It's hard to wait until the summer vacation, and the children have a lot of free time. Parents want their children to do some housework, but they don't know that their children have no concept of "labor"
There are fewer and fewer children who help their parents with housework, and their knowledge level is high, but their self-care ability is relatively low.
1. Cultivate children's independence
Doing housework, big or small, is done by children themselves. At first, parents may teach their children how to do it, but when they can do it, they all think for themselves and finish it by themselves. This is to cultivate their independence.
Children who do housework well generally have the mentality of "doing their own things without the help of their parents". Such a child depends not only on his parents, but also on others and has an independent personality.
2. Use your hands and brain to promote contact.
When children are young, housework is actually a kind of game for children. In the process of this game, it can promote the ability of children's hand-brain connection. As the saying goes, "ingenuity" is actually a kind of exercise, especially for children with weak hands-on ability. A lot of labor is developing brain cells.
In addition to exercising brain cells, labor can also make children have better physique. Although I don't do manual labor at home as I used to do in farming, I need to move around for work, which can enhance my children's activity in a day.
Many times, children don't like work, which is the result of parents' training. Children have early education classes from birth and gradually become cram schools. The busy schedule of interest classes makes them have no time to take care of housework, let alone work.
However, labor is not as simple as it seems. Children who like to work since childhood have more active and agile thinking and stronger emotional ability. They have higher pressure resistance and are willing to create a world of their own with their hardworking hands. Knowledge and education are only one aspect. Only when they really step into the society will they find that the best among them depend not only on the academic background of famous universities, but also on their high emotional intelligence and high adversity quotient, and have the courage to create from scratch.
On how to make children fall in love with labor and cultivate hands-on habits, American experts put forward the following suggestions:
Many parents don't let their children work because they think their children are young and clumsy. For younger children, they are more "adding chaos" than helping.
Faced with the increased burden of children doing housework, parents should not feel very troublesome. Whether children like to work in the future is actually in this period, because children can't fully understand the concept of housework when they are four or five years old, but at this time, children will be very willing to help their parents.
Parents should not complain or blame even if their children make a mess of housework or can't fully understand their parents' intentions.
Parents should first fully trust their children, regardless of whether they are doing well or not, and let them do it independently under the premise of ensuring safety. This is the key to increasing their confidence in completing the task. Every parent's trust is the motivation for children to continue to do housework next time, and this is how children's housework habits are developed.
2. Persistence is the key
Once children have the awareness of helping their parents with housework, how can they persist in their work? As the saying goes, you insist that when children know that they can help their parents, parents should give them as many instructions as possible, such as "Will you help mom hang clothes" or "Help dad move things".
When parents advise their children how to do housework better, they should also pay attention to fully respecting their choice. If children can stick to their own methods to complete the task, don't force them to do it in the way of parents.
Let children really want to finish their work by themselves, instead of being scolded and forced all the time.
3. How to demonstrate correctly
When demonstrating to children, parents should not use the tone of teachers to make their children feel that they are being educated, especially not by criticizing or reprimanding them, which will dampen their enthusiasm and make them unwilling to do things next time.
Parents can demonstrate by themselves and do it in front of their children without talking, which is more useful than any preaching. Patience and good temper are very important. Everything has a learning process and children are no exception.
If the child forgets something or does something wrong, parents can provide tips from different places, but there is no need to be strict with the child with a perfectionist attitude.
4. Reward is very important
Whether verbally or in kind, it is an important condition for children of any age to fall in love with labor. Younger children prefer to be rewarded with a candy or a mother's touch.
Older children will definitely feel more responsible by speaking orally, so they will be more willing to do housework.
5. Teach children in other ways
The most common are games and picture books. Through the role-playing of the game, let the children feel the sense of accomplishment after serving others or working.
Another way is to let children know that loving labor is a virtue through reading. Younger children can read picture books, and older children can read them in other ways, such as parents sending their children some WeChat. As long as they are not rebellious children, they are actually quite willing to listen to their parents' opinions.
Teaching children should pay attention to skills. For children, everything needs parents to set some strategies with their heart.
The formation of work habits is actually the result of the accumulation of many small things. There is no need to do any complicated housework. At the beginning, parents can help their children complete more than half, and let the children do the rest themselves. Later, with the improvement of proficiency, children became interested in completing tasks independently. At this time, parents can let their children do it themselves and patiently and confidently let their children develop work habits.