Children should also be given safety education.
I was very sad to see the report that "a 4-year-old boy fell off the slide" in the evening paper of128. Kindergarten is of course responsible for the intracranial injury of children. However, there is a problem worthy of attention, that is, is it necessary to carry out safety education for children?
Children are still young, ignorant, pushing and shoving, but parents and guardians should instill in their children what they can and cannot do.
There is a playground in front of our house. I found that not only children have no safety awareness when playing, but also parents have no safety awareness. When chatting with parents, I suggested that children should be given safety education from an early age. But young mothers feel that children should not be so bound and should be allowed to grow freely. I can't help laughing. If you don't bind the child, you don't bind his mind and don't let everything go with the flow. We should have a * * * knowledge: there are some obvious forbidden areas, and no one can enter.
Early education should lay the foundation for children's lifelong development.
With the rapid development of society and the progress of the times, people's cognition and attitude towards education are constantly updated and developed. The word "early education" is no longer strange in modern families, and the concept of "not letting children lose at the starting line" circulates in the hearts of parents. "Early education" actually refers to educational activities carried out by preschool children aged 0-3. Children at this stage are in infancy, which is a critical period for the development of life intelligence. Some people think that children aged 2-3 are the best age to learn spoken English. Grasping early education can improve the learning effect, which is also the result of the interaction between heredity and environment. Therefore, it is very important to seize the opportunity of education and learning in early education.
Parents pay special attention to their children's preschool education and hope to develop their intelligence and potential in the initial stage of education. However, many parents blindly follow the trend and simply don't understand the concept and significance of "early education".
In fact, early education refers to the preschool education that children receive. But as we all know, children aged 0-3 belong to the category of early education. It is generally recognized that the education of children aged 0-3 is called enlightenment education or children's education. Zhou Hanmin, an expert in baby-friendly early education, said that this period is the most critical period for children's nervous system development and various potential development, and it is indeed a good opportunity for education. The core of early education is to provide an educational and nutritious environment to "activate" children's brain development and personality growth, thus laying a solid foundation for their future development.
In recent years, the state has also given recognition and support to the implementation of early education, encouraging children's intellectual development and education at this stage, thus greatly promoting parents' awareness of early education. From the country to the family, we can fully realize the importance of early education to children.
Parents should also follow their children's interests in the course selection of early education. In infancy, children's interests are difficult to grasp, but after a period of time, children slowly begin to look for their favorite images or sounds, and parents can find their interests from these details. We can't expect a 23-year-old baby to study hard, but as long as the child is interested, he can concentrate on an activity for a long time. As long as parents discover their children's interests, they can create many situations and teach their children to learn literacy and reading. When interviewing the parents of children who participated in early education, Ms. Zhang said that children were "fans" when they were very young. They heard the phone ring and followed. After the observation, they signed up their children for music lessons. The children not only listened carefully, but also accepted the course content happily.
Zhou Hanmin, president of Baby-Friendly Early Education, suggested that parents should first choose brands when choosing early education institutions. The brand behind it represents the quality of education and years of experience, and education must rely on the accumulation of time and good ideas to continuously improve; At the same time, it also depends on the educational philosophy of this institution and course. Nowadays, parents' ideas are diversified, the curriculum system at home and abroad is in institutions, and the classification is also detailed; In addition, ask parents who are already in class to see their comments and word of mouth.
The mother's tone affects the child's life.
Core Tip: Experts say that successful tutoring is closely related to parents' oral expression. In particular, the tone of parents talking to their children will have a far-reaching impact on their emotional intelligence, IQ, temperament and self-cultivation.
The tone of trust
Children especially want to gain the trust of adults, especially parents, so they should show full trust when talking to children. For example, if a child wants to learn to play badminton, you say in a trusting tone, "Star, as long as you study hard and study hard, you will definitely learn to play." This invisibly gives the child a kind of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success. If you use an ironic tone: "Do you still want to play ball after three minutes of enthusiasm?" It will hurt the child's self-esteem and make him feel insecure about his ability.
