I used to be like this. At the beginning of 20 15, I was mediocre for a long time. I quit my job and searched full screen again, not even knowing what I could do. Thinking about my major and previous work experience, I am still at a loss and at a loss.
"I don't know what I like, what I want, or even what I can do." Every day, I wake up naturally, clean my room, read books, invite two or three friends to eat and drink, watch TV dramas and watch paralysis, and all kinds of variety shows are completely out of order. Once people are idle, they are idle all day and become waste wood. All entertainment programs and so-called socializing are just to help you pass the time.
I had no interest at that time, let alone any interest. It was not until later that I found a job that I slowly got rid of it.
Work is related to the media, but only for the company. For a long time, I have been thinking about a question, "Can I be my official WeChat account?" I like writing, and my literary talent is not bad. Can I turn this into my hobby and even support myself in the future?
At the beginning of 20 16, I made a decision to write an original article every day and stick to it for a long time. I like to write casually, since I was a child. Writing can bring me pleasure. Every time you write, you are talking to your heart, and you should be hearty.
"Thought is your own, and others can never take it away." Many people have asked me how tired I am writing, and few people read it. But you don't write for others, you write for yourself. This thing persists for a long time, your thoughts are gradually improved, and your emotions are gradually released in each creation.
Now, I have written 130 articles. During the period, I read a lot of books, brush Weibo every day to find hot spots, and a little thing in my life can also become my material; I also started walking for a month and a half, and kept writing on the road to record the beauty of walking.
I found that "writing" is my interest, and it is becoming my lifelong "hobby" and aphrodisiac.
It is a very happy thing to find something you like and stick to it for a long time.
Before June, I went to work during the day and started writing at nine o'clock in the evening, usually at two or three o'clock, and stayed up all night several times. Very tired, but also very happy, I am willing to write, and I have never had any psychological antipathy.
A friend said to me, "It's a blessing to find yourself interested in one thing and stick to it for so long." She said: "In today's society, most young people don't know what they like?" Even if we see that many people are busy, how many people will persist if they are not trying to make a living?
We often say that it is too extravagant to talk about dreams in this utilitarian society, but do you have your own interests that can bring you pleasure? Even if this interest can't bring you any money, it can bring you happiness, which is enough.
You like music, you can listen to music quietly alone, or you can go to KTV and yell. You like baking, and you can learn to make all kinds of cupcakes. You like arranging flowers, and you can also make a beautiful flower basket. You like yoga and running, and you can stick to it every day. You like playing basketball, so let's have fun. ......
But no matter what you do, everyone should know themselves clearly. "What exactly do you like?"
We humans are advanced animals with feelings. No matter what industry you do, you need something to send your feelings. This emotional thing is our interest, it can carry your feelings. When you are happy, you can say it; When you are sad and lonely, you can also find peace, calmness and happiness from it.
I dated two girlfriends the other day. They are already mothers, and the topics discussed are all related to children. Of course, I can only be a bystander.
"I just signed up for an early education class for our children recently," said Xiao Lan. "It cost a lot of money, more than 10,000 yuan."
"I am also considering, do you want to give your child a class?" Xiaomei also said at a side.
But for an unmarried person, it is a bit incomprehensible. Isn't it a little early for their one-year-old children to enroll in early education classes?
They said, "You haven't become a mother yet. When you become a mother, you may be more exaggerated than them." To tell the truth, I don't quite understand my parents now. Let me speak as an unmarried person.
Personally, I think it is more important than anything to help children find one or two points of interest. More interest is not necessarily a good thing. There are specialties in the art, and one or two is enough.
Most of our parents of the previous generation didn't care whether their children were interested or not. Of course, the material conditions are not sufficient. What we have received is nothing more than exam-oriented education. Nobody told us to cultivate interest? Everything we accept, more often, is imposed by external forces. When I was in junior high school, I was faced with the pressure of the senior high school entrance examination; When I was in high school, I was under pressure to go to college. University, whatever his professional courses, muddling along anyway; Work, like it or not, make a living.
In modern society, young people always feel great pressure, one is material pressure; Second, work is really not what you think. Long-term pressure accumulation, with psychological relief is a good thing, without psychological relief, emotions can not be released, more people will be impatient, depressed, and even lead to depression.
It is normal that each of us will have a potential tendency to depression; If one day you can't control your emotions and are infinitely magnified, it's a bit dangerous.
In the meantime, the role of interest is that it can ease your personal emotions. Being alone with yourself, emotions can be properly resolved, and loneliness can be dispelled subtly.
So in my opinion, it is more important than anything to cultivate a child's good attitude towards life and discover his personal interests. Calligraphy, painting, music, dancing and writing are all emotional things of ordinary people, which can accompany you all your life and are emotional carriers of you and me.
In daily life, I believe you will meet many idle people. They do nothing during the day, and some people are full of complaints even at work.
The human body, in leisure, will be extremely empty. After a long time, they will feel that they don't even have the strength to lift the cup. Think about it, is it strange that a machine does not rotate and rust for a long time? When your body is at leisure, your mind will be empty and you will find nothing to do. Over time, you can only make do with "paralysis" or "cynicism" in various ways.
At this time, the role of interest is obvious. It can be used as your emotional carrier when you are empty. If you have something to do and your mind is not empty, people will enjoy themselves and will not take it out on others.
Take the elderly as an example. If they retire and stay at home all day, they will keep urging young people to have children. Why? Lonely, no one to accompany, children go to work, and the whole day is empty. But they don't understand that a person's emptiness can't be solved by controlling a child. When a person is too idle, he begins to look for nothing.
Sometimes, quarreling is really a common phenomenon of "being too idle".
Interest is important. It is by no means a job, a means of making a living or an economic source. It is the soul of a person's life and the spirit of a person. Also let you have a free body and an empty heart at this moment. Once people lose interest, the spiritual world is lonely and can only be filled with more sounds and sounds.
Interest it is an aphrodisiac and a good medicine that will accompany you for life. How on earth should we live this life? It is very important to spend the rest of your life with what attitude and whether you are interested.
Now, we might as well find what we like and are good at, do one thing and stick to it for a long time. Not all interests can be eaten, and interests must be consuming your efforts. We live in this world, and there is no such thing as leisure. In my spare time, I feel empty.
Finding what you like and are interested in is the aphrodisiac of life.
A thoughtful housewife. Wechat official account: Liming ID: yibao 8690