Why should I accept it?

Indeed, the child's talent is not the best kind;

Indeed, in the years before school, children didn't pay much attention to their education and life because of their busy work.

But I have spent a lot of energy and financial resources on children's education since my child was 6 years old, and I have also seen remarkable results. Why should I think about making children "ordinary"?

If the child is "ordinary" in the future, how can he face his previous efforts?

In "intellectual education", we have invested a lot. Not only do parents spend a lot of energy on their own learning, environment creation, counseling and training, but so do children's guidance. The most important thing is that children have also made a lot of efforts to this end, and they can basically work independently.

In this process, he felt the influence of "hard work" on a person doing many things;

In this process, he has his own life goals;

In this process, he can arrange his own study in and out of class independently;

In this process, he learned, mastered and understood a lot of things other than learning. ...

Pay so much, just to make yourself "ordinary"?

You said it yourself. Does anyone believe it?

The question is, can you believe it?

When we know exactly what we want to achieve, especially how to achieve these goals, the most important thing is that we are already doing it and are already on the road. Why should we consider "ordinary"?

The purpose of our efforts is to make ourselves different and not to become those mediocre people.

When we have the ability to pursue, we are more willing to focus on how to make ourselves stronger and better, rather than telling ourselves over and over again that "plain is true."

Hard work is not necessarily successful. How can you succeed without hard work?

Is it just because you are afraid of failure and think that failure will make you lose face, so you need to pretend not to care all the way?

I know why many people say it is acceptable. The reason is nothing more than:

1, he didn't do anything, and he has to accept it if he doesn't accept it;

2. As mentioned above, he boasted about himself but failed to achieve his goal in the end. He was ashamed at that time, so he moved a ladder for himself first. ...

3. I feel that being low-key will not attract attention, will not be regarded as a competitor, and will not be noticed ... In short, I just want to "sneak into the village, don't shoot" and try to "create" a miracle without being noticed.

I have tried my best, but I still can't see the possibility of change, so I accept this reality.

Afraid of putting too much pressure on children, some children only develop their intelligence and ignore other aspects-this has always been a point that many people are particularly willing to "believe" that the parents of children with good grades and hard work are such parents ... I don't know why these people don't want to think about what they can think, and why can't other people's parents?

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In fact, in my opinion, seriousness, hard work and concentration are already "extraordinary"!

Looking around, aren't such people, whether students or adults, "special" enough?

Children can become an extraordinary person, which is of course what every parent can expect.

How to define extraordinary and ordinary? According to the secular point of view, "extraordinary" is those who are at the top of the pyramid, such as immortal great men or the richest man in the world; And ordinary is all sentient beings. Of course, this definition means that different people have different opinions. Some people think that as long as you can shine a ray of light in your own life, shine into others' lives, warm and inspire others, it is extraordinary.

According to the secular view, most people in the world are ordinary people. Then, if the child doesn't grow up to be an uneven mortal, it's not necessarily because the child doesn't work hard and make progress. It's just that ordinary people also have their own limitations that parents should accept. Although unfairness is always difficult, children should strive to pursue their extraordinary lives. This process is very important.

Writer Zhou said: "Everything in the world is ordinary and will eventually return to ordinary, and its value should be measured by ordinary life. Greatness, excitement and success are nothing. If you really live an ordinary life, life is complete. " We should not only accept our own trivialities, but also parents should accept their children's trivialities, create happiness in ordinary life, and live every day enthusiastically when the children fail to become extraordinary people after their efforts!

I like Mr. Jia Pingwa's views on educating children very much.

To be an ordinary person and do serious things, you can love small money, but you must have a big mind.

Therefore, I can accept that children will be ordinary and ordinary in the future.

But in the subject's question, I put the word "ordinary" in quotation marks, so I don't know what it means. Do you want to emphasize, or "ordinary" other meaning?

No matter from the perspective of genetics or social reality, most of us are ordinary, and we don't have enough accumulation in the development of our children, which determines that our children may be ordinary in the future.

Therefore, from now on, we must accept in our hearts that children will be ordinary people in the future and will be the result of ordinary people. So as not to expect too much, the gap is too big, and my heart is unbalanced.

If we are psychologically unbalanced, it will also have an impact on the growth and development of children. Whether for personal happiness or for the healthy growth of children, it is decided that we should accept the fate of children as ordinary people.

