I am a post-80s generation, and I have the most say. I am thirty-one, and my husband is thirty-three. We all say that I am thirty-two years old and have a daughter who has just turned nine. We got pregnant and had children soon after we got married. When I got married, my family built a house and married me. When we got married, we were pregnant and I didn't go to work. My husband and I went to work ten months after giving birth and nursing. During the period from my pregnancy to giving birth to a baby to breastfeeding, my husband didn't travel far, so he worked at home, and the salary was just enough for living expenses. My father-in-law has cerebral thrombosis. Although he recovered, he never worked. My mother-in-law goes to the hospital every three days. The doctor said that she was not ill. Others said that she had a headache, backache and arm pain. Anyway, Chinese medicine and western medicine have been checked in hospitals in our third-tier cities. We only had a better life in the first two years, and paid off the money for getting married and building a house before we started having children. Old people in rural areas don't have much knowledge and don't speak well. Anyway, no matter whether you have time or conditions, just say to have a baby quickly, or we will regret it. He also said that everyone had several children, and he didn't say how my parents-in-law got their living expenses and how to deal with medical expenses. Anyway, it is no exaggeration to say that every day when we don't respond, we will teach my daughter to hurry. It's terrible. The year before last, I said I would take off my ring if I didn't have it. I will rest for half a year before I get pregnant. This worries my in-laws. After taking off the ring for three months, I was urged again. Oh, my God, either hurry my husband or hurry me. You can't imagine what my mother-in-law said My father-in-law was ill because my sister-in-law borrowed usury in our village in the name of my father-in-law. My mother-in-law said that I had no children, and she was very angry. Also ran to my mother's house and said I was sick! Now I am pregnant for more than four months and can't go to work. My husband has to pay the mortgage now, and the whole family has all kinds of expenses. I think I will spend a lot of money when I was born. I told my husband that this baby is another daughter. Still alive? My husband gave me a white look and said, this baby was born after the old man said all the things that made you sad. Whether it is a boy or a girl, it is ok to give birth to this baby. Just know that you and I are in good health, and we can't afford to regenerate! Hehe, it's not a question of having children, but our conditions don't allow it. There are old people in the world and young people in the world, mortgage living expenses and various expenses of Dabao. The old man has been uncomfortable for three days, so we dare not have children. Rich people don't care how many children you have, they can afford to have them. We can't afford it, and we can't afford it. So I dare not give birth.

I am born after 70, but I am determined not to be born.

Three years ago, I gave birth to a second child. I wanted to give birth to a son, and a woman made a good word, but it backfired and gave birth to a son. I have raised it for three years, and I have joys and sorrows. What worries me is that I was not born today.

1, with high cost. From the birth of a second child, massage, medicated bath, nutrition, etc. It starts in four months. Nanny fee, early education fee after half a year old, kindergarten fee after two and a half years old, parent-child class. Public fees are low, class ends early, no one answers, so we have to go to high-priced public places. These are all raised by money, more expensive than the boss.

2, the pressure is high. Since the birth of the second child, the family has lost its balance. Originally, there were two suites at home, so there was little pressure to think about us and the boss. As soon as the second child comes out, especially the boy, he thinks about the sky-high bride price of his wedding in the future. We are all too old to help him. Instead of making him miserable in the future, it is better to fight for him, so I bought one house after another, thinking that it is best to provide him with a guarantee.

3. Lack of energy. Compared with young parents, they are obviously not energetic. The 6-year parent-child class registered in kindergarten has classes every Tuesday. Tired after work, I have no energy to accompany him to class, so I often "skip class".

If the third child is released, if the supporting policies cannot keep up, there will not be many people who want to have children.

I think this policy is good, but not many people really want to have children. First of all, they must work, who will take care of their children. Children nowadays are not like those at that time. Just have a full stomach. However, if you want to go to kindergarten, the cost is still very high. You have a child who is a problem from school to adulthood. Prices are rising very high now. The salary is only a little bit a month, and I earned tens of thousands a year in my last kindergarten. The child has to spend a lot of money since he was a child, and it is a problem that he can't find a job at school. Two children and three children are enough for a family. This may be one of the few people who want to have children.

70 years earlier, 10 years later, it will definitely be born. Now 43, her husband is 50, and she won't give birth. The boss is now 18. If you are born, you will be 70 at the age of 20, which is too big. There is no mine at home, so we can only look at this policy.

I am a standard post-70 s, it is too difficult to raise a child. Now even if the child is older, I won't get any bonus.

It's easy to have children, but it's too difficult to raise them well. From the day of birth, Lazar's eating and drinking must be taken care of by her mother. Accompany the children to do their homework at school, and accompany them to school to apologize to the teacher when they make mistakes at school. Obviously, I am a parent, and I have to be trained by my teacher like a grandson. I finally got through the day. I will have another child and go through it again. Forget it!

When children grow up, they have their own circle of friends and their own lives. I am free at last. I finally have time to have tea and chat with my friends. I don't have to look at the time to pick up the students. You don't have to get up early to prepare breakfast for your children. The most important thing is that I can finally hold my head high and not be scolded by the teacher like my grandson.

In a word, whoever loves lives, I will never be born again. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't even be able to laugh and cry at this child. Shh, keep your voice down. Don't let my child hear you, or he will be unhappy [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet].

