There is a child in the class named Duoduo, who doesn't speak very neatly. He often pops up two or three words. Short sentences can be very long, with grammatical errors in the middle. In this case, Duoduo has been dumped by children of the same age for several blocks.
Duoduo's mother said: "When I was a child, I thought it didn't matter if the child spoke late, so I didn't deliberately teach him to speak. But now that Duoduo is five years old, he still speaks incoherently. Not only is he tired of talking, but others are also tired of listening. "
Because he can't speak, Duoduo has almost no friends in kindergarten, because no children are willing to wait for him to finish a sentence. Looking at her son's lonely expression, Duoduo's mother plans to have an operation on Duoduo's tongue. It is said that she will speak clearly after the operation.
In fact, as early as before, many mothers took their children to the hospital for a series of tests, but the doctors failed to find any problems.
This time, a lot of mothers are also "dead horses are moving horses", hoping to improve many speech problems. In fact, children's unclear speech is not necessarily a physiological reason, but more because parents have not helped their children learn to speak correctly.
In fact, it seems that children talk about their own business. In fact, parents have a lot to do with the family environment. Why do you say that? Let's take a look today.
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I have seen a five-year-old child before. No matter outside or at home, he basically doesn't talk, and the child is misunderstood as "dumb" by others. But after going to the hospital for examination, the doctor said that there was nothing wrong with the child. So, his parents took him to the psychological department for examination, hoping to gain something.
The doctor inquired about the children's living conditions carefully, and observed the state of getting along with parents and children, and found that the problem that children can't talk is not the children, but the parents.
The first reason why children can't speak: parents speak for their children.
For example, the parents mentioned above take their children to consult. During the consultation, the child was thirsty and wanted to drink water. The cup was in his mother's bag, but he didn't ask for it, so he just reached into the bag and touched it. As soon as his mother saw this move, she immediately knew, "I want a glass of water, right?" Mom will bring it for you. "
There are many behaviors like this. No matter what the child needs, the mother always prepares what the child needs one step in advance. More importantly, mothers don't give their children a chance to talk at all.
Under the doctor's inquiry, the mother admitted that she had this habit when her child was very young. Originally, she was just worried that the child would not do well. Therefore, for the sake of children, mothers are used to preparing everything for their children.
However, only when children speak can they learn to speak and know whether what they say is correct.
Especially for children who are just learning to speak, although the meaning is unclear and unclear, it is not important. What is important is that children gradually learn the correct expression, explain things in words and express their true thoughts through practice again and again.
Therefore, no matter what reasons parents have, once children are deprived of the opportunity to speak, they naturally stop talking, because they know that even if they don't talk, they can still get what they want.
The second reason why children don't talk: parents often contradict their children.
Niu Niu, a six-year-old girl, is a quiet girl. She usually doesn't like to talk. The teacher often asks three sentences, and she answers three. The teacher invited parents for this many times, and the parents also thought of many ways, but to no avail.
Later, I chatted with Niu Niu's parents, and the teacher found that the reason why Niu Niu didn't talk was related to her parents' education methods. Niu Niu, who just learned to speak at first, is a gossip. She often says some inexplicable things to her parents, and their parents will respond to her at this time.
But the parents' response always refutes Niu Niu. For example, Niu Niu asked her mother to tell a story, and her mother always responded, "I'm too tired today, let's talk about it tomorrow."
After being rejected several times, Niu Niu doesn't like to express herself as much as before, and likes to talk to herself alone. But my mother didn't realize that she was still refuting Niu Niu on different things. For example, if the homework is not done well, Niu Niu is not allowed to talk; Niu Niu did something wrong, and her mother forbade her to explain.
After a long time, Niu Niu stopped talking, because she knew it was useless even if she did.
Many parents don't realize how important their gentle response is to children in early childhood. Children are not willing to talk to their loving parents until they see them. If parents keep a straight face, children naturally have no desire to talk.
The third reason why children don't talk: too much contact with electronic products.
In the early education class, I once met a boy named Beibei. At the age of 3, he could only call his mother, grandmother and other simple words.
Besides, Beibei is very dependent on her mother. Seeing the stranger, she threw herself into her mother's arms and wanted her mother to hug him.
Beibei's reaction is not like a normal 3-year-old boy at all, in order to make Beibei better integrate into the classroom. The teacher asked Beibei's mother, only to know that Beibei was slowly unable to speak because of premature contact with electronic products.
When Beibei 13 months old, Beibei's mother occupied too much time because of work and housework. In order not to let the noisy children affect her, she gave Beibei her mobile phone to play and let him watch cartoons all the time.
I've been watching this for five months. When mom realized that Beibei didn't like to talk, she wanted to mobilize his will to talk again, and found that there was nothing she could do.
Even taking Beibei to the hospital for examination and treatment has little effect, and Beibei's voice system is still unwilling to open.
In fact, Beibei is not the only child who can't speak because of electronic products. The survey shows that children who are exposed to electronic products too early have poor language system and concentration.
The best way for children to learn is to imitate, especially parents. Although there are dialogues in cartoons, what attracts children is colorful pictures, not dialogues.
