The way parents educate their children, God is fair to every child, only unsuccessful parents and no unsuccessful children. Therefore, children's educational methods are very important. Parents should learn from others' successful education and make their children better. Below I share an article about the ways and means for parents to educate their children.

Ways and means for parents to educate their children 1 The education of children must "keep pace with the times"

Understand the child's living conditions first.

Research shows that 10% of children in China have mental health problems in different degrees, and the peak period is at 7- 10 years old and above. However, many problems, such as weariness of learning, shyness, lack of self-confidence and inattention, do not suddenly appear when entering primary and secondary schools, but are "stereotyped" when they are 0-5 years old.

To shape a healthy child, parents should be physically and mentally healthy first. Because family atmosphere, parents' concept, personal behavior and psychological state are all the psychological state and natural environment for children to grow up. If parents blindly care about the development trend of IQ, pay attention to test scores and encourage young children, this single-level shaping practice deviates from the regularity of children's physical and mental development trend, and the result is not only to shape unintelligent children, but also to continue to endanger their academic development because of their psychological and personal behavior problems.

As parents, we should first improve our self-cultivation, create a harmonious and warm family atmosphere for our children, attach importance to the balanced development of children in all aspects, understand children from their perspective, and enter the deepest part of their hearts. Only by understanding children's living conditions and children can we really and reasonably carry out early childhood education.

A young child is like a fertile virgin land. Intentional agricultural producers dress it luxuriously, while rude people always make it poorer and poorer.

Cultivation needs to keep pace with the times.

Mom and dad need to reflect on themselves.

There is an interesting classic line in the most popular TV series "Beijing Youth". I firmly believe that many parents in China are very clear: "I am doing it for your own good!" It is a typical new Chinese accomplishment. The taboo of raising children, that is to say, ask children what they think and design their development model from their own intentions.

Every child often has different temperament types, such as cheerful, quiet or sensitive. Along with the embarrassing systematization process, they also suffer from the harm of natural environment, culture and art, interpersonal communication and so on. At any time, anywhere, produce different personality characteristics. There is no difference between aura and personality characteristics, but it depends on how people cultivate themselves. The primary task of parents is to find out the temperament type of children and coordinate the care methods.

Extensive cultural education is generally "one pot cooking", and all children are educated in one way according to the script. Exquisite cultural education will help children become talents according to their different psychological needs and temperament types. Therefore, it is necessary to further explore the refined management of parent-child early education. As parents, they have the obligation to reflect on the harm of their personality traits, cultivation and intelligence to their children's development trend, and purposefully create a good psychological state, natural environment and success standards for their children.

The way parents educate their children. Educate children what they need to know, so as to maintain their precious sense of belonging and send them heroic energy.

Ten theories

1, often say something like "Mom and Dad love you very much, you are a good baby".

People often say that learning is a very happy thing.

Can leave the impression that learning is a very happy thing in children's minds, let children have the cognitive ability that learning is a very happy thing, and promote children to actively seek learning, learning and enjoying junior high school happiness.

I often say something like "I'm sure I can do it alone"

Encourage and strengthen children's confidence, and encourage children to study training, work ability and sense of responsibility alone.

4. Always say something like "You're doing well, you can do it, stick to it, I'm sure"

Encourage and strengthen negative cognitive ability, improve children's self-confidence and enterprising spirit.

Always say something like "You are smart and I am happy for you".

Using hints and constant determination is a way to encourage children to be smart. This is a way to ensure that you are smart, and you can do it by your own diligence. It is reported that many people have done an experiment. Under the same standard, the same two pots of flowers A and B, people often say to Iowa, you are beautiful and I like you very much. Tell B Hua that you are ugly and don't care about you. Three months later, a flower is thriving and blooming brilliantly. And b flowers wither and die. Hint has such a great effect on green plants, and it is even more harmful to people with ideas and goals.

6. Always say something like "I love you for doing this"

Negative confirmation. When children do something right, using this to motivate them will create a suitable norm for them, and they will do things according to this norm and face this sample.

7. It is often said that "mom and dad pay attention to their own situation, and you will definitely make the right choice, and your diligent parents will see it".

Highly active, encouraging children's self-esteem and self-confidence.

People often say that when you grow up, you make your own decisions about your own problems and allocate your own time.

