In today's society, which advocates giving children more company, more and more women choose to leave their jobs temporarily to accompany their children and become full-time mothers.

Dahua and Xiaoguo are two of them, and the difference between the two children is no more than a few days. Usually, they will make an appointment to go downstairs for a walk.

? In order to attract her mother's attention, she became "Xiong Haizi".

Dahua is a typical TV fan. The Queen of the Palace, Nirvana in Fire and The Untamed have been chased many times, and all kinds of fantasy romance novels are her favorites.

Everyone who knows her knows that her family Yuanyuan has been "independent" since she was a child, not for anything else, because her mother only cares about her mobile phone and really doesn't care about her.

Whenever this time, Yuanyuan will turn the house upside down by herself. The more she refuses to do, the more she wants to do it to attract her mother's attention.

But I can't get enough of the big flower quilt on my mobile phone. It's round and I can't help but get a few slaps.

Over time, Yuan Yuan became a stubborn "Xiong Haizi", while Dahua watched Yuan Yuan for 24 hours, staying out of trouble and becoming unusually grumpy.

? Growing up with my mother

Xiaoguojia is a little boy, and it goes without saying that she is naughty, but it can be seen from Xiaoguojia's complacent expression that she enjoys every moment with her children.

Xiaoguo not only works part-time at home with a monthly income of several thousand yuan, but also is a group owner with more than 400 early education groups, sharing his learning experience with you every day.

Everyone admires Xiao Guo. He not only has a successful career, but also takes time to study, share and communicate with his children.

Small fruit and big flower have one thing in common, that is, they don't have the help of old people or nannies; And there are many different places, which can be seen from the state of the two.

Small fruits are enjoying every day, while big flowers are suffering.

Although Xiaoguo's children are naughty, they can be as quiet as virgins. Although she is only over two years old, she is very compassionate and responsible. Not only will I feel bad about my mother's hand injury, but I can also do my own things, such as packing toys, sorting bookshelves and folding clothes.

They are also two stay-at-home mothers who accompany their babies 24 hours a day. Why is the gap so big?

In fact, the problem lies in the word "accompany". Whether you are a simple "companion" or a high-quality "companion" with your heart can be very different.

Many parents say "I go home from work every day to take care of the children", but these hours are not as good as others' dozens of minutes.

If you can't achieve "high quality", you can't call it companionship. At best, you can only call it companionship.

▼ What kind of companionship can be called high-quality companionship?

I think judging whether it is high-quality companionship mainly depends on the state of parents and children getting along.

If the participants are happy, happy and beautiful, then this is a quality company.

And it turns out that children who can get high-quality companionship benefit a lot throughout their lives.

Parents should not think that their children will be all right. If they can't achieve "high quality", then this part of time is equivalent to a waste!

1) Make children more confident, happy, smart and secure.

Such a child's inner security mechanism is complete, and he will not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, nor will he make naughty actions to attract the attention of adults.

2) Parents have more time to themselves.

Parents have more energy to do what they want to do, and they will have more spirit and time.

This is beneficial to both sides, and parents should not feel trouble.

3) Your high-quality companionship is exactly what children really need.

The child is an expert in micro-expression, and your perfunctory and indifferent expression may actually hurt his heart.

Over time, the child will become an unsatisfied and insecure child, demanding more from you, just like Dahua's daughter Yuan Yuan.

Don't be a "quiet face parent"! Your high-quality companionship will make children feel from the heart, and let the satisfied children face the world with more confidence, just like Sophia Kao of Xiao Guo's family.

Many people know that high-quality companionship is better for children, but for various reasons, they use various reasons and excuses to excuse themselves.

Some people will say that high-quality companionship is easier said than done. Who can play with children every day and do nothing? Who has no housework to do? Who can do a day without looking at the phone?

In fact, these people have misunderstandings about "high-quality companionship".

High-quality companionship is not to let parents do nothing for 24 hours, but to accompany their children everywhere.

As I said above, it is enough to spare 1-2 hours a day for high-quality companionship, which can completely meet the inner needs of children.

This 1-2 hour can be after work, before going to bed, morning or afternoon. As long as you can spare the time, this company can start.

1) The combination of dynamic and static enriches the company.

Some adults are really inferior to children in physical strength. It is not a problem for you to let a child run and jump for an hour, but an adult may give up after running and jumping for 20 minutes.

First of all, it must be clear that crazy play with children is indeed a kind of high-quality companionship, but high-quality companionship is not limited to crazy play.

Reading picture books together, making handicrafts and wrapping jiaozi all belong to the category of high-quality companionship. Even if you are doing housework, children playing happily around you is also a kind of high-quality companionship.

Parents are just children's living environment, not life orientation. In the company, adults are relaxed and happy when they are doing what they like, and children will be more relaxed and happy after they perceive their parents' status.

This is because parents themselves are a kind of demonstration, and companionship in this environment is also a kind of high-quality companionship.

? My personal experience:

I put this theory into practice by mistake. Before I started this kind of education, I had to do some housework when my children were awake to play in order to write a manuscript after sleep. For example, washing clothes, picking vegetables, wrapping jiaozi, and sometimes children will join in.

Again, because I love singing, I will sing while doing housework. Children enjoy it, but also follow the wind and wipe it with a rag, humming a few words in their mouths.

At this time, my children and I are happy, relaxed and at ease. Isn't this a kind of high-quality companionship?

In addition to crazy play, you can also choose to read picture books, draw some pictures, make some handicrafts, take a nap, or do some housework and change a different way of companionship.

2) Planning time and subdividing time periods.

In addition, you can also plan your time with your children reasonably, because for children aged 3 or 5, the time to concentrate is only about 5 minutes.

In this case, they will soon get tired of the same thing, which requires us to plan our time with our children reasonably.

For example, play games for 20 minutes, read picture books 10 minutes, sing songs 10 minutes, play cars 10 minutes, and then do outdoor activities for 30 minutes.

In this way, the high-quality companionship of 1-2 hours is subdivided into several time periods, which can not only keep children's interest, but also make adults feel bored.

3) Stick to it and form a habit.

On a whim, companionship is not enough. The important thing is persistence. Parents should make companionship a habit.

According to the child's schedule, you can arrange small tasks to accompany your child at a fixed time. For example, crazy fun and playing games can be done after meals 1 hour; Reading picture books can be put before going to bed.

In addition, give children more company when they are tired, and encourage them to play by themselves when they are full of food and sleep.

Let the daily small tasks persist and become a habit over time. Children will feel more secure and parents will become calmer and more willing to accompany them.

Do the above three points, and you will find that it is not difficult to have high-quality company.

We don't advocate that the role of parents is on call 24 hours a day. In addition to 1-2 hours of company, children also need some time alone. It is also necessary to learn to be alone.

The rest of the time, you can relax by "being lazy", for example, letting yourself go when children eat fruit, which is no problem.

Turning "companionship" into high-quality "companionship" will make you and your children gain more.

Keywords: high-quality companionship, early education, parents' classroom, misunderstanding, specific implementation steps

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