In order to support children's interests, parents can't ignore their mental health. Only by solving the existing problems can children develop better. A baby is born like a blank sheet of paper, and all parents should attach importance to their children's education. Let me share something that supports children's interests.

Support what children are interested in 1

Interest plays an important role in the formation of a person's character. Parents should support rather than oppose their children's interests, so as to develop their intelligence, enrich their knowledge and broaden their horizons.

Xiaoshuai hates playing the piano, but his mother has been forcing him to take part in training. That night was the time for Xiaoshuai to have a piano lesson, but at night, it suddenly rained cats and dogs outside. Xiao Shuai said:-Is it possible not to go in such a heavy rain? "

Mother quickly put on her raincoat and said, "How can I not go! You can also reap success with a knife. " Xiaoshuai reluctantly followed his mother, and the thick and dense rain column knocked Xiaoshuai stumbling. The rain ran down the edge of his raincoat and blurred his eyes.

The piano teacher asked Xiao Shuai to review the song "One Day" of last class. Xiao Shuai doesn't play well, not only a few notes are played wrong, but also the rhythm is wrong. The teacher frowned and scolded 1. What's the matter with you? Why is it getting worse? -Then he said to Xiaoshuai's mother: "This child is getting less and less aura. I think no matter how good he studies, he can only be a performer, not a master. He doesn't like playing the piano at all. "

Coming out of the teacher's house, the rain is still pouring down. Along the way, my mother kept cursing gloomily, saying that Xiao Shuai didn't play well because he was playful and didn't work hard enough, and that he would practice for another hour every night in the future.

The next day, the sky cleared up, and it was half an hour before Xiaoshuai practiced the piano. Shuai Shuai's father closed the bedroom door and turned down the TV volume to watch the football match. His wife washed the pots and pans in the kitchen after dinner.

However, the father has never heard of his son's piano, and he is very puzzled. Suddenly, he heard a scream that seemed to be his wife's voice. Hurriedly opened the door and rushed out, immediately stunned by the scene in front of her: Er Yu was sitting on the ground with a pale face, holding a knife in her right hand, and her left palm was bloody, and her wife Yan Yan collapsed at the kitchen door. The father rushed up to grab the knife in his son's hand and asked him with tears: "What are you doing? Why are you doing this? . Xiao Shuai replied coldly, "If my hand was disabled, you wouldn't want me to play the piano." Father was dumbfounded. He didn't expect his son to refuse to practice the piano in such a self-destructive way. He rushed his son to the hospital. According to the doctor's examination, there are two knife wounds on the palm and back of the hand. The heaviest one is in the palm of your hand, almost to the metacarpal bone, and your index finger has been cut off. Although the knife on the back of the hand is not deep, it has hurt the nerve. The doctor told Xiaoshuai's father regretfully that according to the injury, the function of the hand may not be fully recovered, leaving some sequelae, maybe the fingers can't be straightened, maybe the fist can't be clenched.

After hearing the doctor's diagnosis, Xiao Shuai's mother screamed and began to cry. So many years of hard work, so many years of hope is ruined!

The common wish of parents is to hope their children succeed and their daughters succeed. Some parents, in order to make their children become talents, do not hesitate to invest people's money and sacrifice a lot of their precious time, and rudely force their children to give up some of their hobbies and do things that they are not interested in at all. Children will not only fail to develop, but even lead to tragedy.

Therefore, as parents, as long as their children's hobbies are not harmful and unhealthy, parents should encourage and respect them, and blindly forcing their children to do things they don't want to do will only be counterproductive.

Psychologists believe that parents should respect their children's interests. If children's interests in childhood and adolescence are valued or correctly guided, their lives will probably change. Lu Xun said in the article "How Do We Be Fathers Now": "The world of children is completely different from that of adults. If you don't understand it first and do it blindly, it will seriously affect your child's development. " The first thing to understand here is the temperament, interests and specialties of children. Only by fully understanding children, respecting children and exploring their potential can we find the right way to grow up.