First of all, pay attention to the excellent performance of children. The second is to encourage children to work independently by suggesting that you are an adult, have the ability to effectively distinguish and choose things, have the ability to decide your own affairs, improve children's subjectivity, and encourage children's self-esteem, self-confidence, responsibility and enterprising spirit. For example, if a child asks if you can watch TV series, if you respond in the above way, the child's mind will think about whether I should watch it or not, and for how long, and he will take the initiative to decide his own behavior.

9. People often say that "everyone has advantages worth learning and training"

It can let children know that everyone has advantages, educate children to learn and train others' advantages, create good habits of learning and training others' advantages, encourage children to pursue progress, and be humble in dealing with others.

10, you should say something like "I'm sorry, I misunderstood you just now"

When parents misunderstand their children, they don't have to escape. Wrong is wrong, and they don't have to be sorry. It is not easy for parents to apologize to their children, which is not conducive to your brand image in the eyes of children. On the contrary, it will make you hold your head high and set a good example for your children.

Ten goes without saying.

1, needless to say, "learning is a very helpless thing and a very painful thing. You must be diligent and studious. "

People have an instinctive reaction to avoid pain. You think learning is a very difficult and painful thing. If you insist on "hanging your head, your cone is cold", you will leave a horrible thing about learning in your child's heart, which will cause anxiety in your child's heart and put an end to the subconscious mind of learning and training. The idea of learning and training is painful but not painful. How to encourage children to study and train? On the contrary, you have been planting learning and training in your child's heart. Just like a mobile game, he will be interested in learning and training just like a mobile game.

Needless to say, "You are my hope, and I am counting on you. Is that okay? " word

One is to prevent parents' own pressure from being transmitted to their children, and to prevent children from feeling that if they are not very good, parents will have no expectations and how much work pressure is. The second is prevention. Is it okay? Avoid the problem of obliterating children's self-esteem, self-confidence and enterprising spirit.

Needless to say, the child is so stupid that I can see that you are in poor health.

It must be difficult to avoid judging children as "stupid" in one sentence, and to avoid obliterating children's self-esteem, self-confidence and enterprising spirit.

4. Similar to "What do children know? Ask less and care less. "

Prevent damage to children's self-esteem, let children participate in various theme activities, and encourage children's hobbies and curiosity.

Needless to say, you are not a child of our family, so don't be strong, you are nothing like me.

Prevent children from feeling that their parents don't like them or look down on them, prevent children from seriously hitting their self-esteem, prevent children from feeling that they can't keep up with their parents, put an end to their parents, and make parent-child communication worse.

6. Needless to say, it's not good to say it, and you can't play without working.

Children are children. I don't understand that you are good for them. Even if they know, they want you to talk to an approachable person. Prevent children from thinking that their parents' personality characteristics are overbearing and unfair, avoid destroying parent-child communication, and prevent children from thinking that you can't kiss, let alone be amiable and respectable.

7. Needless to say something like "children, please, mom and dad, you can be smart and study hard".

Prevent the daily learning and training tasks that should be undertaken by children themselves from being carried on their shoulders at once, avoid the illusion that children are learning and training for their parents, and promote their consciousness and initiative in learning and training.

Needless to say, it is close to "so eager for knowledge"

Curiosity is the basis of encouraging children's self-learning ability, and hobbies are the best teachers for children, so as to prevent children from being severely hit by learning and exploring professional knowledge.

9. Needless to say, I care about you after hitting you.

It is not logically correct to hit a child or fight for a child. Emotions are understandable, but not correct. Prevent children from having the illusion that their parents love their children and need to beat them for their own good, and avoid the feeling that their parents still don't love me and don't have to be true to me, and they are unfamiliar with their parents and afraid of them.

10, needless to say, your daily task is to study hard and don't think about anything else.

In children's eyes, all theme activities are mobile games, learning and training are also games, and playing games is children's nature. That kind of speech invisibly puts forward learning and training independently from children's daily life, turns it into a very serious matter, grants unique rules for learning and training, and gives children an illusion of cognitive ability, thinking that all the contents of daily life are learning and training, which increases children's mental stress and fear of learning and training. In addition, it also takes away the opportunity for children to learn knowledge and improve their working ability when doing other things, and also takes away the opportunity for children to exercise and practice activities, not to mention encouraging children's imagination, and it is even more impossible to encourage children's emotional intelligence.