In the early morning of 63, the alarm clock rang at 7 o'clock. I went to three rooms to see if all three pairs of children were sleeping at home and cooked breakfast for nine grandchildren. Then I went to two rooms to see if all four old people were still sleeping well and squeezing the subway to work with peace of mind.

To tell the truth, it is too expensive to raise a child in the city now. I have calculated that in a third-tier city like Guilin, it costs 500- 1 10,000 yuan to graduate from college.

Give birth to a ball. I can't afford one. Give birth to three. That killed me.

How heavy is the burden of raising children now? The living and those with children should feel it.

Parents have no complaints about how much kindergartens, primary schools, high schools and universities will cost in the past ten years.

Then there is marriage, house, car, bride price. This parent, especially the child, has grown up and should feel it.

These are the obligations of our parents.

Then the following is related to the child's future life.

You don't have to think about how realistic, cruel and competitive this society is.

Children can grow up, which is the greatest happiness for parents, not to mention how many children in the family are working hard for the boss now.

But working is not the same as working.

As far as we ordinary people are concerned, a child is inferior to the children of rich families. Nothing is better than education. Don't tell me my child is smart and not afraid. Well, even if your children are smart, social resources are occupied by a small number of people. What social resources do you have compared with the rich?

For those born after 70, 80 and 90, my personal opinion is that if you don't want your child to be at the bottom forever, you can continue to ask for it. If you want to change your destiny, you should try your best to train one of your children.

Of course, except those who have money and resources.

I was born in 1984, and now I have two children. No matter how good the three-child policy is, I will never regenerate it! Taking care of children is really tiring and scary.

At present, there is only one idea: children are not quantitative, but qualitative. By raising my two children, I successfully completed my task.

Why do I say that raising children is tiring and scary? If you listen to my family life, you will understand the meaning of this sentence: for more than four years, my husband and wife have been working and taking care of two children alone. Nobody helped us at all. Give us a hand.

My neighbors upstairs, uncles and aunts, have seen our two children many times and said to them, "You two should listen to your mother. It is really not easy for your mother to take care of you. "

Most of the women around me take care of their children by themselves, taking care of their children at home full-time and not going to work.

Almost all the women who work around me have old people at home to help with the baby.

I am the only one who has to go to work, and I have to take care of two children by myself.

People often say to me, "It's not easy to bring up a child. You still have to take two to work. It's really amazing. "

Actually, am I okay?

I was forced out, too

Since I became a mother, I have found that I have unlimited potential. People who used to do nothing and didn't even wash their own clothes can now take two children and set up a kitchen under the main room.

Once, I completely lacked common sense of life, but now I can sew children's clothes and schoolbags; Dredge the sewer at home, fix the lights and so on. If the gas stove doesn't catch fire, you can try to check the problem yourself first and see what is wrong. The reason why I do everything by myself is just to save some money. Find someone to clear the sewer at home, and the starting price should be at least 50 every time. I can't afford the money. The gas stove won't catch fire. If you call the gas company directly, no matter what the problem is, you need 20 yuan's door-to-door service fee. To be honest, I hate spending money, too. )

The two children are still young, and every time I go anywhere, I always drag my feet away.

Children should go out more and ensure outdoor activities. And I need to go to work every day, what should I do? Every afternoon at four o'clock, I have to let them go out to play, set a good place, tell them that they can only play in this area, and tell their mother to look for them after work. Tell them to pay more attention to safety, not to fight, not to climb up and down. I really didn't trust them to go out alone at first. After all, they are still young, one just turned eight and the other is six and a half. )

Aside from this, the pressure of raising children alone is enough for us to be anxious.

We are both hard-won couples. The income is limited, but the expenses are high.

My family has better economic conditions and can subsidize us. But my husband's family really can't subsidize us for a penny, and they have to feed us if something goes wrong.

Having a second child is my mother's confidence. When my mother was alive, she really helped me and gave me the strongest backing, so that I could work with peace of mind and make money.

However, unexpectedly, my mother left in such a hurry. With my mother gone, my little home seems to have collapsed. No one helps me anymore.

My husband's family can't support us financially. Manpower, but it can't help us.

So, you can only rely on yourself.

It's not easy to bring up children, and it's even harder to train them!

Nowadays, the cost of raising a child is too high. In the past, a couple could have four or five children. Now, it is the limit for a couple to have two children. Three children? Come on, it will really kill you!

Maybe it's easy for a star to raise three children. They may believe in having more children.

However, we are ordinary people, and it is really too difficult to raise three children.

It's too easy to have children. Ten months pregnant, natural delivery. The key is to nurture after birth, which is the most rare!

There are many post-80 s peers around me, and there is no second child. How can they have three children?

My family is one of the few families with two children among my colleagues and friends. Many people looked at my family and said to my husband and wife again and again, "You two are really courageous, admire, admire!" " "

I was born in 1982. I have two sons. The eldest is in the third grade, and the second is in the fourth grade. I never dared to have three children. I have to do my homework with my second child until ten o'clock every night. If I have three more children, will I live?

I am the daughter of the post-90s generation, and now I have two sons. The oldest is twelve and the youngest is eight. I thought about having three children before, because I have no daughter. That's just thinking, but now I don't have that idea. Great pressure, great economic pressure, and a leukemia patient at home. Forget it. I will be an older woman in a few years, and I don't want to fight for triplets. Let a capable life.