Children go to school, help carry schoolbags and remember homework; The children do their homework, and mom and dad accompany them to stare; What tasks did the teacher assign? Often, children have not thought about what to do, and parents are rushing to help them finish it. Not to mention staring at the children eating, dressing, bathing and going to the toilet every day.
In this way, the children who are "taken care of" have almost only two things left in their lives: attending classes and attending interest classes. They can neither develop the ability of independent study nor live independently, so their parents have to take care of, serve and be tired all the time.
Only by cultivating children's autonomy from an early age, including independent living, independent learning, independent reading and independent emotions, can parents really relax. This is not to be lazy, but to let the child really grow into an independent individual and become a better self.
Information overload, lack of views
Besides the above reasons, China's parents are tired of raising children. There is another reason that is not so obvious, but it certainly exists, because they are exposed to too much information, but lack opinions on how to raise children.
Seeing that children need prenatal education here, they quickly learn to do prenatal education; Seeing that children need early education there, they quickly take their children to various early education classes; Seeing that the newborn needs swimming exercise here, I took the baby to the infant swimming pool; I saw that the child wanted to make up this and that, so I quickly went to buy it for the child.
A lot of time and energy are spent collecting as much information as possible, and then running around with this information.
Parenting needs a certain degree of "separation"-we don't really need so much information, what's more important is to form our own "opinions" through independent reading and learning-I know what kind of methods are good, I know what I should do, and I know which ones should be adhered to and which should be debugged.
In this way, we don't need to be impacted and overwhelmed by overloaded information, and we can adopt a simple, effective and unchanging way in parenting life. The whole process will be much simpler and easier.
Dad is too involved.
There is a very sharp saying called "Widowed Parenting", which is about the situation that the father does not participate in parenting and is absent from the child's growth.
Dad doesn't take part in taking care of the children. Taking care of the children is the mother's business. I'm afraid this is the normal state of many families in China, and it is also an important reason why quite a few mothers feel tired with their children.
Parents take care of their children together, not only sharing the specific work in parenting life, but also discussing various issues about the size of their children together, reaching a consensus and then putting them into action together.
The advantage of this way is that the workload can be reduced by sharing, and both children and parents can establish close relationships. Of course, more importantly, the company of parents can make children's psychology and personality develop more healthily.
Irrational consumption leads to excessive economic pressure.
The last and most inevitable reason for raising children is economic pressure. Some parents unilaterally think that they should try their best to give their children the best, and their consumption is not rational enough, resulting in excessive economic pressure.
There is such a case: an ordinary working father bought a skirt for his three-or four-year-old daughter and spent it on 700 yuan. The skirt of 700 yuan is of course of good quality and design, and it may be really beautiful for children to wear.
However, mom and dad don't consider their endurance. How long can they spend money like this? How can they not feel great pressure?
As the saying goes, "ten acres of land per son". It is not difficult to raise a child from an already born baby, but hard work does not mean stress and fatigue. We have seen parents who are tired with their children, and we have seen many parents who feel relaxed and happy with their children.
Are you tired of raising children? It still depends on how mom and dad choose. If mom and dad can get rid of those factors that make parenting life exhausting, I believe that parenting will become a quite pleasant, beautiful and relaxed life journey.