies and loose skin. When they see some hot moms who can work with their left hand and take care of their babies with their right hand on the Internet, they will have all kinds of envy and hatred.
How can postpartum mothers manage their figure and appearance and improve their ability at the same time? First of all, we must make clear the following questions in order to make a better plan according to our actual situation.
A mother who has just given birth to a baby doesn't even have basic sleeping time, let alone dressing up. This is what we often hear from postpartum mothers.
However, every family will have different situations. Some mothers will ask Yue Yue to help at home or go to the confinement center after giving birth. In fact, mothers can still free their hands during this time. Besides breastfeeding, the rest of the time can be used for a good rest. It is good to take care of their health during confinement.
After the second month, although the father of the child will go to work, many people will still have their mother-in-law or grandmother at home, or a nanny to help take care of the child. Mothers don't have to take care of their children alone for 24 hours. Of course, if they are full-time mothers and have no help from others, that is another matter.
Mothers who are usually helpful still feel that they have no time. Most of them mean that they don't have a lot of private time. They can usually spare an hour for exercise and reading. Now they can only be interrupted by the crying of children. Once interrupted, it is difficult to persist.
In addition, my mother was busy with the children's affairs and had to deal with the housework at home, so time slipped away unconsciously.
Children have their own routine at different ages. What parents have to do is to find his rules and then learn to use the gap to "earn" time.
During 0-3 months, children sleep every day except for drinking milk. Parents don't need much energy and time if they interact. Parents can leave housework or bottle washing to their husbands or family members, or buy a disinfection cabinet to save themselves time. Then when the child is sleeping, he can quickly use this time to do what he wants to do.
When children are older, they may need to spend more time and energy on complementary food and interaction, so mothers can also use the current distribution platform to buy meals that children and their families want online in advance and send them directly to their homes, thus saving a lot of time to go out to buy food.
Or you can ask your family to take your children out for a walk in the sun every day and set aside 1 hour for yourself. Please ask your mother not to waste the time earned by brushing her mobile phone, and then complain that she has no time later. Since someone has tools to save her time, she should make good use of them. She can do exercise at home and put on a mask to make her figure and appearance compact. She can also read books and surf the Internet.
In short, we should know how to cherish the time we earned and spend all our time on important things.
1, set small goals for yourself
First, find out the rules of children's work and rest, find out the time point of fragmentation, and make a small plan for yourself every day, such as learning a foreign language for 30 minutes every day, or reading books in spare time. Now whether you want to learn physical books, e-books or listen to books, you will find various ways and methods in the market. The key is that if you set this goal, you must have a heart to accomplish it, otherwise the time you earn back will only be wasted.
2. Time fragmentation
When you set a goal, you should divide your daily goal into several small pieces. For example, I set myself the goal of finishing the first draft of an article today, so when the children go out, I will first make the framework and outline of the article and wait for the next period of time, that is, when the children take their lunch break. Now he can sleep 1.5 to two hours, so I forced myself to finish the first draft within this time. When I take a shower and sleep, I will use the remaining time to check the article to see if there are any typos and problems in the structure of the article, so that at the end of the day, I will use these fragments to do what I want.
Of course, you can set a goal one day in advance according to different personal circumstances, and then grab every fragment to complete the goal. At night, when you have finished the task you gave yourself, you will fall asleep with special satisfaction, and you can accompany your children and do what you want at the end of the day. Why not?
3. grow up with children.
Some mothers, including myself, once had the idea that children would delay their progress. In fact, I later felt that there was something wrong with my mentality. My mother wants to make progress, which is understandable, but progress can be achieved through children. Don't take children as a burden, take children as your motivation.
Like me, I knew nothing about the baby before it was born. After the baby is born, I will take the initiative to learn more scientific parenting methods in order to make the child healthier. These things will not be taught to you by hand, and what is suitable for others may not be suitable for your children. So I can only search for all kinds of information myself and sum up experience through practice.
When children grow up slowly, you may not only pay attention to what you feed, but also pay more attention to some children's education and enlightenment, so you need to do a lot of homework to find toys, picture books and enlightenment methods suitable for children. This process is actually a process of growing up with children.
And have you found that when you go through this, you will have a lot of topics with other people when you go out. I used to be an introverted person, and I wouldn't take the initiative to chat up people. Now as long as you talk about children with others, you will talk endlessly.
From the process of chatting, you can learn a lot of nutritious knowledge from others, meet many friends and know a lot of first-hand information, such as the comparison of different kindergartens and early education centers near your home, and chat with parents of older children, and you can also know what children need to pay attention to in their next education.
In fact, it is also a kind of growth to let children and themselves take fewer detours. After all, other people's experience can save you a lot of time and money.
In addition, when playing games, exercising and even going to some interest classes with children, parents can also give full play to their specialties. Some mothers are already good at some musical instruments and can enlighten their children in music. Some mothers used to play badminton and table tennis, so that they could exercise with their children. These are unforgettable parent-child times. Remember, children grow up only once, and once they miss it, they will never come back, so don't think that children are you.
Step 4 record your small achievements
If mom completes the small goal she set today in her spare time, she can put a big tick on the task list. These ticks seem to be just a stroke, but they are evidence of your progress every day. After a long time, you will find that you can read more than 20 books a year, you will find that your weight has unconsciously returned to the number before giving birth, and you will find that your spoken English and listening comprehension have improved a lot.
If you don't record these achievements, you won't find that you have become so excellent.
Maybe none of the hot moms on the internet cheated. We can take them as the objects of our study and force ourselves when we are still young. Don't use children as an excuse to be lazy and give up studying. When children grow up, when they see their parents, they will become the objects of imitation and learning. No one wants their child to be an unprofessional person.
So from now on, you should set yourself a tough goal and achieve it. Maybe the next person who is hot, looks good and takes care of the baby is you.