Children's language learning has a basic process. For example, the pronunciation of children under 1 year-old is generally unconscious or has only simple monosyllables. 1-3 years old, can clearly express their wishes and demands. If the child's pronunciation is still unclear at the age of 3, even others can't understand it, then there is a problem.
There are two reasons for children's language development disorder: first, children have congenital developmental abnormalities, such as short soft palate or tongue belt, which affects normal pronunciation. This can be corrected by early detection and drug treatment. Second, the acquired environment is not good, such as parents' poor language education for their children, children's bad language habits have not been corrected in time, and there are still problems such as slow language development, poor pronunciation and stuttering. For children without congenital malformation, if there are problems such as unclear pronunciation and stuttering, parents should start to correct them as soon as possible, because the sooner they correct them, the easier it is for children to have a clear, coherent and standardized grammar foundation from an early age. If children have a certain language ability and form habits, it will be more difficult to correct mistakes. When correcting language problems, parents should not reprimand or ridicule their children, but demonstrate patiently. Children can also listen to the voice of the announcer on radio and television and encourage them to imitate the correct pronunciation. When children are found to imitate bad pronunciation, such as stuttering, dialects, etc., they should be stopped in time and told the children the correct pronunciation. Otherwise, incorrect pronunciation can't be corrected until school age or even adulthood.
"I have always comforted myself with noble words, but when I saw my colleagues' children singing children's songs and reciting Tang poems, my baby still stayed in simple names such as mom, dad, grandparents. Can parents not worry? "
"I dreamed of the baby talking several times in my dream. Every time her grandparents make a long-distance call and ask,' Does the baby talk much now? My mouth comforted them, but my heart was not a taste. " ……
Speaking of children speaking slowly, there are quite a few parents who have this problem in the early education QQ group. In fact, there are considerable differences in the language expression ability of babies. Some babies can talk a lot very early, and some babies are still "unable to open their mouths" when they are 2 years old. How to make children express fluently early? In this issue, we will invite experts and parents to share their parenting experience in this area.
expert opinion/advice
Before the baby is 2 years old, the key is "understanding"
Children learn languages, not just by talking.
Wang Huiwen, the founder of Baby-friendly Early Education Center, comforted these anxious parents. How much you say is not the most important thing before the baby is two years old. The key is "understanding". If he can understand adults well, then his language will be fine.
At the same time, learning a language is not necessarily "speaking". Wang Huiwen pointed out that language is just a symbol, including the "sound symbol" (using hearing) and "written symbol" (using vision) of speech. At this stage, it is mainly for the baby to understand, but it is not necessary for the baby to say it.
So when does the baby usually have a good expression ability? Generally, after 2 years old, especially after 2 weeks, 5 to 3 years old is the stage when the baby's language advances by leaps and bounds.
Maybe you will have such an experience in the future: the baby will suddenly say a lot of words from one day on, and some of them are not taught by his parents deliberately. This shows that the baby has been learning the language, but because he didn't express it, the adults didn't notice it.
When teaching babies to talk, parents must follow three principles.
How to promote the development of baby's language when the baby speaks fast and slowly? Xu Weiwei's suggestion is that parents must follow three principles:
First, play the piano to the cow: provide children with a rich language environment. Parents should always talk to him with expressions, tell stories and read children's songs. They can also often play appropriate children's songs, nursery rhymes, Tang poems and so on. Don't ask for more understanding of your children, just ask for language stimulation.
Second, procrastination and lag: in life, we should deliberately urge our baby to use language instead of using gestures or actions to express it. For example, if a baby drinks from a glass, parents should not be satisfied easily. They should encourage the baby to say "water" or "drink water" before giving it to him.
Third, pretend to be dumb: when the baby has needs, parents can pretend not to hear clearly and ask the baby's intentions step by step to stimulate the baby to express it in richer languages. For example, if the baby wants his mother to take the ball, her mother can deliberately take it wrong. If the child doesn't want to, the mother will take the opportunity to teach him: "This is a car, not a ball." Then give him the ball.
