So, how to understand the balance of early education speed? What is the real meaning of slowly raising children?
If we put aside commercial purposes, in fact, children have a "starting line." This "starting line" is the innate self-growth energy of every child, that is, the development law of children in the sensitive period of "gold does not change" at the beginning of life. In other words, every child is a "genius", with natural learning ability and potential and strong plasticity! Compared with the long road of life like "marathon", the appearance of children's "sensitive period" will not slow down parents; When it does not appear, parents should not be allowed to "pull out the seedlings and encourage them." The development law of sensitive children aged 0-6 makes people truly realize the balance between "fast" and "slow" in life development, which embodies the beauty of "education is the art of balance", which also lays a good foundation for raising children slowly in the future.
If you know the law of children's life development, it will help you understand the "fast" and "slow" of education, and parents will not go to extremes in parenting.
The sensitive period of children refers to the period when children's mastery of a certain skill and cognitive ability develops fastest and is most easily affected. As soon as the sensitive period appears, children will repeat their behavior and enjoy it. If there is a sensitive period of walking, even if the child falls, he will stand up and continue to walk, and he will take the initiative to learn to walk when he wakes up.
Children in the sensitive period are full of joy and are full of curiosity and inquiry about this skill and cognitive ability they love. He loves each other and accumulates experience repeatedly in his own activities until he acquires this ability. Parents need to wait patiently for their children's sensitive period. Understanding the sensitive period helps us to understand the child's temper tantrums and willfulness ..... Once the reason is found, it will be easier for us to understand the child, and the more we can "live in peace" with the child.
In the most important period of intellectual development of 0-6 years old, children mainly have four sensitive periods, namely four "golden periods". Including:
1) Order sensitive period (0-4 years old): Giving children an orderly life and a sense of security can stabilize their emotions and establish good living rules.
2) Action sensitive period (0-6 years old): For example, children's learning is carried out and acquired by hands. The hand is connected with the brain, and the activity of the hand is supported by the brain.
3) Language sensitive period (0-6 years old): For example, I love listening to my parents' voices until I understand their voices, then react with them, and finally have language expression.
4) Sensory sensitive period: Children are particularly sensitive to senses, including sound, image, taste, hearing, smell and touch.
These four sensitive periods appear in different order. Some children first appear in the sensitive period of action, and some children have a particularly strong sense of sensitivity. Every sensitive period will have an initial period, a peak period and a downhill period. There will be explosions during the peak period. If children are given timely and appropriate education during this period, and the environment and conditions conducive to the development of children's ability are provided, it will have a multiplier effect. If the sensitive period is missed, it will be more difficult for children to improve their abilities in all aspects. For example, the sensitive period of sense of order ends at the age of four and a half, which means that it is very difficult to teach children discipline after the age of four, because the opportunity has been missed.
Therefore, the "fast" and "slow" development of children's sensitive period is determined by their own development speed. What parents can do is to cherish the development law of children in the sensitive period of "golden exchange" at the beginning of life, protect and stimulate their potential, including the preset environment, that is, a good training environment of "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude", and stimulate their potential to the greatest extent.
To understand the development law of children in the sensitive period of 0-6 years old, parents should master the rhythm of parenting in this period, rather than blindly "fast" or "slow". However, life is a long run. In order to make children grow up healthily, parents should not only pay attention to the sensitive period of childhood, but also understand the true meaning of "slowly raising children". "Slowly raising children" is all the efforts of parents before children reach adulthood. As the saying goes: quiet and far-reaching! Only when parents let go of impetuousness, calm down and think, and slowly realize the true meaning of educational balance, can children have a healthy life. The following suggestions are for parents to understand the true meaning of "slowly raising children" in the long process of their children's growth before adulthood:
The purpose of education is to train children to become real people;
If children want to have excellent qualities, parents should first become such people and set a good example for their children.
Children must learn to read two books in their life: One is Self and the other is Nature: children should read these two books with heart, not just eyes.
The first book is to read yourself, that is, to understand your interests, ambitions and abilities; Independent thinking, imagination and creativity; Have your own uniqueness and take a good life path.
Children should understand that life is a kind of compassion and joy, which is more important than reading and working. A child who knows how to respect life can truly choose his own life path and know what real life is. Children without compassion, self-love and self-esteem and gratitude may go astray or do harm to society.
The second book is reading nature, that is, children can learn a lot from nature that books can't. Think about it, in fact, the best time of childhood is to go to the suburbs with my parents to see how spiders weave webs to cover insects; See how ants line up to whisper; Look at the stream singing all the way to the stream, how the fish jump happily; Fly a kite; In the silent night, count the little stars in the sky and see how the cowherd and the weaver girl meet. ......
2. Cultivate a good parent-child relationship:
A good relationship is better than many educations. The child's inner world is very rich. Parents should understand their children's inner world and actively influence and educate their children.
In the arena of life, children can only work hard on their own. Parents can't replace their children, let alone be "judges" themselves. It is to give children the power to maintain a good competitive state, that is, the power of "cheerleading", which can help children build self-confidence. Parents should be "cheerleaders" for their children, not only be good at discovering and praising their children, but also guide them to face failure correctly, be their comrades-in-arms in the face of setbacks and help them improve their self-awareness.
Education is divided into three parts: stop, wait, give children a chance to speak, communicate effectively with children, achieve the goal of "not teaching" through "teaching", and finally let children be self-disciplined and independent.
3. Cultivate children's good habits:
Habit determines the fate of children. It is appropriate for families to set the necessary bottom line, what children should abide by and what they can't do. If parents don't pay attention to cultivate their children's good habits, they are undoubtedly ruining their children's bright future. Intellectual education is a good habit of thinking, moral education is a small habit of behavior, and quality education is more reflected in people's small behaviors. Habit is not built in a day.
4. Home is a place full of love;
Some parents live like this every day: brush their teeth, wash their faces and scold their children in the morning; Eat, bathe, change clothes and scold children at night; Attend interest classes with children on weekends and scold them. Is the atmosphere of family life so monotonous and tense every day that people can't breathe?
Please try to change yourself: every day when children come back from school, don't ask, "What did you learn at school today?" Is "any jokes?" ; When a child makes a mistake, try to give up complaining, but help the child find the reason and encourage him to overcome himself; Learn to see the advantages of children, and don't forget to encourage them!
Home is no place to quarrel. Parents' love for their children is not to control and hurt them, but to respect their individuality, listen to their voices, give them space and keep the light of love bright. Discuss various issues with children, listen to each other's opinions, and form a good democratic family atmosphere; When a child is injured in a stormy world, there is also a warm harbor, and he is always welcome to come back. Love is slowly "cultivated", please give your child a loving home!
5. Let children have a healthy body:
Walk slowly. Without a healthy body, how can children have efficient learning quality? How can we face all kinds of pressures in life calmly in the future?
A little advice for every family: set a week of exercise time. For example, on weekends, we ride bicycles to the suburbs to find the wonders of nature, breathe fresh air, and let ourselves and our children calm down and feel the beauty of life.
Finally, I send my best wishes to all parents in the world: please take care of your daily mood, live your own life and love each other. Don't hurt each other's kindness for the sake of raising children. Please remember: it's a flower that has been in bloom for a long time, and it won't open when it is said. Give your child a wait, love him and bloom with him! Love is waiting! Education is the art of balance!