Indeed, in today's urban romance dramas, there are many bizarre love stories of overbearing presidents; More full, the interpretation of the rich second generation driving a luxury car, holding beautiful women, entering and leaving high-end places, the scenery is infinite; Even the small bag in Ode to Joy 2 will always be an excellent example of the second generation. It is said that even Qu Jie, the black sheep of his family, is envious. He can play hundreds of millions at every turn, and his parents can also hold him.
Seeing too much of these will really make many young people have fantasies, change their three views, be vain, and aim too high; Or have a sense of gap, psychological balance difficulties, and even doubt life. More is questioning, can your efforts change your destiny? I'm afraid I'm struggling to make ends meet in Rainbow Baichuan business. Therefore, everyone needs chicken soup to soothe a fragile and injured heart.
We must think about this problem in reverse. It is precisely because the reality is so cruel that it is even more difficult for young people to start from scratch. So we have to make ten times efforts to shorten the time and gap of success as much as possible, because you have no choice. You will be proud parents of your children in the future. For the next generation, it is already an era of fighting for parents.
The last thing a person can choose is birth, and young people of our generation can't expect their parents to plan their lives for you. Not to mention that our parents are bound by social development, they may all be confused. Even our parents once told us guiltily, I'm sorry, your family is ordinary, you can only rely on yourself! We can also accept it.
After all, the previous generation still hoped that our children would realize their dreams and raise their children for old age. In their eyes, we should be better than them. When I was a child, I occasionally saw the information that illiterate parents had trained excellent college students and doctoral students in newspapers, and my parents would admire it. Take this as a case to educate us that "everything depends on our own efforts to change our destiny, and we can't count on our parents."
Even if our parents can count on it, it is mostly financial or personal support, and the later efforts still depend on themselves.
Qu in Ode to Joy is the best example. No matter how many possessions I have, even if I stand on a gold mine, I must have skills that I can use and control.
I used to have a male colleague A, who was actually very talented. He has a bright future working in a big company. However, you will find that everything he does is passive, without passion and without a positive view of things. He never continues to improve after finishing his work, and often laughs at his hard-working colleagues. So his immediate leader often chats with him, hoping that he can make progress.
But as a result, his leader always fails, because he will directly tell his immediate leader, "Why be so serious? I am actually a springboard in this company. My parents have arranged it and promised to transfer me to the headquarters of a big company in the same industry within three years. Including my entry into this company is also because of the relationship. " The implication is that I already have a career plan, so why bother?
However, in the final analysis, it is also because of A's cognition of "it depends on the relationship between parents anyway" and his disdainful and indifferent attitude. After three years, he not only didn't get what he wanted, but also felt that people of his age were getting promoted soon, and he still stood still and had no face to stand in the original company. Later, his parents helped him change to a similar position in another company. In the end, his work performance was still mediocre, but he only kept his job. He didn't get married until he was over 35, and his previous pride was completely gone.
On the other hand, Qu Xiaoyu's Ode to Joy is simply an inspirational case of the second generation's successful counterattack. Because of family factors, although Qu Xiaoyu has a unique personality, she can integrate her parents' superior resources, give full play to her strengths, practice herself through her unremitting efforts, be diligent and dedicated, and make small achievements. It can be seen that parents have to work hard to make progress.
In fact, for young people today, times have changed. Whether you can count on your parents or not depends on yourself. The difference is that you can't count on the next generation.
If you are not strong, maybe you really can't give your children a fair chance and lose directly at the starting line, which will affect their life trajectory. On the contrary, if we can create good conditions for our children as parents, children can really take many shortcuts.
Take the current child education as an example. The competition is so fierce that everyone wants their children to win at the starting line. Therefore, children begin to learn very early. From kindergarten, they will enroll in many excellent courses and choose famous schools.
Didn't you see the smoke behind the enrollment of famous schools? It's all a contest of parents' abilities. For kindergarten to primary school, a prestigious school must first interview parents and children together, otherwise even the school gate will not be accessible. This is the rule of competition.
Don't say you haven't studied, you don't have a decent job or a high income, and you don't know a foreign language. Then you should at least speak gracefully and be polite, and your children should dress appropriately and have good upbringing and habits.
These can't be faked, they must be the result of daily education. Otherwise, it can only be directly despised by the first-class schools, and the elimination is certain.
Even if your children pass the subsequent public examinations, the annual tuition fees of these prestigious schools are much more expensive than those of general compulsory education, but other schools are reasonably expensive. This is called quality education.
Your children can have the best children to accompany them, and the environment is definitely better than the mixed schools in the planning area. The value is immeasurable. Schools often organize practical activities inside and outside the school, exchange activities outside the school, and occasionally have the opportunity to study and exchange abroad.
Your child's participation will certainly increase the chances of recommendation from famous schools, broaden your horizons and improve your spoken English. These opportunities require fees, plus the annual tuition and fees. Without an economic foundation, your children will not be able to attend such a prestigious school, which is a test of their parents' economic conditions. For example, a famous junior high school here charges nearly 200 thousand a year, which makes ordinary families flinch at first sight.
Which parent doesn't want their children to receive the best education in a good school? However, many people still hesitate to face tens of thousands of prestigious tuition fees in primary schools.
In addition to the increasing educational expenses, the expenses of children as adults also remind us to work hard and plan ahead.
Regardless of boys and girls, future marriage, housing and career achievements are all indicators for children to find objects. You want to give your child a basic living guarantee, and dignity will not drag him down to support the elderly. Housing, pension, medical care and other expenses add up, even according to the current standards, it will cost several million, can't it be hard?
How will you support yourself after 20 years? Do you want to be Fan Meisheng's parents? Still expect children to live a life of their own in the future? Children are not a tool for you to pay your debts. On the contrary, as a parent in the future, you will become an important factor in determining the direction of your child's life.
Some people say, either I'm a dink, or I won't get married, have children and be a single aristocrat. Same problem, you have to support yourself, right? You have to support your parents, right? Even if you buy some gifts for the holidays, it is not a small expense. Also, in order to avoid loneliness, you will also make good friends from different classes, all of which need an economic foundation. Therefore, no matter what role you play in society, even if you are not a parent, you must have the capital to fight.
In short, a person's superior and quality life, comfortable and dignified life and independent and responsible life all need to be supported and exchanged with economic strength.
You must constantly study, cultivate yourself, work hard, know how to be a man, be good at integrating resources, constantly create more value, and get a happy life with a career, friends, a happy family, a sense of social responsibility and status. Only in this way can you create a solid foundation for your children, so that they can thrive and become their role models.
No way, because this is an era of fighting for mom and dad!
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