Almost every kindergarten will let children recite the Disciples Rules.

When there are guests at home, parents will pull their children out to perform recitation, and the children will read aloud, saying two sentences and one rhyme is very smooth.

When you ask a child, do you know what this means? The child stuck out his tongue and ran away. Parents will say that it is good for children to recite, and they will naturally understand the truth when they grow up.

You ask parents if they know the meaning of the disciple rule. Some parents will say a few words casually, while others don't know at all.

I once attended a parenting lecture by a well-known expert. The expert said that children recite a lot before going to school, even if they don't know what it means, they will get twice the result with half the effort.

I have doubts about what he said. Because when I was a child, I would recite a lot of things, but I didn't expect these memories to become memories and affect me for a long time.

Later, after reading a lot of materials, I found a * * * knowledge, that is, recitation has only performance value, because it cannot be transformed into long-term memory. Only when it becomes a long-term memory can it be transformed into learning ability and become a lifelong treasure. In other words, reciting itself does not improve memory.

Of course, I'm not saying that preschool education doesn't need reciting. At least, reciting is helpful to the development of children's language ability, such as speaking, pronunciation, fluency and language richness.

Therefore, we can't ignore the foundation and exaggerate the value of recitation. Fluency in reciting is not the most important thing, but understanding is more important.

This is what parents should do. Not by the school, but by the teacher. Because the kindergarten teacher received the task of making the children recite the text, instead of spending the same time preparing a large number of examples to make the children understand the meaning of three or two sentences.

There is a saying that people are often willing to eat the bitterness of life, not the bitterness of learning. Most parents prefer to wipe their children's excrement and urine, but it is difficult to calm down and learn what their children are learning.

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Disciples Rules is about the basic morality of being a man, such as filial piety, caring and loyalty. Some people think that the contents of this book are feudal remnants. Here, we don't ask right or wrong, and morality is the driving force of evolution. We don't live in a savage society. In the process of civilization, morality has become a social factor.

"Disciple Rules" begins by saying: Don't be slow when parents call. Literally, children should respond to their parents' call immediately and don't keep their parents waiting.

A very common sentence.

The beginning of the classic works is unusual. It can be said that if the child's filial piety is not high and can immediately respond to the parents' call, the child has already completed half of the filial piety.

On the surface, this sentence is to cultivate the habit of obedience, but in fact it is to cultivate the habit of thinking of mutual cooperation.

It often happens in life that when a child cries, parents will respond immediately, but when parents call the child, the child will be very soft and ignore his parents.

If this phenomenon persists for a long time, children may have three defects: ignorance of rules, ignorance and poor communication.

Parents always feel that it is more important for children to release their nature and return to themselves than to be bound by rules.

Behind every Xiong Haizi, there is an irresponsible family. People's anger towards Xiong Haizi is more due to parents' inaction.

Doing the right thing at the right time and in the right place is the basis of the rules. It seems that there is no problem for a child to stay at home, not eating when eating, and not sleeping when sleeping. Everyone gives in to him because the family is child-centered. Once he left his family, entered the school and society, and left the environment centered on him, no one would spoil him any more. What kind of conflicts and changes will happen in the child's heart? It is likely to become too submissive or bullying.

There are only a few core concepts of early education and preschool education, and rules are the first key word. Another key word is social.

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The essence of social interaction is cooperation. The success or failure of cooperation first depends on how you treat others, and its performance is quick response.

Adults often tell children to know how to share, and the sharers are all people in the social center. To play this role well, we must learn benign interaction.

What kind of interaction is benign? When communicating with people, there is everyone's thinking and an integrated concept. If everyone is good, it is really easy to understand. To make everyone better, we need to communicate with each other, interact harmoniously and respond positively. Benign interaction begins with communication with parents and begins with response to parents. This is a very good exercise.

This is in line with the next sentence "Parents' life, don't be lazy", that is, parents ask their children to do it seriously, not perfunctory, not lazy.

People will think, what if parents are wrong? Parents' cognitive mistakes make children steal, rob and take advantage of small things. Should children be like this?

If you don't read dead books, you don't go to extremes. If you draw a stone from a book, but you can read a jade for your own use, this is the meaning of reading.

The significance of "ordering parents to be lazy" is that in order to make children obedient, parents should first improve their self-cultivation and judgment level, so that your instructions are insightful and correct with great probability, rather than stupid and superficial.

Normal parents' orders to their children are based on education itself and will not let children do bad things. What parents ask their children to do, the beneficiaries are the children themselves. In the long run, it may be just what children need. If a child is diligent in spiritual practice and knows how to do it for his own growth, not for his parents, he will be great, even if he is an ordinary person, he will be the best among ordinary people.

Psychologists have done an experiment. They put a group of monkeys in iron cages and ate at a fixed time. For example, the opening time is only one hour, and rice balls are placed in the cave. At first, the monkeys ate slowly, and they often didn't have enough to eat. However, after a few months, the monkey practice makes perfect, and the feeding speed is getting faster and faster, and it can be full within the specified time. The results show that the cerebral cortex in the area responsible for this behavior of monkeys is obviously thickened, which means that the evolution of brain structure did not take several generations of monkeys, but only a few months.

Habits change the structure of the brain, which is why you don't have to do it after you form a habit. This is the magical power of habit.

Disciple Rules, as a simplified version of Confucianism, is ostensibly about behavior and morality, behind which is an educational idea of enlightening and cultivating honesty, and a methodology of developing physical and mental habits. If the essence can be combined with the child's instinct, it will be a future worth looking forward to.

Children's greatest luck is to meet qualified parents. Instead of letting children recite mechanically, it is better to participate in children's learning, which is a blessing for children and a brand-new growth for adults.

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