Family is an extremely important living space and cultural environment for students, and students' psychology, words and deeds are closely related to the family atmosphere. Family education and school education are the two most important factors that affect students' growth. It is necessary to integrate family education and school education resources to form an educational synergy for students' healthy and harmonious development. The new educational concept advocates the all-round, regular, two-way and partnership cooperation between home and school, forms an integrated educational pattern of family, school and community, resists negative influences from many aspects, and truly exerts the influence of family education.
The importance of family education
Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, once said: In the process of human education, many forces are involved, including family, teachers, classmates, friends and various media. They all play a role in the process of education, and many of them cancel each other out. In today's highly developed network information, Su's reminder is particularly worthy of our educators' attention. Nowadays, all kinds of external information, especially network information, have more and more influence on teenagers, while family and school have less and less influence on their growth. In view of this situation, schools and families should strengthen contact and make joint efforts to strengthen the guidance for the growth of teenagers and weaken the influence of bad information on teenagers.
Schools, teachers and families should be aware of the importance of family education, and must be soberly aware that it is difficult to educate people well without good family education. Family Education, edited by Chinese scholar Zheng Qilong, points out: "Family education is the cultivation and education of parents for their children, and it is an integral part or branch of the whole education." Emphasize the indispensable position and role of family education in the process of cultivating people. In the 1970s, the famous British "Manchester Survey Report" pointed out: "The main reason for educational achievements lies in the family environment, and family factors are almost twice as important as the combination of community and school." 1983 the American wall street journal even suggested: "the reform of education should start from the family." This shows the importance of family education.
China has always attached great importance to family education, and many books on family education have been produced in history. Yan Zhitui, a scholar in the Northern and Southern Dynasties, had the family instructions of Yan, Yuan Cai had the family instructions of Yuan in the Song Dynasty, and Sima Guang had the family instructions of Wen Gong. By the Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan's letters had become works that many families were scrambling to learn. However, with the social division of labor becoming more and more detailed, women have obtained the right to social work, etc., the problem of insufficient time and methods in family education is prominent, which is more serious in the market economy society where employment competition is extremely fierce. Many people delay their children's education because of their work. Under this historical condition, it is of great significance for schools and teachers to publicize the scientific concept of family education to parents. As Locke, a British educator, said: Family education is not only a basic education, but also a leading education, which has a profound impact on children's bone marrow, and no school education or social education can replace it. Therefore, it is very important to guide parents to attach importance to family education and take full responsibility, instead of pushing the responsibility of children's education to schools. This is an important task and mission of our teachers in family education guidance.
The present situation of family education guidance
In the past, teachers' guidance on family education was basically parent-teacher conferences. Then how is our parent-teacher conference held? First of all, let's take a look at the performance of some head teachers who preside over parent-teacher conferences. When they introduce the whole class to their parents, they downplay the good tendencies, seldom talk or even avoid talking about them; Repeated emphasis on bad signs, boasting and even exaggerating seems to be the only way to attract parents' attention and make them "have a sense of urgency". When exchanging opinions with parents, some class teachers say nothing about the students' strengths, their efforts and their progress. It seems that only in this way can parents attach importance to them and make them "vigilant and not relaxed". And some class teachers blame the parents of underachievers too much, even in front of many parents. No wonder some parents always think that the head teacher's "inviting parents" must be the child's fault.
Then let's take a look at the performance of some parents attending the parent-teacher conference. Some parents seem to attend parent-teacher conferences just to understand their children's shortcomings. When exchanging opinions with the class teacher, if the class teacher talks more about his children's advantages and discusses his own advantages in detail, I feel that the teacher is not strict enough about his children. Even when some parents go home to convey the teacher's opinions to their children, they only talk about their children's shortcomings and don't mention the teacher's praise for their progress. It seems that only in this way can children not be complacent and constantly pursue progress. No wonder some class teachers regard "asking parents" as a magic weapon to punish students.
What about the results of this kind of parent-teacher conference? First, the children who are students are scolded lightly and beaten again after the meeting, and then the students' prejudice against the parent-teacher meeting: the parent-teacher meeting is a "complaint meeting", and there is a snowstorm at home after the parent-teacher meeting, and then the students gradually become afraid, disgusted and even disgusted with all the parent-teacher meetings. Even any communication between teachers and parents, most students will hinder and obstruct this, so that the correct and scientific coordinated education of students by both families and schools will be greatly affected.
Over the years, home visits have been the main effective means for us to contact our parents and give family education guidance. Home visit has always been a task that cannot be ignored in school education. Many schools also list home visits as an indispensable duty of teachers and make quantitative provisions. Home visits make teachers and parents have a close relationship and often exchange information, which plays a great role in educating students. However, with the popularity of telephone, mobile phone and email and other reasons, the form of home visits has quietly changed. According to the survey data, the current teaching