The little girl is at an age when her attention can't last long. Usually, her attention will constantly shift from one thing to another. However, once a child encounters something that attracts him, he will devote himself wholeheartedly and repeat the training again and again, with amazing concentration. When the child's hands are dirty, the mother asks him to wash them. Later, it was found that his hands had been washed very clean, but he kept washing. Wash it again when you sleep at night. A few days later, the mother found that her children would wash their hands consciously now, and the children would proudly show them their clean hands when they met people.
In fact, this kind of repeated practice of children is exactly what they need for exercise and study. Through repeated training, they have improved their various living abilities and developed their intelligence. As long as you teach carefully from the beginning, even if you teach every detail, the child will continue to practice. Because he got unimaginable fun and satisfaction in this process, these actions don't need to be forced by adults at all, and he will do well by himself.
It is through this seemingly meaningless repetitive exercise that children's ability has been exercised and improved. Moreover, in this process of repeated practice, their attention has been in a state of ecstasy, which also plays a great role in the cultivation of children's intelligence.
Free choice-let me do it myself
Children don't like being set by their parents or teachers, and they are eager to choose different things and behaviors. This free choice enables us to see their psychological needs and tendencies. As long as there is an opportunity to ensure that adults do not interfere, they will always choose what they like better, even if it is just a small ruler, and they will have a good time.
Some children are at home, and everything from what to eat for dinner to what TV programs to whether to attend training classes is not up to their parents. Children always feel that they have nothing to do with themselves and have no right to ask, so their childhood may not be as happy as adults think. Because of this, many children want to grow up quickly and do what they like. Letting children make some choices freely is an important aspect of cultivating their optimistic personality. Of course, most things are up to parents. Letting children choose freely does not mean that they can choose what they want to do, but what they need to do and what is right. But there are some things that children can make decisions, such as letting them draw white horses instead of flowers and plants. Of course, as children grow up, they should be allowed to decide more important things for themselves.
"Please don't order me, let me do it myself." When you hear children crying, you should realize that you can't easily interfere with their choices, and don't always think that your arrangement is just right. In fact, children just take pains to do what they are interested in. If you give your child something you don't like, it will only add unnecessary mental burden to your child and your child will not be happy.
Key points of education for 3-year-old children
In terms of IQ:
1. Early reading: read a story with him every day, test it with the big dog at home, or buy some story books based on pictures. This story should be short and pithy. When telling a story, pay attention to adding some adjectives or idioms to enrich his language ability. Tell him a story for him to repeat, or let him make up his own story by looking at the picture. Whatever he makes up, encourage him to go on and help him make it up from the beginning.
2. Role-playing games: accompany him to see a doctor, have guests, go shopping in Carrefour, the police uncle catches bad guys, and make up the game content to enrich himself. You and your baby play a role, such as watching a doctor's game, one plays a doctor and the other plays a patient. Teach him to observe these roles at ordinary times
3. Increase his knowledge: You can increase his knowledge through anything you see on the road, such as the names of various animals, plants and buildings, the uses of various shops, and tell him some astronomical knowledge by looking at the sky.
4. Review the learned children's songs, Tang poems and English words with the kindergarten curriculum.
Emotional intelligence:
5. Quality cultivation: take some time to chat with him every day, let him talk about kindergarten life, and then instill some good characters. You can also instill it by reading stories. After a story is finished, you can summarize the good qualities reflected in the story with simple words. Repeatedly, strengthen the impression.
6. Cultivation of love and compassion: Take every opportunity to instill in him that he must have love, know how to care for others and sympathize with the weak. You can read a growth diary "Cultivation of Love" on the baby's homepage. For example, when Guo asked me for clothes, he told the story of the child. He was only one year old, and his mother left him, so I told him the story of the child and asked him to give the bag of clothes to Guo himself. When you see beggars on the road, you can tell them that they are pitiful. You can also ask him to love animals and plants.
7. Cultivation of independent ability: let him do his own thing and provide him with the opportunity to decide something, such as wearing clothes, giving him two pieces of clothes and letting him choose what he likes; Going out to play allows him to choose a place to play. He usually does things by himself and tries not to refuse. If he wants to refuse, he needs to tell him the reason and affirm his enthusiasm.
8. Give priority to appreciation education, praise and encourage more. Don't hit the child, it will hurt the child's heart the most. Don't swear, but set an example.
When children are two or three years old, their initial self-concept appears, and they begin to have independent intentions such as "give it to me", "I want it", "I will" and "I will do it myself". If children's requirements for independent activities are met and adults support them, they will begin to establish self-affirming feelings, otherwise, they will easily shrink back. Most activities, including learning, are fresh and interesting for young children, so how did the weariness of learning come about? This is probably because adults like to use "simple commands", so children are easy to have opposition or aversion to work and study. ...
Independent education.
American psychologists have followed up 1500 children for a long time, and after 30 years, they found that 20% of them got nothing. Comparing the top 20% of them, it is found that the most significant difference is not intelligence, but personality quality. Outstanding achievers are people with strong perseverance, independence and courage. It can be seen how important a child's independent personality is to his growth and success.
Independence refers to a person's ability to analyze and solve problems independently, which is a necessary psychological quality for social survival and creative activities. Preschool education experts pointed out that the essence of survival education lies in cultivating independence, including independent consciousness and ability, and focusing on cultivating self-care ability. The cultivation of independence must begin at an early age.
