My husband He Yi and I are both foreigners. When we were going to get married, my family was very opposed. My mother said she couldn't help my brother if she wanted to take care of the children. I should find a local husband's family, and someone will help me then.

It's not that I haven't thought about it. I also had two local boyfriends. But the other family is very dissatisfied with me, or let my boyfriend break up with me, or find fault with me and show no respect.

I don't want to suffer this kind of anger, so I decided to find a foreigner, and both of us worked together, and neither of us despised the other. Later, I met He Yi and we cherished each other. We all know how difficult it is for two foreigners to work hard in this city. But we all have backbone and don't want to live a comfortable life without dignity.

When we got married, my monthly salary was 1000 yuan, and He Yi's monthly salary was 8000 yuan. Although it's 2000 less than me, he called me 6500 every month from the day he got married, leaving only 1500 for himself.

I don't care that he earns less money than me. I only care that he is willing to give me the money, which shows that he is United with me and has no defense against me.

The company has prepared a suite of 30 square meters for me. Although it's a little small, it's fully equipped, so it's no problem to live for two people. After marriage, we have been living in the company dormitory, avoiding the trouble of buying a house and renting a house.

Two years after marriage, I was pregnant, and I felt uncomfortable during pregnancy. I also insisted on going to work until the week before delivery, and I didn't take a vacation. After graduating from college, I joined this company and worked for many years. The leaders have always attached great importance to me, and I also like the company atmosphere. I am bent on hiring a nanny after maternity leave and continuing to come back to work.

However, people are not as good as heaven. After maternity leave, my daughter cried when she saw her. Later, I changed my parenting sister-in-law, but it still didn't work. Only when I take her can she be quiet.

I don't want to resign, and I don't want my daughter to cry every day. In desperation, I had to be a full-time mother.

02

After leaving the company, our family of three moved out of the company dormitory. He Yi's salary rose to 1 1,000 yuan. He gives me 9000 yuan a month, but he has to rent a house and take on the life of the whole family. Our family is still struggling. Fortunately, we still have some savings in the past two years, which can be supplemented.

Raising children is too expensive. My daughter is a living corpse. Coupled with various expenses, renting a house costs an average of more than 4,000 yuan a month, taking away half of He Yi's income.

I discussed with He Yi that I would take out my savings before marriage, borrow some from my family and buy a small house. Pay the rent. Finally, we can buy a house.

He Yi said that he had only 654.38 million yuan before marriage and his family could only borrow 50,000 yuan. There was a deposit of 200,000 yuan before marriage. My family felt sorry for me and gave me 654.38 million yuan, saying it was for me, but I still wrote an iou.

In this way, we paid the down payment and bought a small house. After deducting He Yi's provident fund every month, we have to spend some extra money.

Life is tense, but I feel hopeful. With a house, we have our own home, even if it is small, it is also a place for our family of three.

When my daughter is two years old, I want to send her to kindergarten and go out to work by myself. But she cried every day and refused to leave. After a hard day, she came back with a fever and a cough. She was ill for ten days, and I was too scared to send her to the nursery.

My savings have long been spent, which is all I have in my hand every month. I wish I could break a penny in half. I discussed with He Yi and asked him to change his job. Maybe his salary will be one or two thousand more For us at this time, one or two thousand is enough to improve our lives.

He Yi refused, saying that where he quit, the salary was so much. He has been in the company for a long time and everyone is familiar with him, so he doesn't want to change places. Near the end of the year, there is no money to buy new year's goods. Finally, I borrowed 1 0,000 yuan from my brother, at least for the New Year.

The children are still young, and we didn't go back to our hometown during the Spring Festival. I want to have a big New Year's Eve dinner, and cook some hometown dishes for Aunt He and me to relieve the pain of homesickness. Unexpectedly, He Yi looked at a delicious table and said that I was too wasteful.

Waste? It is six dishes and one soup, with fish and meat. My heart is bitter, and this year has been dull.

03

It is really uncomfortable to have no money in your hand, but no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, watching others give children early education classes and interest classes. Have no money to sign up for my daughter, but also buy more toys for her to play with and books for her to read?

