I think this is the best state after running for five years after 70. Keep your heart, let everything be peaceful and open-minded, not be persistent because of love and hate, and not be troubled by nothingness.
But if you want to let your inner peace accompany you home, there are too many gains and losses to understand and too many reasons to elaborate.
And these seven words should also be the wise words you will pursue for the rest of your life, and stay with you. If you understand this, your old age is destined to be happier, not bleak.
"indisputable"
Life is alive, in fact, there are too many things outside. Some people covet money, some advocate power, some are addicted to feelings, and some are obsessed with the world.
Everyone has their own different desires, and this desire often makes people lose their true heart in confusion.
After 70, you should know that yours is yours, not yours. Even if you try your best, you may not be able to do what you want. Looking down on everything in the world is actually the best choice for yourself.
You know, life is only a few decades, and in the end everything will become a thing of the past. Why bother with worldly things? It is far better to face the gains and losses of honor and disgrace with a normal heart than to fight needlessly.
When you can understand this, your life will be much more open and comfortable.
"Not noisy"
Quarrel is venting, but it is never a good way. In the end, not only did the problem not be solved, but the feelings also faded.
In fact, in retrospect, what made you angry and quarreled at that time was just trivial matters, which were irrelevant at all. On the contrary, the subsequent quarrel brought more harm.
The so-called quarrel often happens between the closest people. Whether parents, partners or children are venting their anger on the surface, they are actually pulling away from each other.
Relatives are still like this, let alone friends. Many people are quarreling and breaking up.
Nothing in the world can escape the word "reason". What problems can't be discussed well? Quarrel not only destroys our mood and feelings, but also makes a mess of things, which is harmful to ourselves.
Therefore, if we can grasp our mentality, control our emotions and not quarrel, our future life will be much happier.
Three: "Don't show off"
Why do many people like to show off? Just to satisfy your vanity. But in fact, others seem to agree, but in fact, they may not really agree with you.
However, you have lost yourself in such hypocrisy, become vain, like to compare with others, and pursue things that are too superficial.
One of my readers, Ms. Ji, is like this. She always shows off her husband's ability and filial piety in front of people. Every time I chat with my friends and neighbors, Ms. Ji always talks big and the topic always revolves around her.
But in fact, others are saying good things on the surface, but they are alienating Ms. Ji behind their backs.
You know, many people's lives are actually not happy. Some people drop out of school, some divorce, some work badly and face layoffs. For them, your show-off is just rubbing salt in their wounds. Whether what you say is true or not, others always sound uncomfortable. No matter how happy people are, they will never have the patience to bless you all the time. Showing off will only pull you away.
Therefore, although Ms. Ji has gained vanity, she actually has no sincere friends around her and is getting more and more unhappy. And in order to maintain the "glory" on the surface, she has been wronged and can only swallow it into her stomach. "Live honorably and suffer" is probably the case.
Therefore, showing off will not only make others bored, but also make themselves exhausted.
After 70, you should know that the face is the most useless thing. You don't need to show off what you have, and you don't need to care about what you lose. It is the most important thing to live happily every day.
There is always too much prosperity in the world, stirring our already uneven state of mind.
When you go through the vicissitudes of life, you will understand that too much nothingness is much ado about nothing, so you don't need to care too much.
It's been 570 years, so we should know how to be kind to ourselves and exchange inner peace for the stability of life. If you can do it without arguing or showing off, you will be happy for the rest of your life.