So, how should parents respect their children's interests? You can refer to the following points:

First, parents should have a peaceful mind. Many parents let their children practice the piano because other children also practice the piano, so that their faces will glow if they succeed. Such selfishness will be exposed when children are unwilling to do it. Because you think about your intellectual investment in children, you spend a lot of money, but you can't get a return. You can't understand and tolerate your children, but you force them with a violent attitude, which makes the family atmosphere worse. In addition, your vision is limited by your own interests, and you will miss the opportunity to discover your child's specialties.

Second, be good at observing children and explore their interests in time. Children often show great interest in what they like. Parents should be good at observing children from their usual words and deeds and keep abreast of their hobbies. When Lang Lang, the world-famous piano fifth son, was three years old, his father discovered his unique interest and talent in music, and then carefully cultivated it to create a superior environment for him as much as possible, and finally created this talented musician.

Third, let children develop good study habits. Habit is very important for mastering a skill, which is thousands of times better than parents' coercion, but it is based on children's own interests.

Fourth, parents can also help children discover and cultivate interest. Be patient and let the children try more. When a child is young, he has no experience and can't tell you what he is interested in. This requires parents to spend time with their children to observe. You should take your child to the library and introduce him to various books: you should take him to concerts, sports competitions, academic lectures and professional exhibitions; You should also explain the characteristics, advantages and disadvantages of these fields to your children, and you will find your children's interests unconsciously.

Fifth, give children a certain choice. Shakespeare said, "knowledge can only be beneficial if it conforms to one's own interests." When people do what they are interested in, they will have a sense of happiness in their hearts, which encourages them to keep working hard and pursuing. Parents should give their children the right to choose what they like. When their initiative is mobilized, their passion will be as unstoppable as a volcanic eruption. Parents only need to play the role of a supporter.

Sixth, don't think that the more majors you study, the better. A person's life, energy is limited, in addition to let children learn special skills, we should also pay attention to let children develop in many aspects, such as moral, intellectual and physical.

Special education should be child-centered, regardless of children's opinions. Simply putting pressure on children and forcing them to learn special skills will do great harm to Zhang Ziren's psychology. In recent years, the trend of younger children's special classes has become more and more obvious. Special classes for children should be an extension and supplement of regular preschool education. Appropriate selection of extra-long classes is beneficial to children's intellectual development, but it should be based on children's interests and talents. Due to the limitations of the baby's own physiology and ability, it is best not to blindly learn this and that. Forcing children to learn special skills will make them cope with various pressures prematurely and make their happy childhood "shrink".

Support what children are interested in 2 When children begin to be interested in something ... every child will have a stage of intense love for something: during this time, his attention is focused on a certain category, and nothing else can be shaken. So when children are interested in something, how can we not waste the opportunity of early education?

Take edamame as an example. He was crazy about cars when he was one or two years old.

When I was one year old, I looked down from my balcony and pointed to the signs of Audi's four circles: wipe, wipe, wipe, wipe (in fact, he tried to imitate the pronunciation of our circle, but he couldn't say it). In the parking lot, you have to squat and watch the car; Go out to travel, don't go to the scenic spot to see the sea, but look at the car; Wherever we go, we just stare at the car and we can't move. ...

By the time he was over four years old, he began to be fascinated by dinosaurs. One day, in a picture book, he came into contact with dinosaurs, an animal with huge body and small forelimbs like deformities, and asked me with interest, "Mom, what is this?"

I replied, "This is a dinosaur!"

He immediately begged me to take him to see more dinosaurs. I know that time was the beginning of his love affair with dinosaurs.

Every child will have crazy infatuation moments, but how to fully expand their interests is actually what many mothers want to know.

The correct way is: children's interest is just an entrance, behind which is the door to explore the new world. While acquiring new knowledge, children develop the spirit of questioning, thinking ability, rich imagination and even imaginative games.

In fact, many mothers can't do this, and I have witnessed many mothers doing wrong.

Their main mistake is to take interest as the entrance to cultivate cognition and memory, instead of using interest to cultivate soft power such as thinking habits.

Once I took my children to visit the Museum of Ancient Animals with my neighbor's mother (taking children with my neighbors is my favorite "* * *" mode). With the company of children, adults can take care of each other, which is much easier than taking care of the baby alone.