Being a star can win the attention of flowers, applause and lights, but it also loses the happiness of many ordinary people.

Ordinary people can cry if they want, scold if they want, smile happily, be angry if they want ... Free and casual. However, as a public figure, you can't be so capricious.

Do you think it is better to let the children be free, or to be bound by certain rules, honors, faces, etc?

For the sake of children's free and happy life in the future, I would like him to be an ordinary person.

Being an ordinary person, you can do what you want for decades. Accumulate, accumulate slowly.

But being a public figure is not that simple.

For us ordinary people, to make children famous, we have to make unimaginable efforts or take shortcuts. Shortcuts are sometimes desperate, and success comes from some crooked ways.

The former is too bitter and the latter is risky. Quick success often means rapid decline.

Life is full of grass and trees, and peace is the greatest happiness. What is the significance of creating such a magnificent and dangerous road for children's lives?

Turning to human history, thousands of people are extraordinary and buried in loess. This is the fate of most people. Why break the law?

Anyway, I can accept that children are ordinary. Because I am an ordinary person, I hope my children can also be ordinary people, do serious things and love small money, but they must have a big mind.

As the saying goes: "Dragon begets dragon, phoenix begets phoenix, and the son of mouse can make holes." Words are not rough, every child is the hope of a family, the future of a family!

An eight-year-old child once wrote such a poem: Before I was born, I picked my mother in the sky and saw that you thought you were very good and wanted to be your child. As a mother, I am very touched. Children's world is full of love and simplicity. I only chose you because I think you are very nice. What did you do to the child? Yelling, even fighting, because the child has not become the person you want her to be? Every child is actually an angel, and they should not be labeled as a mission by us, let alone be the person we want him to be. How lucky we are as their parents. We should bring him into this world and let him spend his life safely and happily. This is the best thing we can give our children. Because we are all ordinary people, we should have a real normal heart!

To accept children's ordinary, we must first accept our own ordinary, ordinary is the most precious!

The vast world, thousands of dust, extraordinary people are among the best, which can change history and promote the progress of the times, so extraordinary people can't achieve it casually. Who didn't have such extravagant hopes when they first became parents? Who doesn't want their children to succeed in the future? At least, they should surpass themselves. It is precisely because there are thousands of parents like Qian Qian in Qian Qian that there are so many off-campus institutions. Parents feel that tutoring their children is really tiring, and they also have the distress of "hating iron and not turning it into steel".

In the disappointment of high standards and strict requirements again and again, you can see the essence of the child clearly, accept the child as an ordinary child frankly, and put forward the correct requirements. This is the most sensible parent and the most necessary factor for the child to grow sturdily.

Only when parents accept their children's "ordinary" can they cultivate their children's normal heart. With such wise parents, they will tap their children's strengths and cultivate them wholeheartedly, so that the children cultivated by the family will not be too bad.

However, there are always some parents who are obsessed with this, forcing their children to become excellent, wasting their lives and money and giving up all their entertainment. The only goal is to cultivate excellent children. In the end, the children are miserable and depressed, the parents are exhausted, and the family relationship is deadlocked. Instead, the child became problem children, even with a distorted personality. Finally, being an "ordinary" person is an extravagant hope. How not worth the candle.

Everyone wants their children to be great and extraordinary. This can only be regarded as a good wish. Treating children correctly is the most important thing in life, so that ordinary children can gain happiness, self-confidence and responsibility ... and create their own extraordinary life.

Looking at this question, I remembered that I had been puzzled by a question many years ago. This question is my life, whether to choose a vigorous life or a plain life. Maybe I will wander about this issue when I was a child. However, as a mother, a child's mother, facing this problem, I will undoubtedly choose to accept the child's "ordinary".

What is "ordinary"?

The ordinary in life is simple. Live the most ordinary life for everyone. I don't want my children to be arrogant and generous, because being an official has power. Power is a double-edged sword, which can make you praised by the people or put you in jail. I don't want my children to have money, because the shopping mall is the battlefield of the other side. I prefer that my child is just an ordinary person in this society. I go to work every day, stay with my family after work, talk about daily necessities, and live a quiet and carefree life.

Ordinary is not mediocre. But it's common.

