I believe that many women who have upgraded to become mothers should deeply agree with this sentence. The arrival of children is subversive to women, whether it is internal or external.
The tenderness before marriage is like water, all submerged in the chicken flying dog jumping after the baby is born.
Many pregnant mothers probably fantasize about postpartum before their children are born: dress beautifully every day and be a gentle and fashionable hot mom. Especially when I see those fashionable parenting bloggers, I firmly believe that I will be that kind of mother.
But the truth is cruel. If you don't have enough economic strength and lack enough manpower around you, all your good temper and gentleness will be slowly destroyed. You have changed from a maiden to a nagging "dissatisfied housewife", sometimes losing your temper for no reason, and even yelling at your children.
And all this comes from the following moments when chickens fly and dogs jump, which are staged almost every day.
First, children don't want to sleep until they are one year old.
For Mabao, who takes care of the baby at home, sleeping has become the most extravagant thing. The baby has to take care of the children during the day, clean up the housework, and change diapers and feed the baby at night.
When the baby is sick, it is sleepless all night. The baby keeps crying and getting sick, which makes mothers very worried and eager to suffer for their children.
Even if there is no situation, it is a luxury to want to sleep late when the children have irregular work and rest.
These little people may wake up at five or six in the morning after disturbing you in the middle of the night, patting your face with their meaty little hands and telling you, "Hey, get up!" " "
Second, it is not safe to go to the toilet.
Besides having no time to rest, the most painful thing for full-time nannies is losing their freedom.
After learning to recognize people, babies almost always stick to their mothers. Sometimes when I can't see them, I will burst into tears.
There is a treasure mother who remembers her experience anxiously: it is not safe to go to the toilet, the child is sitting in the walker, and we have to open the door while squatting on the toilet.
Third, I always eat leftovers.
Before children learn to eat independently, almost all treasure mothers eat leftovers.
Finally, a table was prepared, and the whole family sat down and began to eat. However, you need to coax the baby to eat first, and then "clean up the battlefield" by yourself after the child has finished eating. At this time, the table is usually full of leftovers.
I'd rather be an imperfect mother and try to be better to myself.
There are no perfect people in this world, let alone a mother who can cover everything. Mother's identity is great, but as a woman, she also needs to be cared for and cared for.
Women are weak and mothers are strong, but they need to learn to love themselves when necessary.
1, don't be so hard on yourself.
Many treasure moms are so tired because they are not at ease with others and their children. This kind of nanny is a typical "worry about life". The child is very nervous at the slightest movement, even if he gives the child to his family, he is not at ease.
The baby has to handle everything by himself, even if it is given to her husband. But such a high standard requires yourself, and it is destined to be very tired after childbirth.
Therefore, Ma Bao can be appropriately Buddhist, so that families can share responsibilities and take care of babies, and let them go when it is time to do so.
2. Learn to express your emotions.
After giving birth to children, many women are always determined to become "superman mothers" and do everything by themselves. It's not good to dislike others, even if you encounter difficulties, don't ask others for help.
In fact, if you play the role of the weak well, you will take the initiative to tell your family if necessary and express your dissatisfaction euphemistically, so you will not be so wronged.
Don't set the standard too high.
Many treasure moms are not only demanding of themselves, but also demanding of their children.
In a few months, I will send an early education class, and I will go to a good kindergarten at the age of two. Usually study children's healthy recipes and help children to report to training classes and talent classes early.
These not only need Ma Bao to spend energy, but also need a lot of time. The point is that children may not want to. Maybe everyone's happiness index will go up by lowering the requirements appropriately.
Everyone wants to be a perfect mother, but no one is perfect. Ma Bao's identity is not everything. Everyone should learn to accept their own shortcomings and advantages. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with truth!