Because modern people have great work pressure and survival pressure, most parents will ask others to help take care of their children for various reasons after their children are born. In China's traditional concept, parents are undoubtedly the best candidates for raising grandchildren. Indeed, many grandparents joined the army with their children.

However, more and more young parents choose to take care of their children by themselves, or ask other professional nannies to take care of them instead of themselves. Why?

Potential security risks

Some old people are not young, and it is inevitable that their legs and feet are not flexible. At this time, if they take care of their children, they are likely to be accidentally injured because they can't keep up. Therefore, for safety reasons, some young parents will disagree with their parents to help them take care of their children when they are not young.

Do not attach importance to early education

For modern parents, early education is very important for children's early intellectual development. Young parents who take care of their children will encourage them to do it themselves. However, the elderly take care of their children themselves, because they love them, so they are unwilling to let them do it, which makes them lose many opportunities to exercise by themselves. Old people will only take care of their children in their own way, and will not accept some scientific early education methods, which will make children lose the opportunity of early education in vain.

Polarization of discipline style

In the process of raising children, old people tend to be polarized, that is to say, if they are not very loose, they are in a state of free-range, and they are very fond of children. Either it is very strict and should be controlled in all aspects. All kinds of requirements are put forward for children, while parents accept scientific parenting attitude and think that they should relax in raising children.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense

After having children, there may be different ideas and attitudes in educating children, and the direct consequence is the intensification of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Conclusion: It is precisely for this reason that most young parents still don't want the elderly to help them take care of their children when conditions permit. Of course, the elderly are also happy to be at leisure. After all, it is a painful thing to take care of children when they are old.