First, the child is given to her mother-in-law or her own mother. It is most common for children to take care of grandparents. Unless she is a full-time mother, her mother will go back to work after six months of maternity leave. Give it to someone you trust at this time, and you will be relieved!
Second, ask the nanny to help you take care of the children. Nannies need experienced recommendations, preferably from acquaintances, which are more reliable.
Third, you go to work and let your husband be a nanny to take care of the children. However, most fathers definitely don't agree, and there is a prerequisite for this, that is, you can earn more money than your husband when you go out to work.
But we are very opposed to this practice of giving birth to children without care. Mother had better take care of the children by herself.
My friend worked in Xiamen and returned to his post three months after giving birth. The child stayed at home with his grandmother, and she and her husband went back to see their son on weekends. She said she liked it very much. From Monday to Friday, she can still do what she wants after work, such as shopping and yoga, and go back to cultivate feelings with her son at weekends. She has her own free time and space and is no stranger to children. She said it was good.
This year, she suddenly said that if she had a second child, she would resign and go home to take care of the children. I don't know what changed her. But her son is very different from mine. My son will call defecation when he is one year old, but he will not be able to talk when he is over two years old.
At present, most mothers are not low in education, and many mothers are learning parenting knowledge while taking care of their babies. Give children early education enlightenment, accompany children to read books, play games with children, etc. Others are definitely not as good as mom.
Even after maternity leave, go home from work every day and spend a fixed time with your children. Reading, playing games and doing manual work are all good. The point is that you have children! Let your child feel your love for him.
What children need most is not toys or snacks, but the love of our parents.