1. The harvest of parent-child relationship:

Now I can see my son, allow and accept some behaviors and emotions that don't meet my requirements, and affirm his motives at the same time. By asking my son, I can understand his thoughts, guide him and find a better solution. Seeing his son's good performance, I affirmed and praised him in time. I let go of my son more and more, and my son is becoming more and more obedient. I respect my son as an independent individual and allow him to do things that do not meet my own standards. Now you can basically yell at your son less. Although I need more patience, I have made great progress than before.

2. The harvest of intimate relationship:

Now I can see my husband more and more, and I can understand some of his behaviors that I couldn't accept before. Let go of my husband's demands and expectations, and I will be grateful and caring for him. Thanks to my husband's contribution to our family, it has brought me and my son a sense of security and happiness, and the family relationship is more harmonious.

3. What do you get from yourself?

Now I have improved my understanding of my life, psychology and behavior. Through self-affirmation training, I realized that the psychology behind my behavior pattern is a kind of anxiety and fear. I used to ask and control my son according to my own set of standards. I strictly asked my son what I thought was good. As a result, my son's performance did not satisfy me. With constant practice, I gradually found that all the problems were my fault, and I also realized the meaning of "parents are originals and children are copies". As long as I grow up and change myself, my son will get better and better. I always wanted to give my children the best education before, and I kept going abroad in various ways. Since my son was a few months old, I have let him accept Gymboree early education and heart-nourishing classics. At that time, I participated in the study and training of nourishing the heart classics, bought a lot of books, and played audio for my son at home, hoping that my son could recite these sage classics as soon as possible. Later, I learned about the new education from my friends, so I began to follow the class. Although I learned a lot, I used them in my life. Now through self-reflection, start to look inward and find your own problems. My helplessness and pain gradually faded away, and my mind became calmer and softer. Thanks to the encouragement of the webmaster and the comrades in the group, let me keep practicing.

Second, I want to say to myself:

Dear Yao Ping, I want to thank you. You have been trying to find out how to make your life happy and meaningful. In the past, I sometimes had many demands on my son and husband. Although the method is wrong, I always try my best to be their wife and mother. You are a very careful mother. For the sake of your son, you can give up many things that you thought were important before, and keep learning and making progress. Now I understand that educating children requires constant self-cultivation, not external needs. Introspection, sometimes pain, sometimes tears, through continuous inward awareness of their inner peace and joy, and continue to work hard for their awareness! Thank you for finding your own problem. You can certainly change yourself through continuous growth and improvement, live a high wonderful life, and then influence and help people around you.

Third, what I want to say to my son:

Baby to the south, today my mother will send you a message: Mom, thank you very much for coming to your parents' side and choosing us as your parents. You are a smart and lovely child, especially kind. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Mom and dad are so happy when they know that you have come into mom's belly. They want you to grow up healthily and are strict with you. Sometimes they will yell at you for a little thing, and sometimes they will hit you with a ruler if they are too anxious. This also makes you feel wronged a lot. In the past, my mother always thought it was good for you and hoped that you would grow up as mom and dad wanted. Now, after this period of study, my mother finds that what needs to be changed is my mother's education mode, to improve my emotional management ability, and to allow you to do something that does not meet her standards. My mother is very happy to see the change of your living conditions. My mother wants to thank you because you gave her a chance to grow and change.