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2065438+February 27th, 2008 Creator in the field of quality parenting.
Welcome to sissy, the science and philosophy of raising babies.
Dr. Tian: Doctor of Medicine, Peking Union Medical College, postdoctoral fellow of Harvard Medical College, chief physician of pediatric surgery in 3A hospitals.
Wama Zhou Niangniang: Tsinghua's mother, former Xinhua News Agency reporter and female entrepreneur.
Text/Niangniang said
Author/Hot Mom Faye
School is about to start, and the circle of friends has begun to see waves of sunbathing babies going to kindergarten. Although some babies have already attended a semester's course, there are still mothers crying in the mother group. "The baby cries as soon as he hears that he is going to kindergarten."
Someone in the group replied: "relax, children have this stage, and it will be fine in a few days."
Relax, this must be a necessary quality for a mother, but we all know that we are always clear-headed when persuading others. Once we face the crying baby, how can a mother turn a blind eye calmly?
More importantly, the hot mom always thinks that parents need to take every emotion of their children seriously.
Whether it's children's order compulsion in the sensitive period, their attachment to toys, or their anxiety and fear of separation from unfamiliar environment when they go to kindergarten ... Although we know that every kind of bad mood of children will disappear with the migration of practice, I hope parents will encourage, caress and care for them, so that they can get out of these problems that must be faced calmly and grow into one.
Of course, I can't give 100% perfect and effective answers to every child's emotions, not to mention that every child's personality and traits are so different. But as a hot mom who has been accompanying her children to grow up, I have accumulated a lot of successful experience, and I can also release some big moves of KO children from time to time. These big moves have no side effects. You may wish to take a look and combine the real situation of your baby.
(1) Prepare in advance.
Everything "is pre-established, and it will be abolished if it is not pre-established." Don't think that just because your baby is so cute, you can overestimate their psychological endurance. It is always good to prepare your baby psychologically before entering the park. We can do this:
1. Establish the concept of kindergarten for your baby through picture books.
Before children go to kindergarten formally, we can establish the concept of kindergarten for children. If you think you are a poor mother and don't know where to tell your children about kindergarten, we can try to establish the concept of kindergarten for our children through picture books.
Hot mom collected the following picture books about kindergartens for everyone here:
I love kindergarten, David goes to school, the little monster goes to school, teacher, why should I go to school?
If you take a mouse to school, moose and Dupu to school, Bobo bear to school, new teacher's school day, late king, little Ali's big school, mother tree, love tree, a bag of kisses.
2. Transition through early education classes
Although the current early education courses are uneven, some people say that early education courses are unnecessary, but hot mom thinks that if children have participated in early education courses before going to kindergarten and have contact with other children of the same age, they can be happy and relaxed in the process of contact. This can be a stepping stone for them to go to kindergarten in the future, so that children can gradually adapt to the environment without parents. In addition, in the early education center, children can be accompanied by their parents. Dealing with some minor social contradictions, such as learning to share, returning the toys in the early education center in time, queuing up … These experiences can make children deal with similar things independently and calmly in the future, which will be a transition before they enter kindergarten.
Needless to say, some early education centers will prepare a "small class" for children for one year, so that children can adapt to kindergarten as soon as possible, or there will be a system in which parents accompany them for two weeks before entering the park. Isn't that sweet?
3. Get familiar with classmates, teachers and schools with children in advance.
Parents usually choose a nearby kindergarten for their children, usually in their own community, so parents can take their children shopping in advance at this time to help their children get familiar with the kindergarten environment in advance and give them a vaccination. "Look, there are many children playing inside. You can go in and play with the baby in the future."
Even more perfect, the teachers and classmates in the school may be the owners of the same community. Making friends in advance is also good for everyone. It is also good for children to have one more classmate and parents to have one more neighbor. So the child will go to school in a familiar environment in the future, so is it easy for him to adapt?
(2) Things that can be solved through purchase are not things.
To put it bluntly, hot mom always thinks that things that can be solved by buy buy are not things in the process of parenting. Still an innocent child, not influenced by this materialistic world, just a mortal body, naturally easily attracted by any novelty in this world of flowers and flowers, defenseless.
I thought I could go to kindergarten without crying because my grandfather bought me a new bag with foreign flavor. Now it's my baby's turn. These beautiful things that should be prepared for her are still being prepared for her. With the theme of "kindergarten", the following items can be prepared for her: new schoolbag, water cup, stationery, new skirt, hair rope, shoes, new watch and new means of transportation for her to go to school. ...
With the blessing of the above "new" items, the baby's desire to go to school can definitely be stimulated. Why not send the baby to kindergarten with half the effort?
(3) Other remedial measures
The following additional remedial measures are aimed at mothers who have not done a good job in preparation, and their babies have cried because of kindergarten, and even have some small shadows. You can try the following methods:
1. Find 1-2 friends for children.
It would be better if we were studying in the same community now. The baby must have children who usually play well in the community. What parents should do is to make an appointment with their children's parents to send their children to school together in the morning. You will find that the little ones will go to school hand in hand happily. Now my baby goes to school every day with a left boyfriend and a right boyfriend holding the door, which really doesn't insult the family style and is worse than her mother.
2. Start with the teacher and let the children take care of your children.
My baby cried when she entered school that year, but she was lucky to meet a teacher who was willing to hold her until she stopped crying. The teacher comforted her kindly, and the little guy soon stopped crying.
Starting with the teacher, of course, it doesn't mean that you, a mother, should give something to the teacher and give her a red envelope, which is tacky. We should communicate with teachers from the emotional point of view and make friends with teachers with our sincerity and personality charm.
3. Understand and appease every emotion of children.
Adults will feel uncomfortable living in a new environment, let alone children. We should fully understand the bad emotions that children will have when they integrate into the new environment, and give her more companionship and comfort in this short time to alleviate their separation anxiety.
4. The sense of ceremony is cultivated from childhood.
There is such a scene in the picture book A Kiss in the Pocket. Every time raccoon's mother sends him to school, she puts an invisible kiss in raccoon's pocket, telling raccoon that with his mother's kiss, he can feel his mother's company anytime and anywhere. In another story, Mother Tree, Love Tree, there is also such a scene. Before sending Xiaohua to school, her mother will cut a Zhang Aixin card with colored paper and let Xiaohua take it to school and hang it on a tree, so that when Xiaohua looks up, she can see that the tree in front of the window is full of her mother's love. Later, other children will follow suit, and the tree becomes a love tree.
5. Pay attention to the power of picture books.
To sum up, the power of picture books can not be ignored, and they are very attractive to babies. As long as mothers tell stories about kindergartens from time to time, those warm and interesting storylines will definitely warm the hearts of babies, appease their maladjustment before entering the park and awaken their desire to go to kindergarten.
Finally, the baby can be sent to kindergarten smoothly.
Welcome to sissy, the science and philosophy of raising babies.
Dr. Tian: Doctor of Medicine, Peking Union Medical College, postdoctoral fellow of Harvard Medical College, chief physician of pediatric surgery in 3A hospitals.
Wama Zhou Niangniang: Tsinghua's mother, former Xinhua News Agency reporter and female entrepreneur.