If dad is the pillar of a family, then mom needs to be the "centering needle" of a family and firmly stabilize the mood of the whole family.

Parents all over the world encounter all kinds of parenting problems every day, and Hong Tao is no exception.

Hong Tao once found that her daughter didn't like playing with building blocks. No matter how many times she seduced, her daughter was not interested.

But strangely, as long as Hong Tao is away, my daughter will go to play, and once she sees Hong Tao coming, she will run away immediately.

Later, Tao realized that he had played so well. When the children are compared, they feel very failed and dare not play.

So she asked her husband to "fail in performance" in front of the children often, and told the children with actions: "Dad will fall when building blocks, and adults will make mistakes, so it is normal for you to fail, and it doesn't matter."

Allowing failure means allowing trial and error and growth.

Speaking of allowing failure, Mr. Miao Miao has also felt a lot recently.

This stems from an early education art class. Mother and child did a sensory experiment of liquid stratification and bubbling magma.

Teacher Xiao Miao found an interesting phenomenon:

Because the materials are water, food coloring, cooking oil and effervescent tablets, some mothers are worried that their children will dirty their small hands and clothes and will help them pour the liquid into the bottle during operation.

Some mothers simply replace their children to complete the steps of pouring liquid, and let them complete simple steps such as adding and stirring.

Indeed, letting the child pour oil really tests the mother's psychological endurance, and Xiao Miao will be anxious. What if the child spills it and gets clothes? What if the child's hands are dirty? What should I do if my hand slips and breaks the container?

At this time, a mother caught Miao's attention. Unlike other mothers, she just encourages her children and patiently watches them complete each step slowly.

To Miao Miao's surprise, the child didn't finish the experiment at all, and it was the fastest time.

Miao Miao believes that this must be no accident, and seems to see the state of mother and son getting along with each other on weekdays.

The mother still patiently and firmly accompanied her children to complete every "first time", the first painting, the first planting of flowers, and the first handcraft. ......

Although the child will make mistakes in this process, the mother will not rush to correct the child, but leave time for the child to explore and try slowly, so that the child can try bravely and make mistakes until success.

After all, the growth of children into adults is a process of making mistakes, then correcting them and accumulating experience.

Don't ignore the value of failure.

"I spent seven years finishing middle school, and others spent five years; I failed to enter key junior high schools and key high schools, and failed to enter universities three times; Then I failed to apply for a job almost 30 times. I wanted to find a job in KFC, and 24 people came to me, only I was not hired. I tried to test the police. Five students went, four passed, and I didn't pass. "

This passage is an experience that Ma Yun shared with young people. Someone asked him what effect so many failed experiences had on him.

Many successful people have a strong heart and perseverance when they experience various failures.

Mr. Lu Xun once said: "The future of life is distant and dark. However, don't be afraid, there is a road ahead for those who are not afraid. " Those bigger patterns and deeper wisdom are often hidden in the failures you have experienced.

Today, with the frequent mental health problems of minors, do parents have too many gains and losses in the process of educating their children, which leads to no deviation or failure for their children?

Let children in the face of setbacks and difficulties in life, can not go upstream, overcome difficulties, become vulnerable.

As Edison once said, "failure is what I need, and it is as valuable to me as success." Let's all be parents who are not afraid of failure, return the right to failure to our children, and let them understand:

1. Failure is the most normal thing in life.

2. Never experience failure, and failure will always stand in front of you. If small failures are not allowed, there will be greater failures.

Only by learning from failure can we get closer to success bit by bit.