When lovers get along for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be body language such as holding hands, hugging and kissing. With the deepening of feelings, boys may ask their girlfriends for sex. At this time, girls are always hesitant. Girls have many concerns, but boys have strong sexual needs. In this case, how should a girl who doesn't want to get involved in premarital sex reject her boyfriend's sexual request prematurely? Wang Lu, a 22-year-old primary school teacher, came to my house before I got up the day before yesterday. I opened the door in my pajamas, which are not very sexy. He told me to lie back in case I caught cold, and then he took out a sexy and light black nightgown for me: "Don't wear underwear, put it on, it looks good." I asked, "Why did you buy me a present?" "Today is my birthday. Wearing it is a gift for me." He said. I can't spoil his fun, so I have to change into a black nightgown according to his wishes. He stared at me in a black nightgown, and his eyes were a little blurred and hot, which was completely different from his usual expression. I'm starting to get a little nervous. Then he hugged me tightly, kissed me, carried me to bed and made love to me. I can't refuse his birthday, so I have to say, "Sorry, I have my period." That time, he let me down. What should I do after that? Also, my boyfriend had sex with his ex-girlfriend I am still a virgin. Should I give it to him? Expert advice: it is normal for boys to ask for sex. If you are not psychologically ready, you can tell him frankly, not yet, and talk about it after getting to know each other better. If you really love each other, you won't care if they are virgins. If you really love someone, you will love them all. Protagonist 2: Chen Chen is a college student aged 2 1 year. I am a very conservative girl. I never thought I would fall in love when I entered the university, but I fell in love with her for no reason. I spent about three months with him and had a headache. He kept asking me to have sex. I'm really entangled in this matter. I am afraid of falling in love, and I am even more afraid of his sexual demands. I thought he would stop asking because he loved me, but he made things worse. In the meantime, I was at a loss and finally decided to break up with him. However, maybe he still loves me. He seems to be very painful and irrational. But the behavior after that really puzzled me. He almost raped me. Fortunately, he seems to have a little conscience, but that was after I promised not to break up again. He keeps asking, and I'm freaking out! But I dare not break up again. On the surface, it looks as good as before, but he no longer exists in my heart. What I had expected was a sunny, happy and free love, but now I always feel that there is a dirty one in it! He later asked for a compromise and let me help him solve it with my hands, but I felt sick. Because I still love him, I still have illusions about him. I hope that one day he will understand that I love him, and that he will respect me and love me from the bottom of his heart. But this is really just a fantasy. I am very upset now, because I can't break up with him in a short time, but how can I refuse his sexual request? If you want to break up, how should you protect yourself? Expert advice: I think you are a very good girl. You should find a good boy who understands and cares about you. From your story, I feel that he is not the person you want. He almost tried to rape you because you wanted to break up. Then you should consider his real purpose with you. You love him so much, but he doesn't respect your feelings. If he doesn't stand in your position and think of you, it's better to break up. If you break up, he is not good to you, and it is not worth your nostalgia. Leave if you want, be free! Protagonist 3: Xiao Yu, 23, a college student. I have been with him 1 for many years. He recently proposed to me. I didn't promise him at first, but he repeatedly asked, and he said that I didn't promise him last time, which made him very sad! He said he respected my meaning and didn't force me, but he still hoped I could promise him that it would enhance our feelings. Seeing him so sad, I was a little shaken. So I promised him and had sex with him. Then he said he would love me more than before. However, his attitude has puzzled me recently. He makes me feel that he is sometimes so gentle and sometimes so strange, which makes me feel that he doesn't really love me, just to sleep with me. Suddenly, I have some regrets. Maybe it's because such love is too tired, as if I can't bear it in my heart and want to end it. But I really love him, and I hesitate to face my incomplete self. If I do break up, there is a good chance that no one will want me. How should I choose correctly? Experts suggest that these boys can do everything possible to achieve their goals in order to meet their own physiological needs. The real meaning of their excuses is only one-you are my girlfriend, so you should meet my needs. If you really believe his statements and promises, agree to his sexual requirements. Then, the feelings between you will not really last forever. You can communicate with him. If he still loves you, don't break up. If you feel that this relationship is too tired, you might as well break up. Protagonist 4: 18-year-old high school student I like the boy Xu in our class very much. He is very handsome and many girls like him. But he fell in love with me. Not long after I dated him, he asked me to prove my love for him with my actions. I asked, "How can I prove it?" He asked for sex. It turns out that he wants me to have sex to prove that I love him! I know puppy love is always sneaking around, always avoiding parents and teachers. If you have sex again, the consequences will be unimaginable if the teacher knows. So I refused. Then he gradually alienated me and made out with other girls in front of me. I felt bad, so he said to me, "If you want to save my heart, prove it with your actions!" I really liked him and didn't want to lose him, so I finally had sex with him. Since then, we have been immersed in this kind of sexual behavior. One day, I found abnormal leucorrhea with blood. I went to the hospital for examination. It was moderate cervical erosion. Since then, we have merged a lot. But after I got better, I had a strong fear of sex and grew tired of him, so I broke up. But I find it difficult to start a new relationship, because I don't want to hide the truth, so I can't find a new boyfriend. So, I decided to do hymen repair. I know I will be cheated from now on, but what can I do if I don't do this? Experts suggest that before having unmarried sex, girls often expect her to have better and more complete love. However, when the innocent girls "gave themselves to him completely" in their fantasies, the imaginary god of love did not help them realize their wishes, but returned these heavy haze in reality to them! Therefore, when a girl decides to have sex with him, she must think carefully. She can't give everything for a so-called love. Tintin doesn't need hymen repair. If he really loves you in the future, he won't dislike you because of this. Experts remind: bravely ask your boyfriend for sex. According to a survey, 50% of girls are willing to marry their boyfriends, but only 20% of boys are willing to marry the girls they have sex with. This ratio still tells more girls to be cautious about love and sex. Therefore, girls must think twice before agreeing to their boyfriends' sexual demands. If you don't want to have sex with him, you should bravely ask your boyfriend to say no! Let's take a look at the faces of the following girls. I never believe my boyfriend's promise. I won't promise him until my psychological development is completed. Although my body has developed well now, I feel that my love and outlook on life are not yet mature, and I don't want to do something I will regret later. I never believed that sex can deepen feelings. I think that's a common excuse for boys to cheat girls. Sex will not only deepen their feelings, but will hinder their development. First, when a girl has no reservations about a boy before marriage, the mystery and sacredness of a man's girlfriend will disappear, and the attraction of a girl to her boyfriend will also decrease, so her boyfriend may move on. The second reason is that when two people in love lack mutual attraction and only rely on sexual relations to maintain it, it is easy to get bored with each other psychologically, and even lead to the breakdown of the love relationship. I don't think it's advisable to tie a boyfriend and sex together. Some girls love their boyfriends deeply and are afraid of losing them and dying. In fact, this is a very stupid practice. When a man regards sexual relationship as more important than your feelings, this in itself has proved that he doesn't love you, and he is only with you to meet his physical needs. Once I almost gave myself to my boyfriend as a birthday present, but fortunately I was dissuaded by my girlfriend. She said that in the process of love, both men and women have equal status. If a girl dedicates herself as a memorial of love, she will put herself in a passive position of love. Boyfriend is no longer worried about losing you, it's your turn to worry about losing your boyfriend. It's really good advice. My boyfriend has asked me for sex many times, and every time I refuse him with one sentence: dear! One day we will belong to each other. Since you say that you really love me and have plenty of time, why not leave the most beautiful moment for our wedding night? Although this is a cliche, he dare not do it again. Ask for more information about sexual requirements.