As a head teacher for many years, I have met all kinds of parents, and 80% of them can be classified into the above two types. It is the greatest wish of parents in the world to wish their children success and their daughters success. However, how many parents can finally realize their dreams? Of course, a person's success depends on many factors, and the definition of success in modern society is becoming more and more diverse. If you are too persistent to let your child get ahead, it may bring unreasonable trouble to your child and yourself. What role should parents play in their children's growth? Cai Xiaoxiao, a "genius magician", may give us some inspiration.
In an era when education was not valued, Cai devoted all his energy to training his six children into useful people. Among them, 5 graduated from doctor's degree and master's degree 1 person. With the population of our country, there is only one doctor among 100,000 people on average, and there are five doctors in this family, which is a miracle. Cai was awarded the title of "Genius Magician" and enjoyed a high reputation at home and abroad.
Let's see how powerful these six children Cai are:
Cai Xiaoxiao, born in 194 1, is from Ruian City, Zhejiang Province. Cai loved reading since childhood, but because of her poor family, she was expelled from school in high school. Cai doesn't want to give in to fate. She taught herself all the courses in high school in one year and entered the primary school as a substitute teacher. Because of his excellent work, he was rated as an advanced youth. Under the recommendation of the school, Cai Xiaoxiao was admitted to Hangzhou University with three full marks.
1962, Cai's father died suddenly. As the eldest son of the family, Cai was forced to drop out of Hangzhou University and go home. He followed in his father's footsteps and became a doctor, shouldering the heavy responsibility of bringing home the bacon. Cai Xiaoxiao is talented, has a strong learning ability, and his medical skills are quickly becoming famous. The situation at home is getting better every day. However, the turmoil of the times and the changes of his family made Cai's life dream come to nothing, and he always had regrets in his heart. After his wife became pregnant, Cai Xiaoxiao came up with the idea of "having more children and cultivating talents". In this way, your wish may come true in children.
From 1967 to 1977, Cai Xiaoxiao's wife gave birth to five sons and one daughter. In order to raise these six children, Cai changed her name to "Laugh till the end of her life", which means "Laugh till the end of her life".
When the eldest son Cai was still in infancy, Cai taught him early education and taught him to clap his hands and count. When Cai Tianwen was eight months old, he could read one, two, three, four and five in turn, and he could know Arabic mathematics from one to ten at the age of one. At that time, there were few parents with early education consciousness, and Cai's educational philosophy was very advanced.
After the children were three years old, Cai Xiaoxiao began to educate them about their aspirations. He believes that children who are ambitious since childhood will not be satisfied with the status quo when they grow up, and will have further determination and motivation.
Cai Xiaoxiao's home has a big study, and the walls are covered with portraits of scientists. Whenever there is an opportunity, he will tell children stories about scientists and encourage them to follow the example of these outstanding scientists. Cai Xiao's alarm clock is also very special. Every morning, when it's time to get up, Cai Xiaoxiao plays the erhu, which is the horn of getting up. When children hear the sound of erhu, they must get up at once without delay. Then, Cai Xiaoxiao turned on the radio at night and tuned to the English or Japanese program channel, so that the children were interested in foreign languages.
After dinner, Cai Xiaoxiao called the children together again to read medical books by themselves, while the children read textbooks or do their homework. Under the influence of this atmosphere, children have developed a good habit of reading.
Every winter and summer vacation, Cai Xiaoxiao and his wife will take their children out to travel, broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge. During this time, the business at home will be affected and a lot of money will be spent, but Cai Xiaoxiao is not stingy.
In order to make children run faster than their peers, Cai always tries his best to get children into school in advance, and often makes them skip grades when they go to school.
In the 1980s and 1990s, the state stipulated that school-age children could only enter school at the age of seven. Cai Xiaoxiao sends children who have not yet reached school age to remote rural primary schools because the school age card there is not strict. After studying for a semester, I transferred my child to an urban primary school. In this tortuous way, children can enter school in advance. So all his six children went to school before the age of six.
For the sake of children's advanced placement, Cai Xiaoxiao didn't have any problems with the school. If the school doesn't agree, he will change the school for the child in order to achieve the goal of making the child skip a grade. Cai Xiaoxiao believes that breaking the normal educational procedures can give children more study time. The time saved by studying in advance will turn into a competitive advantage for children in the future. Facts have also proved that his judgment is correct. Of the six children, two were admitted to the juvenile class of the Chinese University of Science and Technology at the age of 14, and they were doctoral students under the age of 20, much faster than their peers.
For more than forty years, Cai Xiaoyao has devoted almost all her energy to the education of her children. Cai Xiao Xie said in an interview with Chen Luyu, the host of Phoenix TV: "My occupation is my father!" This sentence is the most accurate and refined summary of his life.
How to stimulate children's potential and cultivate them into people with all-round development, self-confidence and self-improvement is the wish of countless families. In order to help more families, Cai Xiaoxiao spent six years writing a book about her years of family education experience. My career is my father is selling well. Interested friends can click "Go and have a look" below to find out.