For this sentence, countless parents wave after wave. In order to give children the best early education, parents began to make arrangements intensively. It is obviously in the era of playing, but it gives children too much pressure.
A few days ago, my cousin came to my house with her big niece, and kindergarten will graduate this year. When we met, she was still muttering about the unfinished Tang poems. I not only praised my niece for her cleverness.
But she didn't even talk to me. When she entered the room, she lay directly on the sofa. I talked to her and she ignored me. Have no eyes. It is said that children of this age should be the most lively and jumping, but it is really rare to see such a quiet child.
I asked my cousin's niece what happened. I didn't expect my cousin to look sorry. She said that when she first went to kindergarten, she pushed her children too hard and enrolled her in various cram schools, which often made her dizzy. She has no time to play every day, and because of lack of activities, her children naturally become silent and slowly stop talking to others.
I can't help but breathe a sigh of relief after listening to my cousin's words. After all, children are still children. It is best to let them grow naturally. If you blindly pull out the seedlings and encourage them, you will eventually suffer the consequences.
Although our life is getting better and better now, our level is getting higher and higher. Extra-curricular remedial classes are everywhere, and all kinds of advertisements bombard parents every day, watching other people's children go to outdoor tutoring. Can your children not go?
But I don't know, for children's learning, haste makes waste, and sometimes slow is fast. Regardless of children's feelings, it is not correct to let children learn new things blindly.
It may be deceptive not to let children lose at the starting line! It may not be a good thing to feed your child with a spoon too early. Putting too much pressure on children will be counterproductive.
Children are still young, and naturally there are rules for their growth. When to do something and when to do something are fixed.
If we ignore the law of children's growth and let them learn what they should not learn at this age, the pressure on children's shoulders will be too great, but it will make them dull.
For example, a three-year-old child is not easy to write because of his immature fine movements, but how many words the child insists on writing every day is a kind of torture for the child, which will make the child hate writing in the future.
2. Let children grow naturally, which will make them more aura.
We all have our own growth and development rules, and children are no exception. Our parents should give their children enough room for growth and development, and let them have enough time to absorb the nutrition they need for growth.
Montessori, an Italian educator and psychologist, believes that children absorb things from the outside world according to their own specific procedures. They don't want to destroy this program, which is "children's reason".
When external stimuli do not match their own serious cognition, the brain will become blurred, which will affect children's physical and mental development in severe cases.
That is, as the old saying goes, you can't eat hot tofu if you are impatient.
3. "Spontaneous" growth not only saves money, but also benefits children's growth and development.
The result of a survey shows a very strange phenomenon. When a child who receives early education is with a child who grows up spontaneously, the child who receives early education is not as smart as the child who grows up spontaneously.
We will find that although children who have received early education know more and know more, compared with children who grow up spontaneously, their mental development is obviously lagging behind. On some issues, they are too rigid and inflexible, and their reaction ability and liveliness are not as good as those of children who grow up naturally.
We all hope that all parts of the child's body and mind can develop well, not one part is outstanding. For the sake of children's future, we should not lose watermelons because of small losses.
It takes ten years to plant trees, but it takes a hundred years to cultivate people. Slowly raised children are smarter for the following reasons. Parents should remember not to let their impatience disturb their children's growth. Children with slow development can have more time to digest what they have learned.
As we all know, if you want to master a knowledge thoroughly, you must master it thoroughly. Children with slow development can have this very well. They have no extra burden and can have a long time to digest what they have learned.
In the long run, they will learn more and more things, and they will form a solid memory that will not be forgotten for a long time.
2. Slow-raised children can combine what they have learned with practice.
As we all know, the ultimate goal of learning knowledge is to guide practice. Those parents just don't know anything about success and ignore this most important point. Children can learn to apply what they have learned to the greatest extent. Children with slow growth can have enough time to understand this and what they have learned.
3. Children who are slowly raised can slowly perceive the world.
In the world of slow-growing children, no adults force him to do things he doesn't like or care about. They can know this colorful world through their own temperament.
Although we will make mistakes, we can't make mistakes in something, let alone a child's mistake. Whether you make a mistake or not, this is the child's reaction to the feelings the world has brought him. What we do is to protect the child's reaction as much as possible.
How to realize slow education and help children develop physically and mentally? Parents do these things 1 and impose their wishes on their children first.
Many parents said when their children were born that I didn't learn piano because my family was poor, so my children must let her learn piano in the future.
Or I envy the parents whose children can dance best, so I must send my children to learn dance. We can let children learn some interest classes, but we should not turn interest classes into props to realize their wishes. Children are independent people and should not bear these expectations of their parents.
Parents should be more patient.
Children's mental development is a slow process, and we can't rush it.
For children, our parents should be more patient, let them understand slowly, and then understand some concepts and meanings. When the child really understands the belt, then we don't have to say anything more, and the child will understand it slowly.
3. Allow children to make mistakes
Children themselves are budding flowers and bones, and sometimes it is inevitable to make some mistakes. Our parents should also allow children to make their own voices within a known range, so that children can form their own cognitive abilities in their own minds, so that they will not panic when they encounter the same thing again.
4. Communicate with children more.
Communication and communication are the necessary magic weapons for us to establish a good relationship with our children. With good communication, our chronic education law will shine, and children will trust us and be willing to tell us anything. This is the most critical step for us to build deep feelings with our children.
The so-called chronic education method is just to give children more time to grow naturally. We are only guides on the road of children's growth, not farmers in the village. Give children enough space to digest these things, and their cognitive ability will naturally improve. Many things can be understood without learning.