Respectful tone
From the age of two or three, children's self-awareness begins to sprout, and this self-awareness will become stronger with age. Children have their own opinions, which shows that children know their own strength and ability. When he puts forward his own different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, opposes you and rudely opposes him. If you let your child learn English, but he wants to play with friends, you can't lose your temper: "The older you are, the more disobedient you are. Don't study hard and see what you can do when you grow up. " Doing so will only make children more disgusted with learning. You should use a respectful tone: "Then you can play for a while, but after that, you must learn English." Children are willing to accept it.
The tone of discussion
Every child has self-esteem. If you want your child to do something, you can let him know that he is equal to you and you respect him. For example, if you want your children to pick up toys that have fallen on the ground, you can say, "Stars and toys are littered. What a bad habit. Will you organize toys with your mother? " Never use a commanding tone: "What's the matter with you? Toys are thrown everywhere. Hurry up and clean them up! " "Otherwise, children will be disgusted with your criticism, and even if they do what you ask, they will be unhappy.
An appreciative tone
Every child has advantages and a desire to show. Finding and appreciating a child's advantages will make him more willing to show it. The child drew a picture, perhaps not very well, but the enthusiasm and seriousness of the child's painting is the greatest advantage. When a child shows you a picture, you can't simply say, "It's just so-so, practice hard." This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in painting. His works should be affirmed in an appreciative tone: "I didn't expect my baby to draw so well." If you continue to work hard, you will definitely draw better. " Children's desire for expression is satisfied, and they will be more interested in painting if they have a happy emotional experience.
An encouraging tone
Children can't be blameless. When a child does something wrong, don't criticize blindly, but help him learn from his mistakes, accumulate experience and encourage him to succeed again. For example, when a child helped his mother to fill a meal for the first time, her mother fell to the ground and smashed it. You can't blame him: "It's stupid to even hold a bowl unsteadily." This will hurt children's confidence and courage to try new things. You should use an encouraging tone: "The star accidentally broke the bowl, it doesn't matter. Try to iron it with your fingers before serving. " This not only teaches practical methods, but also gives children the confidence to try again.
Try to figure out the child's psychology
Don't think that children don't understand psychology. In fact, children are good at trying to figure out the psychology of adults, not only trying to figure out, but also using psychological tactics to deal with adults. For example, adults eat breakfast in a hurry in the morning, hoping that children can eat faster and urge them to "hurry up, hurry up", so that they can go to work quickly after sending their children to kindergarten. However, the child ate slowly and didn't have a bite. In fact, there is a "career" in the child's stomach. In the evening, adults can do something when they want to settle their children. But the child just ignores it, refuses to wash his face, refuses to take a bath and so on. This makes adults very angry. This is actually because children are not satisfied with the arrangement of adults, or they have not reached the price expected by children. Therefore, the way children treat adults is slow and indifferent. There is no need to be angry, and there is no need to push or force the child. Tell them what time it is and how much time you have to play. Or tell your children when and what you should do. Let the children think about what will happen after this time. Describe the consequences in as much detail as possible. Children will feel that they have failed in this way.
Cultivate children's language ability in the family
First, create a good environment and conditions for children's verbal communication.
Whether children dare to speak boldly has a lot to do with the family environment. Therefore, parents should create an environment that can make children want to speak, dare to speak, like to speak, have the opportunity to speak and get positive response. First, let the children have something to say. Parents' attitudes and emotions should be suitable for children's development. Parents should consciously create a harmonious and beautiful family life environment and create a new type of democratic relationship, so that children are willing to communicate with their parents. Children are naturally curious and curious. Parents should never lock up their children because they are bored and noisy, but should guide them to think and explore issues that children are interested in. Parents should take time out to play with their children and increase language communication with them. If children are always left to play alone, where does language communication start? Secondly, parents can make and design materials and games to induce children to talk, so that children can have something to say. For example, in the game Little Recorder, two people sit or stand face to face. One person plays the tape recorder, the other person presses it, then says a word to record, and then presses it to play. A tape recorder must imitate and repeat, and then change roles. This is a good game that can cultivate both listening and speaking, and also increase the affection between parents and children. Why not? In addition, it is necessary to enrich children's life experience as much as possible, so that children can speak more abundantly. Parents can consciously take their children in and out of some social occasions and let them participate in social activities. For example, let children buy things when shopping; When seeing a doctor, let the child tell the doctor about his illness; Communicate with peers and hold a "birthday party"; Do what children want to do, and so on.
