However, such high expectations are really good for newly-born children? There is an ancient saying that children study hard at a cold window 10 years. But now, children start kindergarten at the age of 3, and then go to primary school for 6 years, junior high school for 3 years and high school for 3 years. He was greeted by 18-year-old college entrance examination transcripts. This is not counting the pre-kindergarten classes and college entrance examinations, and the results are not satisfactory, and they are repeated year after year.
This reminds me of the program "House of Terror" in "Escape from the Chamber of Secrets".
Tao, the hero of the story, was born in a scholarly family, and his parents are both ambitious. He made a strict schedule of work and rest. He only sleeps four hours a day. Besides studying, he also practices the piano. After intensive study, Cai Ying was admitted to the Conservatory of Music at the age of 16 and became a "genius" in everyone's eyes. However, growing up in this environment, his psychology was completely distorted. Finally, on the day he got the admission notice, he couldn't bear the pressure and chose to commit suicide.
In real life, parents like Tao's parents are not uncommon. In the name of "being good to children", children's childhood is full of learning, and weekends are busier than school hours. What do you think of this kind of education?
In the story, Tao's parents not only designed a strict study schedule for him, but even designed the place where their children lived as a place that could only cycle from the piano room to calligraphy, to the bedroom and then to the bathroom. At the same time, Tao's bed is designed to suddenly rise and fall every once in a while, so as to wake Tao who is sleeping and should study. The study is an endless examination paper, and the piano room is an endless score of dozens of times and hundreds of times. In the end, this "genius" Tao Yingnian was admitted to the Conservatory of Music on February 29th, when he was 16 years old, so he became a music "genius" in the spotlight, and various pressures finally made him choose to end his life on this day.
How to evaluate Tao's tutor?
In fact, there are many children like Tao in life who can never finish cram school and write papers. Although they are not as extreme as Tao's parents, who can guarantee that this is not the last straw to crush the camel? Yes, behind the phenomenon, what we see is parents' desire for their children's success, which we can understand, but there is a limit to everything. After this limit, it goes against our original intention. We can't deprive children of their nature and disrespect their wishes just because they want to succeed. After all, for a successful life, shouldn't a sound soul be more important than achievement?
We all know the truth, but as far as parents are concerned, there may be many children who don't love their parents, but there are very few parents who don't love their children. After all, they have such a helpless feeling of "poor family".
Mom really wants to see you again.
Mom never thought that these cold schedules would be your reminders.
Don't worry, son. Mom will go with you.
I have no doubt that these words are absolutely correct. There is nothing wrong with love, but the way of love is wrong and the way of education is wrong. Therefore, the best love complex produces the most poisonous fruit.
Now there are all kinds of cram schools and interest classes, especially this year, because of the epidemic, basically all students have classes online in the first half of the year. Now that the summer vacation is here, the epidemic situation is not so serious, and all kinds of cram schools have come out. Those who are qualified and unqualified, as long as they can teach students, all kinds of cram schools are held. Parents are also worried that their children's online classes are not effective, so they follow the trend and sign up for all kinds of cram schools.
Don't say it's summer vacation, there are online classes ahead, but without this premise, how many parents didn't enroll their children in Sunday cram school?
Think about when I was a child, after school, my homework was cartoons and playing marbles. During the summer vacation, we went fishing in the water and climbed trees to catch birds, so our childhood was happy and full of colors.
But now children's childhood is spent in various cram schools, classes and test papers, so most children's childhood is gray and unhappy in my opinion.
Parents expect too much from their children. First, family expectations, success expectations, family expectations when academic performance is good, expectations of the whole village when academic performance is excellent, expectations of the whole county, and expectations of the society when it is top-notch.
Therefore, children are under pressure from layer to layer and move forward under pressure from layer to layer. Strong children can forge ahead anyway, but most children will completely collapse because of a sudden blow.
Therefore, in recent years, children have given up their lives because of unsatisfactory results in the college entrance examination, or because they can't stand the teacher's scolding.
I don't object to cram schools, nor do I despise interest classes. I just want to say to parents: do something for your children and give them a happy childhood.
For children, especially families who want to give their children an early education environment, the best early education teachers are parents, the best early education environment is their parents' company, and the best early education courses are social activities.