Being a full-time mother, what should I do without my own job? Women should be financially independent.
"Being a full-time mother will be out of touch with society!"
"Being a full-time mother is not afraid of not being able to speak with her husband?"
"I will never be a full-time mother. It's terrible. "
"Many stay-at-home mothers in TV dramas are divorced."
Stay-at-home mom, confused, depressed, who knows!
As a stay-at-home mother, are you scared by such poisonous chicken soup every day, and sometimes you wonder if your choice is right.
Especially in recent years, TV dramas have been hyped up. Luo Zijun in the first half of his life and his second peace are all because of love, family and a man's original words: "I support you". They are willing to make sacrifices and become full-time mothers, but they are abandoned by their husbands and divorced. After watching so many TV series, most people actually have a conventional idea that being a stay-at-home mother is easy to divorce. Even my parents, who often watch such TV series, always worry and say to me, "Why don't you go out to work?" Didn't you watch the TV series? Are full-time mothers divorced? " "
However, I want to say, can marriage be stable without being a full-time mother? Look at Xu 10,000 and Zhang Lu in Lost Russia. Neither Zhang He is a mad man. They criticize the times in their careers. Finally, they ended in divorce. The maintenance of marriage has a lot to do with whether you are a stay-at-home mother or not.
Let's get back to the point first. Why do we choose to be full-time mothers?
We choose to be full-time mothers for several reasons:
First of all, children are still young and have no parents to help them. In this case, we may be anxious because of economic pressure.
Second, we attach importance to children's education, thinking that children should be their own masters, and there are too many disadvantages in intergenerational education.
The third is to weigh the pros and cons, admit that family comes first, with husband's support and economic permission.
Whatever the reason, before we make a choice, we must make a decision after careful consideration or discussion with our families.
Being a stay-at-home mother should have no right to speak. Do you see people's faces?
Many people think that the economic foundation determines the superstructure. Only when the economy is independent can you have a position and a voice in the family.
Some stay-at-home mothers complain that it is really difficult to take care of their children at home without a job, and they have to ask their husbands for money. It depends on the face of their mother-in-law But you didn't see that although there is a job, the salary is not high, it still depends on the face.
So in the final analysis, isn't it a question of concept and ideological consciousness? What does it have to do with whether you work or not?
Since two people form a family and each contributes to the family, why does the money you earn only belong to yourself? At this rate, I'm the nanny you can't afford.
I'm a nanny you can't afford!
Since we have formed a family, whether we work together or cooperate with each other, we are all contributing to this small family. Shouldn't we understand each other and recognize each other's efforts?
If in a marriage, the people at your bedside don't respect yourself, don't understand yourself and think differently, such a marriage is not much better even if you have a job.
Being a full-time mother is not the same as being divorced from society.
Think about what era it is now. The Internet is so developed and the transportation is so convenient that everyone can get all kinds of information equally and see all the people and things in the world. Full-time mothers in this era can be described as trying their best to educate their children, get through the second pulse of Ren Du, make all kinds of complementary foods, understand all kinds of pedagogy, psychology and medical knowledge, play early education without repeating, and some outstanding people are self-taught in programming, ball games, swimming and rock climbing. Some of them have embarked on the road of self-employment from the media through full-time mothers. Which one is not the main theme of the times?
Dear stay-at-home mom, take care of the children at home!
Therefore, it is not always necessary to exaggerate the tension of stay-at-home mothers. Whether the marriage is harmonious or not, whether one's ability is high or low, whether he is happy or sad, the label of stay-at-home mother really shouldn't carry this pot.
Since I have chosen to be a full-time mother, I have to go through thick and thin, no matter how much rain and coldness. We should all love our families, our children and accompany them with our heart. Of course, we must not forget to constantly improve ourselves and keep pace with the times.