Every parent wants his child to succeed and his daughter to succeed. We attach great importance to children's education, from early childhood education to buying school districts for children. Look for good learning resources everywhere and stay up late at night. In the eyes of parents, only children with high scores can make a difference.

Some parents think that if I raise you to grow up, you must live to my satisfaction and achieve the goals I have planned for you. You want to win honor for me, and even impose the honor and disgrace of your family on your children. You are ordinary, why do you want your children to be perfect?

The definition of success is not how rich and charming you are. But to live with dignity, happiness and hope for the future. Positive, healthy and full of positive energy.

Don't expect your children to succeed, just hope that no matter what they encounter in their later life, they can accept it calmly instead of complaining. Live high, accept your mediocrity and refuse mediocrity. Try to live the life you want.

Ordinary is the only answer in life.

I can accept that my children will be ordinary in the future. I think all people, most of them are ordinary people. Finding a plain and normal job and an ordinary life is enough!

In fact, in this world, most people live an ordinary life. After all, there are only a few excellent people and a few popular stars. However, although stars earn a lot of money, their lives are under the eyes of the public, and their travel and entertainment cannot be as free as ordinary people. However, no matter how popular the star is, it will eventually return to the ordinary.

In the future, I hope that children will be down-to-earth in their work. She is ambitious. I won't be a parent to instill in him that he must be promoted and get rich. I think he can live a good life as long as he does his duty and does what he likes, without demanding too much from him.

However, as a parent, I think my child can live a normal life, but I don't accept her living in poverty. Since she was a child, I have tried my best to cultivate her and give her the best life I can offer. I tried my best to discipline her in her studies. Because I hope she can lead a normal life when she grows up, find a job with a low salary and want to buy a beautiful dress. She won't hesitate for long, because she is short of money. I can have my own residence, and when I want to travel, I won't dream because I have no money.

But these seemingly ordinary and simple lives, if our parents don't work hard, it is not easy for children to live this ordinary life. If our parents let their children go to school at that age, it is possible that she will not be able to lead a normal life when she grows up. The monthly income of cleaners exceeds 1000 yuan. Can she imagine traveling a lot? If the family income is too low and she sees thousands of clothes, does she dare to do it?

In fact, ordinary life also needs our efforts. If our parents don't work hard, their children's life will be more difficult in the future, and they will not be ordinary.

Once after I violently educated my child for "this week is not the champion of the week", my husband took a sympathetic look at the child and said to me faintly, do you know that there are three realms in life?

The first thing is: "I realize that I am an ordinary person." I thought to myself that I am an ordinary person. I didn't get a chance to explain, my husband has entered the next level:

The second one is: "realize that your parents are ordinary people". I think, isn't this nonsense? Just about to speak, my husband spoke again.

The third is: "I realized that my children are ordinary people", and I was silent at that moment.

We are ordinary people and live an ordinary life. Why do you want to ask your children to be dragons and phoenixes among people?

We ourselves are lazy occasionally, and occasionally we relax by playing drama. Why should children be asked never to slack off?

We are not top-notch ourselves, and occasionally we even shake our tails. Why should children be required to be proficient in everything and excellent in everything?

The children in the neighborhood were not top-notch since childhood, and they didn't go abroad to study or go to graduate school in the end, but now they live a light life, often accompanied by their parents, and become the most enviable family around them, while those extraordinary children may not be clear to their parents now.

I can accept that my child's future is "ordinary". In my eyes, being ordinary doesn't mean not making progress. Ordinary refers to an ordinary member of the crowd, not so dazzling, but he still enjoys it and pursues his own pursuit!

First of all, thank you for inviting me. At present, I am the father of a five-year-old girl. My definition is that no matter whether the future child is ordinary or excellent, I just hope that she will be safe in her future life. I don't need her to be too outstanding, as long as she is plain and stable. In the final analysis, parents' greatest expectation for their children is that they can live a safe life. And today's children are very smart and have a strong ability to accept external forces. Parents should always understand their children's psychology. They can spoil and drown, but don't overdo it. If they overemphasize her outlook on life, their outlook on the world may change, so they should be subtly guided, not forcibly instilled.

Every child is extraordinary, and her life track is irreplaceable by anyone. What I hope most is that the children's future road is plain and true, and peace is a blessing.