In fact, not only babies, but also adults get a sense of security through the five senses, and being hugged satisfies our tactile nerves through contact, which is why if we are hugged by a loved one, that moment must be extremely satisfied and stable, and we feel that the world is happy and safe.

Adults are still so, let alone babies who are full of unknowns about everything?

Before the baby was born, how comfortable the baby was in his mother's stomach, surrounded by warm amniotic fluid, and he could hear his mother's heartbeat at any time and stay in his mother's arms to spoil himself. But after leaving my mother's body, everything changed, and my skin was exposed to cold air. My mother's heartbeat, which had been in my ear, suddenly disappeared, and the world became quiet and complicated.

Babies feel the world through their five senses, but their five senses are far less developed than those of adults. The fear of the unknown makes people feel insecure, just like there are no ghosts in the world. Just because people are "unknown", people are afraid of ghosts, and so are babies. But babies don't know more things than adults, and the inadaptability after coming out of the mother naturally makes babies need more sense of security.

Before the age of one, babies are developing at a high speed, and in different months, their five senses also progress to different stages.

Vision: Babies born a few days ago can only see things beyond 18 cm to 38 cm, with a visual field of only 45 degrees; Until about three months, you can see things 3 to 4 meters away and start to adjust the focal length;

Taste: in fact, before the birth of the fetus, the taste has been fully developed; /kloc-babies under 0/month can distinguish different flavors such as fragrance, sweetness, lemon juice and quinine. When the sweet liquid is put into the baby's mouth, they show a relaxed and happy expression and suck with satisfaction, but they show a refusal reaction to the salty, sour or bitter liquid, such as wrinkled nose, pouting and irregular breathing. Babies of 4-5 months are already very sensitive to small changes in food. From 6 months to 1 year, the baby's taste development is the most sensitive at this stage.

Hearing: when the fetus is still in the mother's stomach, the fetus's hearing has already developed initially, and it can respond to the sounds outside the mother's stomach to varying degrees. A week after birth, the baby's hearing began to form gradually, and he was very sensitive to the surrounding sounds. When an adult speaks, the baby will unconsciously look for the source of the sound.

Smell: The fetus' nose begins to develop as early as the second month of pregnancy, and by the seventh month, his nostrils can communicate with the outside world. Fetal sense of smell can come in handy at birth. Newborns can smell their mothers when they are nursing, and they can tell them as soon as they get close to their mothers in the future, so newborns don't have to open their eyes when they identify their mothers, and they can tell them sensitively only by smell.

Touch: Touch is the earliest and most basic feeling of human body, and it is also the most widely distributed and complex sensory system of human body. Babies need constant tactile stimulation from birth. Through the hug and touch of mom and dad, the baby can be satisfied and comforted, and feel love and security.

The reason why babies like to hug is because they are surrounded by their mother's warm body and touched gently. So when they put down their baby, they will suddenly feel that their bodies have left the most familiar warm embrace, and they can't get enough security from other places, so they will cry.

Should we fully meet the needs of the baby being held?

As an experienced person, my opinion is that it is necessary to meet the needs of baby's sense of security, but it is not necessary to hold it.

Generally speaking, it is a comfortable and safe environment and scene to meet the baby's needs, which can be divided into two stages: waking and sleeping.

Sober stage.

Pay attention to high-quality companionship and establish a deeper emotional bond with your baby.

First of all, observe and understand the baby's personal schedule and "read" the baby's needs.

Parents can sum up the needs at different times by observing the signals that the baby is hungry, tired and sleepy, and don't let the baby feel "Oh, I cried for so long, you don't know what I want to do". When the baby is crying, parents may all come around to make suggestions. Some say the baby is hungry, and some say the baby is pulling. In short, each has his own ideas. In this case, one person might as well "satisfy" the baby according to his own opinion, while the other person records a video beside him. In this way, after many observations, plus "everyone gathers firewood and the flame is high", the baby's work and rest rules can be summarized in about a week.

I also suggest that novice parents can make a "baby work and rest record table", and record every feeding, film changing, sleeping and other work on it, and slowly explore the law.

My two babies are confined in the confinement center, and the medical team in the confinement center works in shifts. There will be a baby's schedule record next to the stroller, which will record the baby's care details in detail, including time, matters, handlers, etc., so that parents can see the baby's schedule at a glance. Mothers who are confined at home can also refer to the same practice.

Some people say that small-month-old babies are not "feeding on demand"? This record is also valid even if it is supplied on demand. Feeding on demand is because the baby's organs are not yet mature and the "biological clock" in the body has not yet established a complete system. However, despite this, babies are also human beings, and they will grow up slowly in development and tend to work and rest regularly. Therefore, it is very useful for nurses to record the baby's feeding and rest.

Appropriate game companionship.

Although the baby has slept for a long time, it will still wake up. At this time, parents can create a happy family atmosphere for them through games, which will not only help their mental health growth, but also help their bodies to get better stimulation and development.

Recommend the following early education games, suitable for small-month-old babies.

Look up at your stomach (big sports development)

Do tactile exercises (big sports development and tactile stimulation)

Look at black and white cards (visual stimulation)

Listen to the bell and let the baby chase the sound (auditory stimulation)

Touch the baby's little hand with different materials (tactile stimulation)