My son is 24 months old. This book was introduced by Fan Deng when I was browsing Tik Tok. As a new father, seeing my son grow up day by day, I began to feel uneasy, because his needs are not only milk and sleep, but also good enlightenment education. When it comes to education, my understanding is that we must take children as the center and develop things that children are interested in. Because interest is the best teacher, is this book useful for educating children? I extract the useful parts first, and then write my own feelings, because my reading habit is to read only what can be applied to the actual content, and I choose to read quickly if I am not interested, so although I read quickly, I am not careful enough, because I just want to use it. Please forgive me if there is anything wrong.

Author: Dana Suskind (USA)

Position and achievements: Professor of Gynecology and Pediatrics, University of Chicago; Head of Children's Cochlear Implant Project; Founder of "30 Million Vocabulary Initiative" of University Hospital of Chicago.

This book is the crystallization of Professor Suskind's 30 years of complex research. Translator: Ren Yi (head of English teaching and research group in colleges and universities, researcher of children's foreign language acquisition), thanking them for their hard work and contribution to training the next generation.

This book focuses on the fifth chapter, that is, the 3T principle, but I still introduce the previous content first, and interested friends can study it.

The first chapter of this book tells the story of the author's language research. He found that normal children and children with cochlear implants would do worse if the former accepted a bad language environment. Deaf children will become excellent if they accept a good language environment, so he said that both normal people and cochlear implants need not only the ability to "listen to the language" but also the ability to "understand the language". Therefore, children must be immersed in a good language environment, which is conducive to their study.

In the second and third chapters, the author studies the power of parents' language, that is, 30 million words, that is, experiments are carried out in different families. Experiments show that children in families with good mental work conditions have higher language expression ability. At the same time, there is an interesting experiment, that is, which language ability is stronger for children who watch TV and communicate with their parents? Experiments show that children who watch TV don't want to communicate and react while watching TV, while children who often communicate with their parents react strongly when their parents communicate with them. You know, all the people who participated in the experiment were children under 2 years old. Fortunately, I was aware of this problem before reading this book. Our TV was given to the children's grandmother's house, and there is no TV in my house. This not only protects children's eyes, but also allows children to communicate more with their parents.

The fourth chapter is full of research data and principles, which is of no use to me. Interested friends can study it.

The 3T principle will let me know how to build 30 million words and integrate the 3T principle into our life. Parents will find that making the bed, peeling apples, sweeping the floor, changing diapers, the color of flowers or triangular objects can all be integrated into the 3T principle. Such a language environment plays a vital role in children's brain development.

Step 2 communicate fully

"Mom change diapers for you, looking at all wet. Smell it. It stinks. Come on, baby, let's get a new diaper. Look at it. Not wet. Let's feel whether it is dry and soft. Is it much more comfortable to change a new diaper? Come on, let's put on your lovely red pants. Whether you wet the bed or not, baby, mom loves you. "

Another example is: "It's time to brush your teeth. Who will come first? " ? Look for your toothbrush. Yours is purple and Dad's is blue. Now let's squeeze the toothpaste into the toothbrush. Come on, squeeze it bit by bit. Well done. Ok, now we are going to brush our teeth and start brushing our teeth. Brush every part from top to bottom, from front to back, and finally brush small tongue. Haha, is it a little itchy? "

This conversation has subverted my cognition, because I didn't tell my children so much, which is a bit like the Tang Priest in the Stephen Chow movie A Chinese Odyssey.

After using these conversations, children will speak more slowly, because their first teacher was their parents, and now my son is willing to learn to speak with my wife and me, just like a small repeater. So you can read story books, picture books and so on. Cultivate children's speaking ability.

Step 3 take turns talking

This is the most important part of the 3T principle and plays a decisive role in children's brain development.

What should parents do to make their children actively participate in parent-child dialogue?

As children grow up, especially 2-year-olds, they should ask questions, such as what to do, why, right or wrong.

practice

It is interesting to mention how to praise children at the back of this book. We usually praise children. You're great. You're really smart. You're amazing. However, this may not mean much to the child, because it can't develop his imagination and tap his greatest potential. It will also turn children into likable personalities.

There are two examples in the book: personal praise (child-centered praise) "You are so smart."

Process-based praise (praise centered on children's efforts) "The puzzle you have been working on has finally been completed, which is great."

Research shows that if children hear more praise based on process, they will not give up easily in the face of challenges, but will insist on doing better in study and life.

Another example is: "The baby eats very hard, just like mom and dad."

You paint with your imagination, and the use of these colors is incredible. Come on, son.

I don't agree with what he said in the book, because what he said will also turn children into flattering characters. The biggest role of parents is to let their children use their imagination. He doesn't need anyone's approval. The most important thing is to have the ability to think independently. I have always respected my son. Although he is only 2 years old, I will never deny him, because right and wrong in the world are inherent patterns of people and formulated by the ancients. What he did is not the best, but it may be wrong. When you have this kind of thinking, you will find that the children's world sometimes creates many interesting conclusions, sometimes beyond your imagination.

But when it comes to praising children, it is too perfunctory to use you less. You're great. You're fine. Wait. For example, if I suddenly recite an ancient poem, I will say to my son: It is really not easy for my son to remember this poem. Let's change this poem into a song, or tell him that it contains a very interesting story. do you want to hear it ? In other words, my son's poem depicts a very beautiful picture, and I will draw it for you.

In a word, it is necessary for a child to develop his imagination. I'm not in a hurry about how many ancient poems he can recite. What I care about is that it can extrapolate, even beyond my cognition.

Children grow up only once. I believe many parents are like me. They don't want to miss the critical period of their children, and they don't want them to be mediocre. Many parents let their children attend early education classes. In fact, parents interact more with their children every night, so there is no need to attend early education classes. And children communicate with their parents and grow up faster and better. I am a conscience that loves learning. I am willing to grow up with you and let the children have a wonderful childhood.