Second, guide children to actively listen and speak in literary appreciation activities.
Children like to have their parents tell him stories, but most parents finish them. In this regard, we might as well change. First of all, it will be better to ask questions after telling the story, especially questions that children are interested in and can increase their knowledge. Parents should ask questions openly, the range of questions can be large or small, and the angle of questions can be changed. For example, before telling the story of "Three Little Pigs", parents can ask their children, "Guess whose story you are telling from the name of the story, and what will happen to them." This is much better than asking children "what's the name of the story", because the former is more helpful to cultivate children's imagination. For another example, when guiding children to look at pictures, parents usually ask their children, "Who is in the picture?" If the question is changed to: "What do you see in the picture?" This is better. Although the two have the same meaning, the scope of the latter question is expanded. Children must carefully observe the pictures and understand them before they can answer, and the answers will not be single or identical. Secondly, we should vigorously advocate two-way questioning, that is, parents ask questions and children answer them; Children ask questions and parents answer them. This can not only improve children's interest, stimulate their thinking, but also make them change from passive to active. We all know that it is more difficult to ask questions than to answer them. If children are sometimes asked to ask questions after the story is finished, parents can better understand their children's understanding of the story and the education is more targeted. Furthermore, children's desire to perform can be cultivated in the family. After dinner, the family might as well hold a performance and take turns telling stories or reading children's songs. This can not only develop children's language ability, but also cultivate their courage and desire for expression. Finally, we should pay attention to creativity in language training. For example, let children adapt, continue and create a part of children's songs or stories, freely choose pictures and arrange pictures for creative telling, and let children cut out their favorite patterns from waste books, paste them on white paper to make small books, make up their own stories and tell them themselves. In short, as long as you pay attention, you will leave more opportunities for your children. What we have to do is: parents who can let their children talk don't talk, and parents who should let their children listen attentively don't interfere; In the case of disagreement with children, parents should not arbitrarily force their children to obey, but should persuade them calmly.
Third, timely debate in the family.
We can use the time before and after meals to have a small debate with our children. For example, "What's in the sky?" "Who is better, the lion or the bear?" Debating on some topics without specific answers can not only develop children's language ability, but also cultivate children's thinking ability, especially suitable for obedient and timid children. Parents encourage their children to actively participate in activities and express their views boldly, which is also very important to cultivate their language expression ability.
Parenting strategies of children with different blood types
Type A children: Type A children are often timid, often hiding behind their mothers and carefully observing the surrounding dynamics; He doesn't like being in complicated interpersonal relationships and likes to do what he wants alone. A-type children lack self-confidence, and will lose self-confidence if they are slightly frustrated and hit; I like being emotional. He is sensitive to the evaluation of strangers, so he will please others and be afraid of being annoying.
◎ The key point of education is to help them build their self-confidence, and the most effective way is to "praise". The principle of punishment is never to hurt his feelings.
Type O children: Type O children have strong self-confidence. When doing things, only work hard towards your own goals, and it is not easy to be disturbed by external things; When this character goes to extremes, it will appear very headstrong, stubborn and stubborn, refusing to admit mistakes.
◎ The focus of education-appropriate praise and praise, and praise first, then blame. Don't praise him with improper "rewards", so as not to form the habit of being too careful and asking for remuneration. In addition, simple preaching will not play a good educational role in treating wayward and stubborn O-type children, and parents can focus on cultivating his modest learning attitude.
Type b children: they are also sensitive to changes in the surrounding environment, sensitive to reactions, and love to pay attention to other people's expressions; He is an optimist, always carefree, but impulsive and easy to do whatever he wants; The biggest weakness is lack of patience, stability and persistence.
◎ The focus of education-when praising, first tell him the reasons for encouraging him, and then reward him; Don't praise blindly. You might as well give him a hug when praising him, or put your cheek on his face. These intimate actions are the easiest to stabilize the mood of type B children.