After a long time, children will be addicted to the flash-forward, rejecting their parents' voices and naturally unwilling to learn to speak.
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Language is an indispensable tool for every child. Not only can they express their ideas, but also children who are eloquent and articulate will get more opportunities.
First, speaking can exercise children's understanding ability.
When children learn to speak, the first word they learn is always the easiest to pronounce, and it will be associated with people and things. For example, if the baby says "mom", the baby will know that the person in front of him is the mother.
The more words a child learns, the more things he can correspond to, which means that a large number of words are stored in the baby's mind.
When there are enough words, the baby begins to learn sentences. Let the baby know what he wants to express first, then extract the corresponding words from his mind, and then express the sentences with correct grammar.
This is also the reason why we always see that babies who have just learned to speak can't speak well, because they need constant practice, constant correction and constant listening to correct sentences before they can speak correct sentences.
Second, speaking can improve children's social skills.
When a child is 2 years old, he will have social needs. The social object at this time is his parents or people who take care of him. The baby explains his needs through short sentences. If parents respond in time, the baby will receive feedback, that is, my expression can attract others' attention.
In kindergarten, it is not difficult to find that talking children have obvious social skills. When playing games, children who can talk are often the mainstay. They are more instructive and are the envy of many children.
So they have more friends, and teachers also like children who express fluently, which can save a lot of trouble.
Third, speaking can increase children's self-confidence.
When children have self-awareness and gradually develop various emotions, children who can talk are often more confident.
They can express their ideas correctly, get what they want with the help of adults, and communicate with their peers normally.
On the contrary, children who can't speak can only stand by and watch other children play, which is extremely unfavorable to their growth.
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Since children's language development is so important, how should parents guide their children to speak? Here are three small suggestions, hoping to help parents in need.
First of all, parents should provide rich language signals for their parents.
A clip from the documentary "Baby's Fantasy World" left a deep impression on me.
Children's experts want to investigate whether how much parents talk to their children will affect their speech, so they specially arranged a group of families. The child has just turned one year old, which is a language sensitive period and can say a few words simply.
On the first day, the mother and the child spent a very ordinary day, during which they talked to the child about 1000 words.
The next day, the mother talked to the children specially. No matter whether the child reacts or not, the number of words in this day is around 2000 words.
The results showed that what I said to my mother on the first day was about 20 words, and the next day it increased to 30 words.
Although the number of words added is not much, it is enough to show that parents talk to their children more, increase language input and output will gradually increase.
At this time, what parents should do is to increase the dialogue with their children, say good morning in the morning, communicate with the baby when nursing, tell the baby what they saw when going out, and read books with the child when sleeping at night.
It doesn't matter even if the child doesn't understand. As long as parents are willing to talk more, the sooner children will talk.
Secondly, parents should strengthen their children's expression.
The children in the neighborhood are just learning to speak. In order to let children learn to speak, the "dialogue" between neighbors and children as bystanders is often very interesting.
Whenever the child utters some meaningless syllables, the neighbors will complete the child's words.
When they see a puppy, the child will make a "mm-hmm" sound, and then the neighbor will say, "Baby, this is a puppy."
Knowing that it is impossible for children to repeat reading, neighbors have been tirelessly adding words.
In fact, the neighbor's behavior is correct, because the child's language learning process is "collecting first, then cutting", that is, what the child said at the beginning is meaningless to himself. Only when parents react to some sounds can children realize that these words will cause feedback, so they will gradually abandon the sounds without feedback.
At this point, what parents have to do is to express their feelings to their children's voices. For example, when the baby says "Mom, fruit", the mother can help the child to say the complete word "The baby wants to say, Mom, I want an apple, right?"
Over time, children can learn to express correctly and have more words to say.
Finally, parents should try to increase different language environments.
As an early education teacher, I often find that children's language ability can be improved by going up a flight of stairs after each holiday.
There was a little boy named Bao Xiao who went to Xiangshan during his holiday. He kept chanting words like "Xiangshan" and "Big Tree" in class.
Mom said that it used to take a week to teach a new word, but after going to a new place, I found that my child's language ability rose rapidly.
In fact, it is very taboo for children to stay in the same place for a long time while learning to speak, because the words they learn will be limited. Parents should take their children out to contact different environments.
For example, if you go to the park to play, you can let your children see flowers and trees, pick up a leaf and tell them the pronunciation of "leaf", so that they can associate this pronunciation with the leaf.
When a child is exposed to many new things, his own curiosity will lead him to ask questions. At this time, parents will give answers, and children will be more impressed.
It is not a matter of time for children to learn to speak. It requires parents to input constantly, and then help children to output correctly, with effective feedback in the middle, so that children's language ability can rise steadily. Don't let children touch electronic products, and don't let mobile phones replace parents. For children, the best object to learn to speak is always parents, not anyone.
Teacher Lu Bei, national second-level psychological counselor, senior kindergarten teacher, university psychological teacher, Ma Bao; The multi-platform signing author is committed to telling in the most straightforward language, so that parents can understand the deepest parenting knowledge and grow up with their children!