But in real life, do you really wait for flowers to bloom?
Some children are not born at the beginning, even if it is a good time, parents are anxious to let their children be born before they are ripe. Just like sleeping. Suddenly an earthquake happened. What consequences will that have? Pretty scary. So are children. According to research, children born with a flat abdomen are more insecure than normal children before the age of 8.
After the child was born, parents began to report various early education classes to their children. In order to prevent children from losing at the starting line, children in primary schools have various cram schools and interest classes.
In the 1970s, the German government conducted a large-scale study: researchers chose 50 kindergartens featuring early education and 50 traditional kindergartens focusing on games, and tracked and compared all these children. The results show that children who come out of early education kindergartens have a high level of learning at first, and this advantage has been maintained until the children go to primary school. But with the passage of time, the advantage has not been maintained. The children in the early education group in the fourth grade of primary school not only have no learning advantage, but also have significantly lower grades than those in traditional kindergartens.
In other words, early education can really make children win at the starting line, but children can't stay ahead for too long. What is even more frightening is that the children in the early education group are not only upside down, but also inferior to the traditional children's group in social and expression.
In the documentary "The Starting Line" of Beijing Satellite TV 20 18, a Beijing girl started at six o'clock on Saturday morning, from the first Creary, to vocal music, to dance, and finally to Spanish. At the end of the day, the child's tender face is full of fatigue, and the mother is particularly anxious. She is still considering whether to give her children a lesson in logical thinking. On Saturday and Sunday, children and mothers are either on their way to the interest class or in the class of interest class. But what about children who are "overdrawn" mentally and physically? Does she really like these classes and enjoy them? Facing the camera, she flinched, saying that some classes were liked and others were not interested. But she dare not oppose her mother's decision, because "mother will be unhappy." Children are born to love their parents and feel their feelings. Parents sometimes create conditions for their children. I won't love you if you don't listen to me. Encouraging education will make
This reminds me of my sophomore year, about 17 years old. There is a little girl in my class who is not yet 13 years old. The little girl didn't go to primary school. Her mother used to be a junior high school teacher. She quit her job and devoted herself to educating her children about primary and secondary schools. What about this little girl? She is very small and quiet, sitting alone in the corner of the first row. /kloc-children aged 0/3 should be talking, laughing and joking. She is a small person and doesn't seem to fit in. I wonder if she tried to integrate into the class at first? Her mother's encouraging education made her lose friends and what she should have at that age.
A few days ago, a girl of 14 wrote 2000 poems a day. After watching her video, a little girl has a very old age. Seeing the following comments, people will think of the brainwashing of MLM organizations. We should think, what kind of parents will make their children like this? Children's growth has its own established trajectory. Some children have a long flowering period, while others have a short flowering period. But isn't that how children grow up?
Rousseau has such a passage in Emile: "It is natural to hope that children will look like children before they reach adulthood. If this order is disrupted, it will bear some precocious fruits, which are neither full nor sweet, and will soon rot. "
Every child is a unique existence in the world. He is not an accessory of adults, but an independent individual. Therefore, the process of raising children is the process of waiting for flowers to bloom. You can give your children your love, but it's not your idea.