Children's toys and picture books are very expensive. I don't want to wronged my children. You can only write some articles and make some contributions when your child is asleep. As a full-time mother, I play, cook, wash clothes and do housework all day. At night, I'm really exhausted. I just want to spread my hands and feet on the bed and get a quick sleep.

But for the sake of children, I have to support my tired body to write a manuscript. I often fall asleep on my computer desk. I write every night and get up early to correct my composition, so I am busy day and night, and I can only earn one or two thousand a month.

Even so, I am full of joy, because I have money to buy toys and picture books for my daughter. It is my greatest comfort to watch children have fun and have fun.

Aunt He was very happy to see that I had income. He said that difficulties make people progress and encouraged me to write more so that my family's economy could get better.

I was angry at his words. In that case, shouldn't he do more housework and take care of the children so as to free up my time for writing?

Aunt He curled her lips and said, "You only have a little income, so you are in a hurry to share housework with me? You know, I have raised you for more than two years. Shouldn't you do housework and look after the children? "

I was so angry that I quarreled with him and said that although I didn't have a job, I thought it was worthwhile to look after the children and take care of this family. If you care so much, I made a down payment of 300,000 when I bought a house, and he only paid 6,543.8+0.5 million. Must he supplement me with extra money?

He Yi listened to my words and coaxed me into saying that he didn't mean it. He just said something wrong and told me not to be angry.

I tried to reason with him, but my daughter burst into tears. I hurried to coax her, and then gave up.

04

When my daughter was 3 years old, I sent her to kindergarten. September is her birthday, and on August 3rd/Kloc-0, the registration of public kindergartens ended, so I had to send her to private kindergartens.

Private kindergartens are expensive, and I want to choose a better kindergarten. Finally, I chose a bilingual kindergarten, which costs more than 3 thousand a month. I thought my daughter went to kindergarten so that I could go to work. Actually, I think it's too simple.

The children were sent to the garden at 8 o'clock and picked up at 5 o'clock. I have to get off work at the kindergarten at least at 4: 30. Where can I find such a job? Children love to get sick. They have a cold, fever and cough for two or three days. One is sick for a week and needs their care at home. Which company can always take time off?

Helpless, I had to give up the idea of going out to work. He Yi began to complain frequently, saying that I couldn't afford such an expensive child care fee, and I still had to take care of the baby at home.

I said children need to socialize. She is 3 years old and should go to kindergarten to exercise. He Yi also asked me to send my children to the private kindergarten at the gate, only one month 1500.

I have been to that kindergarten, and the shops facing the street don't even have a yard. Every morning, the teacher surrounds a clearing on the sidewalk for the children to do exercises. The car ran behind them, and the children smoked exhaust while doing exercises.

I only have 20 minutes outside a day, and I can only stay indoors the rest of the time. The classroom is small, the teachers are not qualified and the food is not nutritious. I would never let my daughter go to such an irregular kindergarten.

He Yi and I have argued about this many times, but we have never reached an agreement. But the problem is, after deducting the loan every month and paying off my daughter's child care fee and various expenses, I only have more than 2 thousand in my hand, and I can't maintain a normal life at all.

Fortunately, after my daughter went to kindergarten, I had plenty of time. I seize the time to write articles every day, learn how to be a blogger, and share my experiences and lessons in parenting.

Gradually, my manuscript fee stabilized at 3000 yuan per month. More surprisingly, after three months as a blogger, I received a small promotion. Although the money is not much, it is a good start.

05

I began to work on making content, and more and more fans. Together with the manuscript fee and other income, my income is getting higher and higher, even exceeding He Yi's salary.

He Yi saw that my income was too high, and took the opportunity to ask me for less than one month 1000. It is said that he has only left himself 1000 pocket money every month in recent years, which is too bitter. Since my family is relatively well-off, I want to treat myself with some money or go out to socialize.

I think it's really too little for him, a big man, to have only 1000 pocket money every month. Now that I have made more money, I'm not worried about my money. I agreed.

Our life is getting better and better. He Yi is no longer stingy. Usually when I see that I am working hard, I will take the initiative to do housework and take care of the baby. Just when everything was going well, I suddenly learned a big secret.

The reason is that my college roommate jumped ship and went to the finance department of Heyi Company. Although we don't often contact each other after marriage, we still regard each other as our best friends in our hearts.

