Parents should never ignore their children's behavior and let them find the reasons for doing something wrong. Solving the problem is conducive to developing children's ability, and children's education is something that every parent is worried about. Let's share with you the early education of better communication between parents and children.

Early education 1, where parents and children communicate well, fails to communicate because they don't listen.

We often hear parents around us say, "The older children are, the farther away they are from us, and they won't talk to us, let alone know what they are thinking." "I said all the good things and did all the good things, but it didn't work at all. He still goes his own way. " And children also have their troubles-share them with good friends when they are happy, and talk to friends when they are wronged, because it is useless to talk to their parents.

Parent-child communication, in some families, is like this: parents talk more and listen to children less; Parents draw more conclusions than children, and children can only passively accept them; Parents have more wishful thinking, children can freely express their inner feelings and thoughts, and children are often in a passive state. Over time, children become habitually depressed, and the possibility of telling the truth to their parents is getting smaller and smaller, and the parent-child relationship is alienated. Some children even think that their parents are horrible and unreasonable, and some even want to leave home as soon as possible.

Multiple causes of hearing loss

Parents expect their children to be obedient.

Many parents want their children to be obedient. What is obedient? What the elders say is what they do. Parents have not yet recognized from the heart that parent-child communication is mutual, and feel that letting children make irresponsible remarks in front of themselves reduces the dignity of parents in a sense. Some parents even think that "two-way communication is theory, children are mine, how to educate them is my business, and what I care about is how to make children obey." Some parents also said: "What children say and think is not reliable, and we don't have so much time to listen." A considerable proportion of fathers have no time to communicate with their children because of their busy work, social activities and social status. In addition, in the minds of individual parents, there is still the concept of "tree-straight". Parents don't have to be so stiff in front of their children, because they feel that there is no big shelf without communication.

Both parents and children have "obstacles"

Parents and children have difficulties in parent-child communication. Parents think that children nowadays are too complicated and have too many ideas, and it is too difficult to communicate with them. There are also some parents who find that the gap between their knowledge level and ability and their children is gradually widening, and there are fewer and fewer languages, so they simply reduce their communication with their children and talk about life and daily life in only three or two sentences every day; Some parents are worried about poor communication with their children and simply don't confront them, so as not to worsen the parent-child relationship due to conflict. Imagine, in such a state of mind, how can parents treat their children as "one person" and care, accompany, understand and experience what their children experience every day as important things? How can you listen?

The trouble for children is that they are afraid that their parents are not interested in listening, and even think that their feelings are too superficial, their ideas are too naive and their practices are immature; Afraid that parents don't believe in themselves, even if they have troubles, they don't take it seriously; Fear of poor communication will not only be understood by parents, but also delay time and affect the relationship with parents.

Homework is also a factor.

Busy parents and busy children are the real characteristics of today's social life. Everyone in the family is complaining: life is so busy, how can we pay special attention to each other's communication? I haven't finished my homework, I have to go to the training class, and I have a lot of housework to do ... So some children and parents have something to say, but they don't have time to say it. When they get home at night, they often go their separate ways.

Show parents' love by listening.

Communication is not all about talking, talking, talking. The really important communication element is "listening". Parents should open and broaden the channels of parent-child communication, so that children can sincerely express their thoughts and feelings without fear of rejection. In psychology, listening is more purifying. When children encounter setbacks, difficulties, depression or sadness, listening can precipitate and filter children's complex and excited emotions.

Parents who love their children should be brave and wise, dare to break their shackles, be good at changing their thinking mode and expression, approach their children actively, listen to their voices, and put themselves in their shoes to try to figure out their feelings, instead of expecting their children to be obedient forever and waiting for them to follow suit. Parents should believe that their children are capable of solving their own problems. You can only "accompany" your child through the hard times, but you can never solve the problem for him. The trust of parents is a catalyst to stimulate children's potential.

To listen to children successfully, parents should have the desire to "listen" to their children. If you are busy or bored, another day; Respect children, allow them to have their own views and feelings, and sincerely accept their different opinions.

Parents should not forget to listen. They should know their children's inner world and their thoughts, so that parents can communicate well with their children and educate them better.

Early education with better parent-child communication 2 There are three ways of parent-child communication.

Good communication is a good medicine to maintain the relationship between people. How to communicate with children? Under normal circumstances, parents rarely communicate with their children, and most of them are orders or reprimands. These methods are not the best way to communicate. The following three communication methods can only make you and your children drift away, and parents should avoid them.

(A) blame blame communication

"ouch! Look, you got your clothes dirty again! Wash clothes behind you all day, I am your servant! "

"You've had enough! If you don't do your homework, I'll see when you can become an adult! "

"Look at your messy desk, it can't be cleaned up!" ……

These sentences show a common feature-accusation and complaint. The communication between accusation and complaint often forms a "black triangle of family mutual accusation": in such a "black triangle", everyone may have a relatively fixed object of accusation, and family problems often break up in mutual accusation and complaint, and the problem is not really solved in the end, leaving an unfinished event. It is heavier to carry straw in rainy days. The more unresolved family events are, the more depressed or tense family life is, and the more dangerous it is. This is a very destructive family communication mode, and the accused person will either obey it or be rebellious and aggressive, which is extremely unfavorable to the child's personality growth.

(B) to adapt to please communication

"ouch! Mom doesn't know that you don't like this dish, so she will try to eat as little as possible. what would you like to eat? I will buy it tomorrow. "

"Why, I bought you this compass for primary school students? Sorry, I'll buy it tomorrow. " ……

To love a child is to love the child as an independent person who can take responsibility for himself, rather than accommodating and pleasing him. A accommodating family in communication seems amiable, but without sincere love among family members, it will develop bad personality characteristics such as dependence and stubbornness, weakness and willfulness. In addition, this kind of communication is not really problem-solving communication, but "solving" the problem by avoiding the problem, which is also a kind of communication that lacks constructive function.

In this accommodating communication mode, children are more likely to be willful. As long as parents indulge themselves, they seldom indulge their parents. The waywardness of children caused by this kind of communication is mainly manifested in the direct line and within the family, and children are often accommodators outside the family; When children grow up, they are likely to unconsciously form a small accommodating family and live in a family emotional atmosphere lacking sincere love.