Neighbor mother pointed to the huge dinosaur model and said to the child:

"What's that name? Yes, Parasaurolophus. "

"What should I do? Yes, Tyrannosaurus Rex. "

"How many years ago did dinosaurs go extinct? Yes, it was 65 million years ago. "

"Why did dinosaurs become extinct? Look, an asteroid hit the earth. "

Walking out of the Museum of Paleontology, the neighbor's mother sent a circle of friends with a big smile: "Today, my son has gained a lot of new knowledge. He knows the names of many dinosaurs and remembers the age when dinosaurs became extinct. "

I once observed an expensive "early foreign language class". A white foreign teacher from the United States or New Zealand sat across the table, and seven or eight two-or three-year-old children sat at the other end, holding high-end and ultra-expensive English books that were said to be "British and American original textbooks".

The white foreign teacher looked: apples, bananas ... ...

Parents expressed their approval and felt that the tuition fee was not paid in vain. But if you observe the child's expression, he has no light in his eyes when he explores independently, only fatigue and boredom.

Again, how can I promote children's interest?

Every interest of a child is an entrance to support him to explore a deeper world.

While wandering in the river of interests, he exercised cognitive development and causality.

Dinosaurs are not an end in themselves, and his interest is also very shifted. He just uses this bridge to explore more worlds.

Therefore, I have nothing to do.

This is because I know exactly what a mother should do.

Mother is not the master of children's interests. He sailed by himself, and he decided what kind of dinosaurs to explore, so I wouldn't interfere.

But I want to provide him with an ocean and let his interests have a wide range of soil.

The first step I have to do is to help him prepare a rich and prosperous environment. The child's mind is absorptive, and he will automatically absorb everything in the environment.

Therefore, I often take him to the natural history museum, the paleontology museum and various dinosaur exhibition halls, where he can enjoy and feel.

Worried that the dinosaur picture book he bought was not comprehensive enough, he took him to the library to get in touch with various versions of dinosaur paintings and humorous dinosaur story books with various text lengths.

As long as edamame likes it, I will take him.

The second step I did was to make a scaffold. Between his current cognitive level and his advanced thinking ability, I put forward exploratory questions and encouraged him to think: Why? What should I do?

Instead of just memorizing fixed conclusions that have been written in books.

Here's a conversation between me and edamame at the Paleontological Museum:

Edamame: Mom, why are all the dinosaurs dead? We'll never see them again?

Me: This is because a long time ago, there was a change on the earth that no one expected: the weather became very cold and dinosaurs felt very cold.

Edamame: Then why did it become like this?

Me: Because the earth was hit by another ball, volcanoes erupted, landslides, tsunamis and clouds covered the sun.

Edamame: (silent for a moment): Are all the other animals dead?

Me: I don't remember this either, but we can go back and check. I seem to remember that reptiles smaller than dinosaurs, such as lizards, have not become extinct.

Edamame: Huh? Then why did they survive?

Me: What do you think?

Edamame: (thinking for a moment) I think it's probably because they are small and easy to drill holes, but the holes are not cold. (guesses and assumptions in STEM)

Me: (I'm surprised that edamame can think of this degree) What do you think will happen when reptiles get into holes?

Edamame: They grow up slowly. ...

Enlightening thinking, asking all open-ended questions, no one knows where the final outcome will be, and no one knows what conclusions the child will draw. Every step is brand-new, curious and requires thinking ability.

And memory thinking, all the goals point to a fixed answer: what was the name of the dinosaur, when was it born, what plants it ate, and which continent it lived in. ...

The world is constantly changing, and no one knows what it will be like next year or ten years later. Only by staying open and flexible can we better adapt to this world. And children's learning style is just open and flexible. They learn by exploring.

Children are natural explorers, and their brains are designed for exploration. When children grow up, they will also experience this change from exploratory learning mode to exploitative learning mode. On the other hand, parents play a great role in assisting this change.

Finally, remind all mothers.

Many mothers will complain: "His interests are so vague that he won't be interested for months."

This is normal. According to the statistics of scientists, children's interests are extremely changeable, which can only last for 6 months to 3 years.

Therefore, when the child's interest slowly disappears and moves to another one, don't worry, let alone force it. You should encourage your child to transfer the thinking ability and questioning level formed in the last interest to the next interest.

In this way, his soft power formed in his interest will eventually migrate to formal school study!