AB-type children: The advantages of AB-type children are that they are decisive in everything, quick in action and extremely considerate; Impulsive, when encountering insurmountable difficulties and obstacles, the mood will immediately appear very unstable, irritable and even lose his temper.
◎ Education emphasis-proper praise and gentle attitude will stabilize his mood, and encouraging language will make AB children obediently accept their parents' opinions and revive their self-confidence.
The baby loves to lie, which may be "angel syndrome"
Core Tip: Some babies like to lie, so why do babies lie? What should I do about his behavior?
* Mom is annoyed: 4-year-old son actually began to "lie"
My son is almost 4 years old. Recently. Suddenly found out that he would lie. He insisted that he didn't watch TV just now. Watching him accidentally break the toy, I asked him but said he didn't do it. Baby, why did you lie? What should I do about his behavior?
Expert interpretation: 2-6-year-old baby "lying" is the best cold treatment.
For babies aged 2-6, most of the time, they don't understand that they are lying, because within their cognitive range, they don't know the difference between "truth" and "false", "right" and "wrong". In their world, things that can make them comfortable and happy are "right", and things that can avoid parents' anger and blame are "good". Most of their lying behaviors are still in the imagination stage. At this stage, parents only need to pay attention to the frequency and content of the baby's lies, and must not beat and scold the baby, but patiently share the world he said with the baby. At the same time, natural transition can also be ignored.
* Why do babies lie?
"angel syndrome"
If the baby realizes that his parents think he can't do anything wrong, he will start thinking, "My parents love me because I am great. A good baby wouldn't spill milk like that. What milk? I didn't see any milk spilled! "
Rich imagination
His creativity is fully developed, so that sometimes he may think what he believes is true. Why can't there be talking fish in the bathtub? Or is there a princess under the bed?
neglected
How can an energetic two-year-old baby remember who played Teletubbies first? All he knows is that he wants it back now. When you criticize the baby because of the brush strokes on the wall, and he says he didn't do it, it doesn't mean that he is lying. He just forgot that he did it-or he hoped that he didn't do it so strongly that he believed that he didn't do it.
Fear of punishment
2-3-year-old babies already have some basic right and wrong judgments. When they find that they have done something wrong, they will instinctively fear the punishment that will follow. In particular, I have had the experience of being reprimanded and punished for doing something wrong. So in order to escape punishment, they will make up lies to cover up their mistakes.
Parents expect too much.
Some parents are very demanding of their babies. If the baby behaves well, they will be happy and meet all the requirements of the baby. If the baby doesn't meet expectations, they will reprimand the baby. In the long run, babies will lie to please their parents. If parents don't understand the situation and let the baby lie successfully, it will strengthen the baby's lying behavior.
negative impact
Children's imitation ability is very strong, and a casual lie of adults in social interaction may be imitated by the baby. If parents often tell small lies in front of their baby, the baby will lie in similar situations in the future. On the other hand, what parents sometimes say inadvertently cannot be fulfilled for various reasons. For example, some parents promise to take their baby to the park on Sunday, but because of emergency or special circumstances, the baby will think that adults are lying, and he can lie in the future.
* What should you do in the face of a lying baby?
Although there is no need to punish him, you can skillfully teach him to tell the truth naturally in a way that he can understand at his age.
Don't "label" your baby at will
Babies' lies are often not meant to hurt others. Parents should not easily equate the baby's lying behavior with the baby's quality, and should not label the baby as a "little liar", "liar expert" or "braggart" just because of a baby's lies. This will not only help the baby get rid of the problem of lying, but also strengthen the baby's lying behavior, which may prompt the baby to lie harder in the future.
Help your baby distinguish between reality and imagination.
Babies' lies are not always intentional, especially young, imaginative and creative babies are more likely to lie imaginatively. Parents should pay attention to telling the baby what is happening in daily life and what is imagined, so that the baby can gradually distinguish between reality and imagination.
Verify that the baby is lying.