On the performance of independence from the perspective of physical and mental development of children aged 2-3.
First of all, it needs to "get rid of the control of adults."
2-3-year-old children's self-awareness began to sprout, their speech and movements developed rapidly, and their cognitive range of the world around them expanded. They like to look around and touch around. They don't want adults to hold them or even let people hold hands. They have been able to express their wishes and often say "no" to what adults want him to do. He said to what he wanted to do, "I will, I will do it myself."
Second, because the hand and foot movements are not very coordinated, it is easy to fall when walking or running. Drinking water from a cup will overflow, and eating with a spoon will spill on you.
These phenomena are usually considered as "disobedience" and "stubbornness".
Third, eager to associate with peers. Communication is a development need of young children, especially the only child aged 2-3. They especially like to play with their neighbors' children, and even say things like "no one to play with me, boring". Parents often restrict his contacts on the grounds of insecurity and insecurity.
Children aged 4-2-3 are most interested in things that they know a little but are not yet proficient in, and like to do them repeatedly, such as playing a certain toy and playing a game repeatedly.
Matters needing attention and methods in education.
Family is the first place to cultivate children's independence.
Any child, whether an only child or a non-only child, has formed different personality qualities and abilities due to the influence of parents' education and environment. Independence is not born or formed naturally, but the result of shaping.
First, cherish the child's intention of self-independence.
When children reach the age of 23, they have an initial self-concept, address themselves with the first person "I", and begin to have independent intentions such as "give me", "I want", "I want" and "come by myself". Psychologists point out that when children's independent activities are satisfied or supported by adults, children will show pride and happiness, and will have initial self-affirming emotions and attitudes such as "self-esteem" and "pride", otherwise they will have negative emotions and attitudes. Therefore, we must cherish children's independent intentions, give enthusiastic encouragement and support, and let independence continue to develop.
According to the performance of children's independence, parents should seize the critical period of 2-3 years old and cultivate children's self-care ability according to the situation. "Doing your own thing" includes drinking water from a cup, eating with a spoon, urinating, wearing shoes and socks, and packing toys. If you miss the opportunity and form the habit of dependence and laziness, it will be difficult to correct it.
Secondly, don't overprotect children.
In Europe and America, parents attach great importance to the cultivation of children's independence and advocate "individual struggle" instead of relying on parents and others. They advocate cultivating children's sense of independence from an early age. When a child is born, a person is left in a room and rarely lives with his parents. The child fell down when he just learned to walk, so let him get up by himself.
In China, at present, there are more and more only children, which often leads parents to spoil their children too much, resulting in problems of over-protection and over-restriction. For safety reasons, children under the age of/kloc-0 are rarely provided with opportunities to practice sitting, crawling, standing and walking. Children are often held in their arms when they are awake, or often let them lie in bed, or sit or stand on a fenced cot. This kind of over-protection and over-restriction actually deprives children of the opportunity to actively explore and understand the outside world and hinders their psychological development. Parents should understand the characteristics of children's psychological development, do not suppress their independent activities, free their hands and feet, let their children do what they can, cultivate their independence, and lay a good foundation for forming a good personality.
Third, adopt appropriate educational methods.
Pay attention to the tone and way of talking to your child, listen carefully to your child and let him feel that you are respecting him. Don't force children to eat, let them do things as much as possible, and don't use the tone of command. Don't reprimand children for "disappointing", "stupid" and "worthless" in public, which will deeply hurt their self-esteem. Treat children with an equal attitude and respect their personality, not spoil them. Facts have proved that most children who are fully respected by their parents are very cooperative, friendly, polite and generous, and have a strong sense of self-independence. Psychologists believe that this is a good response for children to be respected.
Democratic parenting is conducive to the cultivation of children's independence. Parents should not impose their own opinions and demands on their children and deprive them of the opportunity to solve problems independently and develop themselves.
In addition, from the interest training.
Let children do everything to avoid simple orders and prevent them from having opposition or aversion to labor. Children have a strong interest in game activities. When children are asked to do symbolic work, they should try to play games, so that they will actively participate in it with enthusiasm. If they can persist in regular training, they will gradually form the habit of loving labor. Independence is inseparable from hard work and fear of hardship. If you don't love labor and are afraid of hardship, how can you persist in independence?
Everyone who studies early education thinks that 3 years old is the most important. When he was 3 years old, he knew that crying could attract others' attention, so he cried.
When he thinks he is good, he attracts others' attention, so he is good. You know, he is especially good at reading minds. So it is particularly important when you pay attention to him. If the child is good, you ignore him. If he cries, you ignore him. He may cry to attract your attention, so it may be yours. It has nothing to do with watching TV, but with your educational methods. I think a 3-year-old wants him to do things by himself. I wonder if your child has a wish, a wish to do things, a wish to help you do things? Like what does he want to do? The three-year-old boy wants to do one thing most. For example, if you mop the floor, he will also mop the floor. If you want to wash your hair, so does he. He wants to do whatever you want. At this time, he must do it. Don't say whether he is well or not. No, he didn't do well. Don't say. If you do it well, it's really not easy. Better than mom's. You are really capable. At this time, he is willing to do things.