Recently, those friends in the circle of friends who bask in children every day asked me, "Lao Liu, you are so old, why don't you get married and have children?" I usually respond with a "hehe". I don't think he should ask me why I don't get married and have children. He should ask himself why he wants to get married and have children. Why? Is it because you are old? The average life expectancy in China is 70 years. Does that mean you can die suddenly if you live to 70? The reason why I don't get married and have children is simple: I am poor and my education is not good. At present, at least half of the people in the society have never thought about why they want to have children, or want to have fun when the couple are dull, or feel that they should have children when they are old. Without considering the future of his children, he created a life irresponsibly.
I have a poor classmate who supports domestic products. He used to despise others buying imported milk powder. He said: "If you are poor, you will be poor, and if you are rich, you will be rich. What are you fooling around with? I have never drunk imported milk powder since I was a child. Isn't IQ the same? " As a result, he had a child last year, and he broke his word. He goes to this purchasing agent every day. In order to save some money on milk powder, he broke his face two days ago and asked me:
"Liu, when will you go to Hong Kong and bring me some milk powder?"
"I will go tomorrow. How many cans? "
"After a while, the RMB exchange rate is now low, and the milk powder at home is enough for a while."
You see, this is typical poverty. If the RMB continues to depreciate, will he switch to domestic milk powder or wean his children? Then the couple will have differences over trifles such as milk powder, diapers, children's clothes and so on, and then quarrel. This is the daily life after childbirth. I have no ability at all. I always thought that children would live the best life. This is hard support. Will such a family be happy?
When I was born in the 1980s, everyone was very poor. Children just need to eat and wear warm clothes. Let's go out to play. Everyone wears the same clothes, reads the same books and uses the same stationery, so there is no jealousy and discrimination. But what about now? What age is it now? Taking economic construction as the center, to put it bluntly, it is money! The gap between rich and poor has widened. How does it feel for your child's classmate to be picked up by BMW after school with iPhone6? You don't have to say, "I will educate my child not to compare with others." Ask yourself, can you do it without comparing yourself? If you can't do it yourself, how can you let the children do it? No desire can be satisfied. When boys are impulsive in adolescence, it is inevitable that they will do some petty things, and girls will also go for a ride with others in the car of the rich second generation. Are you distressed?
What some poor people often say after giving birth to their children is: "Although the conditions at home are a little worse, we should educate him well and train him to be an adult." What I want to ask is, is education omnipotent? There is always a teacher in a class who teaches students in grade 369. Some people go to Tsinghua Peking University, others go to learn excavators. Why are you so confident that your child can't drive an excavator? Most importantly, what does "good" mean in a good education? If you know what a "good" education is, why don't you educate yourself clearly? You didn't even educate yourself. How do you educate your children?
The so-called education of children is nothing more than a sentence, "Parents are like this in their lives. You are different. You are smart (poor and narcissistic). You study hard. We sell you iron to eat and wear. You must fight for breathing. " It is a great luck to put all the pressure to change your destiny on your child. Just like playing video games to continue your life, a person has no chance to live, so he has children and expects them to realize their unfulfilled dreams. Does this behavior count as education? This is irresponsible.
Well, your child has a gift. Do you know what talent he has? Do we have to try one by one? Suppose your child has a gift for playing the piano, and as a result, you can't even afford a piano. Where will he find it? Your child has the talent to play football, but you can't even afford to rent a football field. Where can he play football? You take your children to feel the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. He knows nothing and can't study. What do you want him to do? Going to move bricks? Do you want to leave some behind-the-scenes industries or something? Don't say how rich you are, at least you have to have a skill.
It is true that children can only get an education if they have money. You don't have to be unconvinced. Why are all the students in Oxford University from wealthy families (70% from aristocratic schools)? Not because the rich have good genes, but because the rich occupy more educational resources. This is especially true in China with such a large population and so few educational resources. Children from wealthy families can go to Europe to see the Eiffel Iron Horse and the Colosseum at close range, while children from poor families can only see it from early education picture books; Rich children can talk and laugh with foreigners in English abroad, while poor children have never been out of the village, and their phonetic symbols are not allowed; Rich children can go skiing in northern Europe, diving in Southeast Asia, develop a hobby and grow up to be Gao Fushuai; Forced to rent apartments in big cities, the children can't go anywhere. During the holidays, they played games at home. When they grew up, they became fans of EXO. All the hard money saved by parents was given to idols. Then I have to be arranged by the dog every day to be "poor and poor". Live the same diaosi life as his father. Pathetic?
I don't understand if I am forced to support myself. Is it suitable for getting married and having children? The answer is naturally no, so if someone asks you such a question as "Why don't you get married and have children", generously tell him one word: "Poor". Be a self-aware person, don't be like an animal, mate when in love and have children when in love. This is seriously irresponsible. In the reporter's question-and-answer session, I know you want to refute what I said, so I'll make a list for you.
Q: Brother Shou, do you look down on the poor? Do poor people deserve to die? No poor people. Do rich people make their own clothes and farm their own land?
A: If a child knows that he was born to serve others, I believe he will return to his mother's womb without stopping. "Everyone is equal" and "there is no hierarchy in occupations", which is politically correct. I can say nothing, but is it true? Are street sweepers and garbage collectors really equal to the rich second generation who fly yachts and planes? How many cleaners die on the road every year? Are they really willing to take the job?
Q: Brother Shou, I don't expect my children to get ahead. I just want to live a plain life.
A: I think there are generally two kinds of people who can say this. One is a big brother who has experienced great storms, and the other is an inexperienced teenager. You should go to the intensive care units of major hospitals to see those who have no money to treat and die. Don't they want to live a plain life? How many graduates squeeze their heads to drill north and south every year? Isn't it good to be a civil servant in my hometown? How many migrant workers abandon their wives and children to move bricks in the sun, and farming in rural areas is not good? Therefore, it is rich to enjoy dullness, and dullness is the most expensive.
Q: Brother Shou, look at people in western developed countries. When their parents died, they donated their property and didn't pass it on to their children.
Then you are just farting. You were cheated by readers and those chicken soups in Youth Digest. People's property is not passed on to their children and grandchildren. Where did those century-old shops come from? Every biscuit shop in Europe can be handed down for seven or eight generations. Isn't this accumulation and inheritance? What industries and skills can be passed down? Moving bricks? Knock code?
Q: Brother Shou, can the rich educate their children well? Isn't the quality of Li Shuangjiang very high? Why did Li Tianyi become a rapist when she gave birth to a son?
A: Yes, the children of the rich are not necessarily of high quality, nor are they necessarily successful. Teacher Li Shuangjiang, who is both virtuous and artistic, also raised a rapist, but with a good foundation. After two years in prison, are you still a rich second generation? Aren't you still sleeping in a wild model in a sports car? No matter how hard you try, can you make others poor?
I don't want to get married and have children, because I have no ability to build a perfect family. I have no savings, and I don't want my wife and children to live with me. Save enough 1 10,000 to get married. I really can't stand shopping with the woman I love. When a woman silently looks at her favorite clothes or bags, I touch my wrinkled wallet and say to her, "Let's go, there will be no cars on the subway soon." Or have children, in order to pay less tax, Fagin Bala's trustee bought two cans of milk powder from Xianggang. I feel like a loser!
We can't choose our birth and family, nor can we choose our life because of factors such as ability and opportunity. Therefore, we can only provide an alternative life for the next generation through our own efforts.