When parents suspect that the baby is lying, they should first conduct careful investigation and understanding to find out whether the baby is really lying, because sometimes the parents' judgment is not necessarily correct. If they act rashly without knowing the truth, it may have a bad influence on the baby's mind and even cause tension between parents and children.
Find out why the baby lied.
When the baby lies in the expected negative consequences, parents should understand the baby's needs and formulate more practical rules; If the baby can do it and is willing to do it, he naturally doesn't have to lie. In addition, some babies will lie to attract their parents' attention because they have little contact with their parents. In other words, parents should strengthen communication and interaction with their babies on weekdays, learn more about their ideas, and let them feel their parents' care and attention.
Encourage the baby to tell the truth
Instead of worrying about the baby's misconduct, thank him for telling you everything, and he will probably feel that his honesty has been recognized. If you yell at him about it, he will feel that he should not tell the truth.
Treat the baby with a normal heart
Parents should not blindly compare their babies with other people's babies and make too high demands on them, which will not only lead to the baby lying, but also make the baby lose self-confidence. Parents should teach according to the baby's actual situation, interests and characteristics. As long as the baby makes progress every day and can give play to his own advantages and specialties, parents should be happy and proud of it.
Don't put too much pressure on the baby.
Parents should keep calm when the baby is found lying. Simple education methods such as beating and cursing blindly can only push the baby to the opposite side of the wish. Many babies lie when they find that they have done something wrong and are afraid of being scolded by their parents. If parents keep beating and cursing, it will be counterproductive. We should analyze the cause and effect, find it in time, correct it in time, and don't tell the bigger lies. Be persuasive, point out the harm of lying to your baby, let your baby know the mistake in guilt and correct it in encouragement.
In addition, parents should also master the psychology of some children to distinguish whether the baby's words are naive imagination or deliberate lying. There is a qualitative difference between the two, and the treatment should also be distinguished.
Give encouragement in due course.
I can tell my baby that even if he made a mistake this time, my mother is glad that he has the courage to admit it, and I believe he won't make the same mistake again. You can also share your childhood experiences with him, so that the baby can know that this is not the worst case. In addition, when the baby is willing to admit his mistake, he should be encouraged in time to let him continue to develop in the direction of positive behavior.
Build mutual trust
Let the baby know that you trust him and he can trust you. Nothing is more important to you than honesty. Mom and dad should be role models for babies. With this goal, you should try to avoid half-truths yourself. For example, if your baby needs to be vaccinated, don't tell him that it won't hurt (he will know it immediately). Try to keep your promise and apologize to him when you can't. The most important thing is to praise the baby as soon as he tells the truth. If he admits that he ate cookies, you should control yourself from criticizing him, but thank him for his frankness. Positive emphasis on correct behavior will produce surprising results.
Parents should set a good example.
Parents should set an example and set a good example in daily life while asking their babies to be honest. Don't inadvertently make promises that you can't make in front of your baby, or deceive people. Pay attention to honesty and trustworthiness in daily life and work. Commitments to your baby or others should be earnestly fulfilled, and mistakes should be admitted in time and corrected seriously, so that your baby can learn good behavior from them.
* What misunderstandings should children avoid when they "lie"
Educate the baby by beating and cursing.
Some parents don't understand the psychological characteristics of babies of this age. When they find that babies are lying, they will educate them by scolding them, and some even use force to deter them. I think if the baby doesn't lie, it will get worse in the future. But experts believe that this is only the most primitive practice. On the contrary, in order to avoid the abuse of parents, babies will increase the frequency of lying and develop into habitual lying.
Parents lie in front of the baby.
Mom and dad are the earliest teachers of the baby, and their words and deeds affect the baby's growth. Therefore, parents should first be sincere to people and things and set a good example for their babies. Many studies show that babies who often lie often come from families where their parents often lie. Even if the parents tell a "white lie", the baby can't tell the nature of the lie in detail. So remind parents to avoid even white lies in front of their babies.
Judge the baby by lying or not.
Don't judge a baby by whether he is lying or not. Don't underestimate little lies. Analyze them carefully. If you can't really understand the reasons behind the baby's lying, you won't know what the problem is.