Have you ever wondered whether the way you educate your children really suits them? Is it really effective for children's development? Let's study together.

Chinese-style early education, as its name implies, is a Chinese-style early education method for infants. In China, there are many educational methods that seem to be used to it, but in the eyes of foreigners, there are great problems.

In particular, many unreasonable aspects may be unfavorable to children's future growth, but the key to rationality lies in whether the way of early education conforms to the law of children's growth.

First, the kindergarten function: education VS service?

The difference between Chinese and foreign kindergartens is obvious: domestic kindergartens pay more attention to education, while foreign kindergartens pay attention to service.

Most parents in China have the idea that what children can learn in kindergarten, what teachers teach every day, and whether to offer courses such as mathematics, piano, foreign languages and computers are the first choice for parents to visit a kindergarten.

Of course, kindergartens should try their best to meet the requirements of parents, but this is not in line with the law of children's growth. Children passively accept unreasonable education, which also creates such a situation: parents do not love children, but love in the wrong way, because love needs learning, methods, wisdom and parenting thinking mode.

Second, family education: intelligence VS quality

Different families have different family education, and domestic parents generally attach importance to their children's intellectual education and spare no effort to implement it, as can be seen from the scene of parents queuing at night in winter and summer classes every year. Parents abroad, even without the full support of kindergartens, pay more attention to the cultivation of children's basic qualities and instill them in their children through words and deeds.

Parents abroad believe that children are regarded as independent individuals, and they are not their parents' "private property". Parents will respect them to a great extent, and they are also required to respect their parents.

Moreover, they pay attention to the cultivation of children's basic qualities, such as wearing less clothes to exercise cold resistance in cold weather, and cultivating children's good habits such as strictly observing the concept of time and paying attention to public health. As for personnel training, they generally don't "force cows to drink water". Because effective education is the correct parenting thinking mode, ineffective education is random experience.

Third, values: intelligence VS physical fitness?

In China, how many words you know, how many Tang poems you can recite, how many songs you can play and how many dances you can dance are always the concerns of most domestic parents. Some parents also say that children's happiness is the most important thing, but it is often involuntary to implement it.

Parents abroad pay more attention to their children's physical development. They believe that children should be happy when they are young, but also a good opportunity to develop their physical fitness and lay a good foundation for coping with heavier burdens in the future. Therefore, it is natural to wear less clothes when it is cold.

Some parents abroad are extreme advocates of physical fitness. In order to take their children for an outing in sunny winter, they even take the initiative to ask for leave from kindergarten.

Parents in China want their children to go to kindergarten every day, so parents who lack the awareness of early childhood education will eventually miss the most precious growth time of their children's life.

Fourth, unreasonable Chinese early education?

1, nanny, grandparents take care of children

Many parents in China think that as long as their children are watched, their lives will not be in danger. In fact, from birth, children need to communicate with others, especially with their parents.

Children in many of our families have been neglected since childhood, lacking a sense of security in love, and pursuing the love lost in childhood has never been recovered.

Only by giving children enough love in the process of their growth can parents raise five good babies, and finally they will not be tired of themselves, and they will be able to live with their husbands and get along well with their mother-in-law.

2. Children become the object of comparison.

On the one hand, China people love face, on the other hand, they want to encourage their children to make progress. It is often said that you see how hard their children work, how good their grades are and what awards they have won.

This comparison is the most unacceptable. And often say it in front of many people. Every time you compare your child with others, it will only bring him more dissatisfaction and pain. Can you understand the baby's emotions when comparing?

3. Ignoring children's privacy and rights

Parents should knock on the door before entering the children's room, and let the children move or use their things. Any decision involving children should be discussed with them first.

We should respect all the rights of children and treat them as adults. This aspect starts with changing diapers at birth. In foreign countries, even when changing diapers, parents will kindly tell him to change diapers first and ask him to be patient.

Children don't understand, but they can feel it. People who are not respected will never know how to respect others in the future.

4. Molding children according to their own standards.

Many parents have pinned their hopes on their children all their lives and have been forcing them to take the right path. Even if the child is not suitable for it, or doesn't like it, for example, learning piano, for example, going abroad.

Under this pressure, the family becomes unhappy, and the happy time of parents and children becomes a struggle. At the expense of harmonious parent-child relationship, let children pursue some inexplicable and not necessarily correct parental ideals.

When children recall their childhood when they grow up, they are all unpleasant memories, which are really the actions of some failed parents. This is also the ultimate destination of controlling parents. Don't use love as an excuse to make your child the hope you want.

5. think that the harder you work, the better.

Many parents think that school performance represents everything. The goal is clear, and the rest of the parents' work is to beg with all threats and inducements. This outdated concept left over from the imperial examination era is still deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

In fact, school performance does not mean everything, but comprehensive ability (vitality, perseverance, personality, etc. ), which is an important factor affecting their lives. Whether parents have correct parenting thinking mode is closely related to the development of children's comprehensive ability.

6. I think it's good to get up early and sleep late.

Growing children need enough sleep. Now the education circles all over the country are committing collective crimes, depriving children of sleep time and destroying the healthy next generation of the Chinese nation.

Many children get up at 6 o'clock and sleep less than 8 hours a day. The misconception that getting up early is good for health is still being promoted throughout the country. Lack of sleep will affect development and brain power decline, so our children need enough sleep.

Of course, children don't get enough sleep, and parents don't help them develop the concept of time, which naturally makes them unable to sleep normally.

Seven, the love of parents is the biggest reason.

Between men and women, love is not an excuse to do whatever you want. Perhaps because there are too many TV plays, many people think that love can be an excuse for everything. What many parents often say to their children: We do this because we love you, not for your own good!

The best education comes from the heart and is reflected in every moment of daily life. Every time a child is excited, sad, angry and scared, you have to accompany him, but most parents can't understand their children's behaviors and emotions, let alone communicate effectively.

Strangely, how do we educate our children? Where did we learn the method of educating children?

Only through systematic study and training can we master a correct parenting thinking mode and help children grow up healthily and happily!