Mother's Heart Sutra
With these tricks, children's speaking ability has improved.
Hao: I often have positive communication with my children.
We should keep in touch with the children after they are born. Don't think they are young and don't know anything. When the baby is a few months old, I hold the baby in my lap and look up at her whenever I have time. When the baby looks at you, you tell her slowly and clearly, such as "Baby, this is an apple" and "Baby, I am a mother" ... When the baby starts to talk, he doesn't just open his mouth, but will try to talk after listening more.
Yutong's mother: Teach children to be concise and get to the point.
My daughter spoke early, and when she was four months old, she talked a lot, lasting more than ten minutes. She was too excited to speak. My experience is that talking to children should be concise and focused. For example, "baby's hands", you can teach your baby to say "hands" first, then tell her that this is "baby's hands", then "baby has a pair of dexterous hands", and finally "what can baby's hands do …" Some parents talk to their baby all day, but it makes no sense, and the baby is still in a fog for a long time.
Doudou Mom: Give him a sense of accomplishment from the simplest vowel.
Two weeks ago, my son only called his parents. Seeing that the children of friends around him can recite Tang poems and children's songs, he was anxious. Later, I went to the Second Provincial Hospital for an examination. The method suggested by the doctor is to teach the child to start with the simplest vowels A, O and E, and let the child look at your exaggerated mouth shape, touch the cheeks on both sides, and feel learning while doing it. Repeatedly teaching, giving encouragement immediately, and realizing a sense of accomplishment, children will have the desire to open their mouths.
Mom Qingqing: There is a similar pronunciation. Twist it correctly.
My daughter was taken care of by a nanny from childhood, and she will not be "Abba Marne" until the eighth week of 1. Recently, a very effective method has been discovered. When children want to communicate with you, there will always be some similar pronunciations, and you can teach them by twisting them correctly. For example, once my daughter giggled, I taught her to say "brother" conveniently. At first, what she said was inaccurate. I consciously guided her to play with her little brother and encouraged her to call her "brother". Later, I said it several times.
Expert reminder
If children don't talk, rule out the possibility of autism as soon as possible.
In recent years, autism has frightened many families, and the child's silence is a significant sign to judge that the child has autism. To this end, parents have had such concerns. Is it normal for children to speak slowly? To this end, the reporter specially consulted Mr. Pan, a senior special educator in Fuzhou and the head of the Small Windmill Children's Development Center in Fujian Province.
Pan pointed out that because both autism and language retardation have the characteristics of low language function, it is easy to mistake autism for simple language retardation.
"Because of the low incidence, many elderly people have never seen children with autism, but they have heard of or seen children who speak slowly but develop normally in the future. Therefore, it is natural to think that the child is late, and it doesn't matter. It will be natural when you grow up. Some parents have repeatedly hesitated to see a doctor, and finally dragged their children to the age of language development and missed the best treatment period, resulting in children having no language for life. "
How to judge whether a child has hidden dangers of autism? Pan reminded parents that apart from children's silence, autism has other manifestations for reference, such as:
1. There are communication barriers, no communication skills and communication awareness: many autistic children lack social skills, can't play games with their children, can't play well with toys and other activities that other children are interested in, and don't like to participate in multiplayer games or not at all;
2. Abnormal behavior and eccentric temper: I like a single way of doing things and don't like to change at will. Once a habit is formed, it is not easy to change, and sometimes it is difficult to maintain, which makes people feel exhausted.
3. Some children have language degradation: some children have language and pronunciation since childhood, and even can speak. As they get older, their language ability and pronunciation decline.
In contrast, language barriers have no communication barriers. They can play games with other children, communicate with each other and communicate through body language.
In addition, children have normal learning ability, can understand all instructions, master new knowledge, like listening to stories and have rich imagination. Moreover, such children have no degeneration process, other abilities are similar to those of children of the same age, and their IQ is normal.
In short, language retardation is only manifested in children of the same age whose language ability is lagging behind, and other aspects are normal, while autistic children are different from their peers in all aspects, especially in communicative learning.