Due to lack of contact, I didn't know that she had left for He Yi's company, and He Yi didn't know her.

Who knows, one day, she suddenly asked me sideways, did He Yi go home from work, did he go out to play or something?

I am very sensitive to detect something wrong. After my repeated questioning, my roommate confessed to me that she found that part of Ameliia's salary was paid to the card every month, and the remaining 3,000 was paid directly in cash, which was too strange.

My heart thumped and asked her to help me find it. What the hell is going on?

Later, she said that she had inquired with the financial supervisor and said that He Yi's salary was paid like this more than six years ago, which was his own request. At first, the company didn't agree, but he wanted to jump ship. In order to keep him, the company can only agree.

Hearing this, I only felt a chill in my heart. More than six years ago, that year happened to be the year we got married. It turns out that He Yi has been guarding me since we got married.

During the three years of full-time work, I have been careful every day, and the money is not enough, so I forced myself. I always thought that He Yi only left himself 1000 pocket money. Unexpectedly, he left an extra 3000.

In this way, he saved a lot of money in the years after marriage. However, during the Spring Festival that year, he watched me borrow money from my brother to buy new year's goods, but he didn't give me any money. Even if he lied to me that the company gave me a bonus, I wouldn't doubt it.

He clutched his private money for fear that I would take advantage of him, but I was the wife who gave birth to his daughter, and the child was his own flesh and blood. How could he do this to us?

06

That night, I played cards with He Yi as soon as he came home. He was anxious to ask me where I heard it. I said, never mind where you heard it. Anyway, the news is right. Tell me if you have done such a dirty thing!

He Yi first looked at me in panic and was silent for two minutes. His expression calmed down and he said, "In recent years, you haven't earned a penny. I raised it all. What is wrong with me saving some money? Didn't I give you 9000 a month? Enough! "

I looked at him coldly and said that there was not much money left except for the loan repayment and child care. When I got married, I didn't ask him for a room or a car. I only ask for a symbolic bride price of 30 thousand, so that he can live with me sincerely after marriage Over the years, no matter how difficult it was, he didn't take out 3000 yuan. What do you think of our mother and daughter?

Yes, I haven't made any money in the past two years, but is it because I don't want to go to work that I won't make any money? I'm doing this for the children!

My in-laws can't help with the children. I have never complained. Of course, I can't make money by taking care of my children myself. Where can he support me? He obviously hired a free nanny and brought his own down payment!

We had a bitter quarrel, and He Yi didn't apologize at all. He said, "If I had a house and a car, those local women wouldn't refuse me and marry you? My parents didn't help with the children, and neither did your parents. My daughter is my own flesh and blood. I can raise her. You have hands and feet. Why should I support you for nothing? "

The moment I heard his words, I knew that our marriage was over. Perhaps, when we come together, we are all helpless, compromise and make do. But after marriage, I am 100% sincere to him. But he was wary of me from the beginning, and he still doesn't feel that he did anything wrong.

What's the point of such a marriage?

07

He Yi and I filed for divorce. At first, he strongly disagreed, saying that he was divorced and wanted to sell a house and share a house. He finally has a place in this city, and he will never divorce.

You see, he doesn't want a divorce because he can't bear to part with our mother and daughter, but he just doesn't want to lose his house. Really selfish.

I told He Yi that if he didn't agree, I would sue for divorce, and then I would hire a lawyer to see if he could handle it properly.

He Yi sneered: "Don't you just make some money now? Maybe in a few months, you won't have it! "

I told him that it wouldn't bother him, because I could support myself and my children anyway.

He Yi saw that my attitude was firm and had to agree to divorce. My daughter is mine, and the house is allocated according to the share of the down payment.

After the divorce, he advertised everywhere, saying that he had raised me for two years and I despised him when I made money.

Some relatives and friends believe him, and some believe me. I don't care what others think, I just want to take my daughter and live our little life. As for the house, I'm trying to make money. I believe that one day, I can afford the down payment alone.

In marriage, two people are comrades-in-arms and relatives. If a marriage is full of deception, calculation and concealment, then I would rather be alone. After all, I have the ability and confidence to make money independently.