First of all, consider whether the baby should go to kindergarten from three points.
1, child development and family care.
? 2-year-old baby is a critical period of self-construction. At birth, the baby thinks that he and his mother are one. 1.5 years old, I began to realize that I and my mother are different individuals, and my self-construction will not be fully formed until I am 3 years old. Therefore, at the age of 2, especially children who have just entered the rebellious period, their emotions are still not independent. They are still attached to their mother and unwilling to share with their children. Their emotional stability is not high and their social skills are not mature enough.
? So if someone at home can take care of the baby, we suggest that you don't have to take care of the class. Some mothers will say, at the age of two, should he go to a nursery school and learn how to get along with others? Although I still play by myself, I need to get in touch with the outside world. Otherwise, how can they get along with their friends? Yes, it is, but at this stage, they just feel the atmosphere of being with their peers, observe and imitate some behaviors of other children, and learn to cooperate and socialize under the guidance of trusted people. This kind of demand may not be met in class.
? On weekdays, if children have a peer environment and a high-quality social environment such as an early education center, if they are constantly helped by the most trusted and intimate peers at the age of 3, it will actually be more conducive to their growth and development. Just like a big tree, the stronger the foundation, the better it will grow.
2. How is the child's sense of security established? What are the characteristics of the child?
? Going to the nursery means that the child has taken a step towards independence. They need to face the new environment and meet new people by themselves. So you must have a full sense of security and be able to communicate with teachers.
? If the parent-child attachment relationship between us and our children is not fully established before the age of two, and the children are unable to follow instructions and express their basic needs, they will feel pressure (pressure cannot bring the sense of autonomy and competence that children need to grow up).
? If the child is a demanding baby, especially sensitive and clingy, and the anxiety of separation is particularly strong, as long as we leave a little, he will be emotional, so parents should not send them to work and increase their pressure. Because the best way and premise to make children independent is to give them a sense of security and give them time and space to exercise their independence, from 1-2 hours to half a day before taking them out for the night.
3. Are children and parents ready?
? Many parents will say that children want to play with other children, and their self-care ability is ok. Nursing classes just let them exercise and grow. In fact, the difference between the family environment and the nursery environment is very big. The family environment is one of high concern and low competition, and the conservation environment has gradually entered an environment of high competition and low concern. In this case, the biggest challenge for children is psychological maturity. There is a difference between ability under pressure and ability under no pressure.
? Therefore, for children, it is suggested to gradually separate, and psychological independence is the real independence (which is more significant than sending children to kindergarten for their lifelong development)
Parents have the same separation anxiety as their children, and their separation anxiety will affect their children's separation anxiety. Do parents feel that they are ready, and they are completely assured that their children can face the new environment independently and need psychological preparation and construction.
? Finally, from the perspective of education, life is long, so don't worry too much. Healthy attachment will bring positive separation, and it is our ultimate goal to let children around 3 years old say goodbye to you confidently and independently.
At the age of 3, I look up and save my life for my children. 0-3 years old deserves high quality. Take your time!