Under the guidance of "I", can children maintain a strong desire to explore?
Has concentration been destroyed?
Are you good at studying?
When encountering difficulties, should you back down or try to solve the problem yourself?
Can you always maintain a confident and healthy attitude?
First, I don't know the various sensitive periods of children aged 0-6. It is against the child's nature to reprimand the child's performance during the sensitive period.
Children aged 0-6 have various sensitive periods. The so-called sensitive period refers to the period when children repeatedly operate an action or learn a certain ability within a certain period of time, driven by internal vitality, and their learning ability is particularly strong.
1, oral sensitive period
It lasts a little more than a year after birth, which is a sensitive period of oral cavity. No matter how adults stop it, children always put their hands in their mouths and eat with relish. Children at this stage explore the world with their mouths. If they get through it, they will never chew anything except food with their mouths again.
2. Sensitive period of hand
Overlapping with the later oral sensitive period is the hand sensitive period. I like throwing things with my hands, digging holes with my fingers, and even hitting people during the sensitive period of my hands (in fact, from a child's point of view, I'm just practicing my arm muscles).
3. Sensitive period of real right consciousness
Children over two years old often say "this/that is mine" and refuse to share anything with others when they enter the sensitive period of property rights awareness. Parents, don't think that children are selfish. In fact, this is an exercise of property ownership. By confirming the ownership of the article, we can realize his relationship with the article.
4. The sensitive period of order, perfection and stubbornness
Children aged three or four enter a sensitive period of order, perfection and obstinacy. Adults break off a piece of cake for children. Children will cry and refuse to accept it. Adults should never think that children are selfish. It is the perfect sensitive period that we destroy the children's sense of circle.
Second, mistaking knowledge instillation as early education always causes children's resistance with "teaching".
It is often said that the most important period is before the age of three. This period is not to let children learn much knowledge, but the most important period of psychological growth. Psychological growth is an important part of early education, and healthy psychology is the source of lifelong happiness. Children in this period are overindulged and disrespected, and their material needs are easily met, while their inner feelings are ignored. This way of attaching importance to material satisfaction and neglecting spiritual nourishment can only cultivate an unhealthy and dependent child.
Third, don't use the walker in a hurry! Be sure to let the children crawl!
Learning to walk needs to overcome huge psychological obstacles and master the skills of keeping balance. There is no need for a walker to be so "troublesome". It is easy to slip away with a light touch, making it difficult for children to overcome psychological obstacles and adapt to the hard process of learning to walk. This is why children who use walkers learn to walk more slowly. Children who can't crawl have poor physical coordination, which will affect their later life and sports, reading and writing, and hinder the development of language.
Fourth, correctly handling children's crying emotions is the beginning of building a good character.
Children's crying needs our patience to feel, not just saying "don't cry". Crying is the release of his inner conflicts, not a bad thing. Adults just need to gently hug him and touch his back.
5. Why do two-to three-year-old children love to hit people more and more, because aggression is the only process for most children to grow up.
Children aged two to three often beat people, mostly because they are in a sensitive period of mouth, hands and feet. He is keen to explore the world and know things with his mouth, hands and feet. The scope of exploration will of course include other people's bodies, so there are attacks such as "biting", "hitting" and "kicking".
Another reason is that he has not mastered the method of interpersonal communication. When his words can't express his thoughts correctly, he often hastily replaces them with impactful body movements. He may just mean "get out of my way" and "don't touch my things", but he pushed or grabbed it before he could say it.
Some children are seriously insecure and vent their bad feelings by attacking others, or want to attract their parents' attention. What adults should do is to adjust the time with their children in time and give them full comfort. Children at this stage are reasonable 100% is useless.
After the age of three, if the child is gradually sensible, if he still beats others, he should deeply explore the reasons for his beating (whether there is domestic violence, etc.). ), eliminate the root cause, and tell him "no" every time he attacks others.
Children naturally like to try and repeat behaviors that can produce interesting and exciting results and attract adults' attention. The correct way for parents is to make the consequences of their actions meaningless, and he naturally gives up.
6. Why do we treat children as circus performers? Don't do things to children that adults don't want to do.
Many families greet their children when they have guests at home: sing a song and dance. This is extremely disrespectful to children. Don't let children perform programs in front of guests, which will make children focus on pleasing others when they grow up. As an adult, once others don't recognize him, it will make him suffer a great blow and he can't give full play to his innate ability.
Don't burst into laughter when our children say funny children's words. For example, a child said, "My father takes a shower without clothes!" " "After laughing, the family deliberately asked the child," Did you take a shower with your clothes on? "Isn't this obviously confusing the child's mind? Many families often play such jokes on their children. Don't tease children casually. Between children and face, we should choose children.
Seven, we often unconsciously pass a lot of negative and negative information to our children!
Don't tell others about your child's "evil deeds" in front of him. For example, many mothers often say "he is so timid!" in front of guests. In this way, you are implying to your child that you expect him to be such a person. He will achieve the result in the direction you expect: he must be getting more and more timid. The suggestibility of language is enormous. If you pretend to tell others secretly, but let the children hear: "Do you know that our baby is particularly brave in playing on the swing today!" This will send a message in the child's heart: "Ah? Mom said I was brave? Is it? Well, I will be braver tomorrow! " This is a positive suggestion, which can directly reach the child's subconscious and has a great influence.
Eight, a talkative child must be the result of improper language education of parents.
Don't say milk, such as "feet", "shoes" and "rice", and even make up something that others don't understand. From birth, everything you say to your child should be your mother tongue, with correct grammar and standard pronunciation. When talking to the baby, the main caregivers should use exaggerated mouth shape, clear voice and slow speech speed, such as "Bao-Bao-Sleep-Wake". Don't talk like milk, or you will still have a lisp when you are four or five years old. Children can learn standard pronunciation at once. Why do they have to relearn milk vocabulary? Waste of time, energy and neural information storage area.
Nine, don't say "obedient" to the child, let the child obey the rules happily, internalize the rules into his heart, and become a belief that he must abide by all his life.
We grew up under the supervision of others. When I was a child, I listened to my parents at home and was always reminded not to do this and that. At school, we listen to the teacher and obey this and that. Children never have a chance to judge for themselves, so they should obey the rules spontaneously in the process of self-growth. Influence rules are the bottom line for children to test us. In fact, they are the beginning of obeying the rules. We should be tolerant and remind him "What have you forgotten?" Instead of criticizing him and putting pressure on him.
At the same time, we should fully respect children's spontaneous exploration behavior. When the child's spontaneous exploration behavior is respected by us, he will begin to abide by the rules we set for him, that is, he will learn to obey others intelligently. At this time, the dawn of discipline will appear and the rules will be internalized. This internalized rule will accompany the child all his life, and it is very pleasant and easy to abide by it.
Childhood is only once,
Growth cannot be repeated.
Teaching by example is better than teaching by words, and teaching by example is better than teaching by environment.
The best gift for children is an example!