Before I officially became a mother (including expectant mothers), I had little imagination about my children, and even I was a little disgusted to see people around me posting their children in a circle of friends. I thought I was "doing nothing" until I gave birth to a baby. I didn't feel like an "adult". I am cared for by my parents and loved by my brother, leading a simple and free life.

It was not until I got married for more than two years that I began to get pregnant, and the baby was expected. For the arrival of the baby, I was quite calm, worked as usual, and even started a new entrepreneurial project in the second trimester-opened a small flower shop. The day before I went to work, I got dressed and ready to go out, and found myself particularly sleepy. I was forced to stop working and stay at home for labor.

I didn't figure out how to communicate with this new life until the child appeared in front of me. Because I don't have a name yet, I don't even know what to call him. I just call him "hello" and "hey". Later, my friend called my son "brother", and I realized that I could call him "brother". Later, we named it "Liao Bo" because the child lives in the future and we don't know what to teach him. Experience more, and "erudition" is the last word. At this time, I will be called "Liao Bo", "Mr. Liao Bo" and occasionally "Liao". Later, it was called "Liaochou".

In the first two months of my life, Liao Bo slept with her grandmother. All I can detect is physical exhaustion and spending money like water. Occasionally, I will sigh "Liao Bo, you are really wasting money", but I will silently buy him new clothes, milk powder, diapers, and no longer go to cafes and wash your hair outside, because every time you drink less coffee and wash your hair less, you can buy more clothes for your baby.

In the past, I thought it would be good for children to be free-range. However, when Liao Bo joined us in February, he began to drool. Only then did I know that the saliva towel was so expensive. 14 yuan/piece. My mother-in-law has been urging me to buy more at home. As a matter of fact, our economy is so tight that we dare not buy any more after buying four pieces. Soon after, I read a lot of apps, online articles, and recommendations from friends. I bought an early education course for Liao Bo, with an annual fee of 1799 yuan. I was very entangled before buying, and I was very practical after buying. Up to now, the principle of spending money on children is: just eat enough, value first, and accompanying education is the most important.

I used to think that parents had to go out to earn money, and it was a reasonable state for children to live with grandparents. However, in February in Liao Bo, at my strong request (grandma loves me very much, and it is also for me to cultivate well), the baby slept with me for the first time and danced happily for a while, but something happened. The baby just lay down after drinking milk and is not well yet. His mouth is like a pump, and he spits out all the milk. He felt that his eyes were black and tears were coming out. He kept saying "What to do, what to do", then took out almost the whole package of paper towels to deal with the scene, pretended to pick up Liao Bo calmly and told him that it was all right and we could go to bed. When he fell asleep after drinking milk again, he rushed to the supermarket and bought a bag of paper towels for fear that he would vomit again. There were not enough paper towels in my room.

I used to think that I could take care of the baby at work, holding the baby in one hand and starting to work when I fell asleep. Later, when Liao Bo was in April, his stomach was upset. After a few days, he cried at night. Once, I cried with my baby in my arms. After more than half an hour, I cried with him, and then I called my parents for help.

I used to think it was silly to post photos of children in a circle of friends, but in March+,Liao Bo took the initiative to laugh with me, and I also captured a small video, which I couldn't help sharing with my circle of friends, and started my formal sunbathing. Later, I participated in the course in the app, and I shared the content every day, including pictures and written records. On the one hand, I really find the children's moments interesting. On the other hand, I want to use the system to record the baby's life. 1 year, 5 years, 20 years, how many good memories can we bring back when we look back at these records.

I used to have a wide range of social contacts, and my schedule was full during the day and night. Now, except for work, I try to stay at home at other times. When I stay at home, I will give up my mobile phone to accompany my baby, and occasionally I will miss something, but I will be happier. In my hometown house, I bought some starry sky stickers for my baby, decorated the room into a starry sky department to make the whole space have an atmosphere, and then laid a crawling mat, and the space with my baby came out. Because the baby in each period is unique, after this period of time, I can't appreciate the fun of the baby at this time, so I cherish every time I accompany him.

I used to think that children's toys were to inspire children's intelligence, and early education was an "early education class". Now I think companionship and guidance are the best. The "toy" here refers to the modern toys in the toy store, and the toys I understand at the moment should include anything in the world. In the baby's eyes, all things and even people are his toys. May+,I made a wind chime for my baby, let him feel the flow of wind, the shaking of leaves, the picking and tearing of leaves. This is probably the most primitive way to experience leaves. At present, Liao Bo is June+Day. Because I live in the countryside, I take my baby to climb mountains, pick olives, lick oranges and bite longan, and experience "roundness, rolling, similarity and difference".

I used to think that a lot of knowledge would be understood by children when they were older, but you didn't let them experience it. How can he understand? The first theme of early education course is "water". Do you want to learn such a simple thing? For a week, let the baby experience the flow of water, the flow and change of edible pigments in the water, and observe the artificial rain and fish swimming in the water. The simplest water in life can also become the theme of early education and enrich children's lives.

A lot of "I used to think …" and a lot of things I heard from my friends, but they didn't really enter my heart and didn't feel anything. All parents have no "certificate". We only look at the "education" from our parents' generation, and even we resist that kind of education from the bottom of our hearts. But it is terrible that we often unconsciously treat our children the way our parents treat us, which is not our original intention.

Only when the children are brought up can they know the kindness of their parents. Since I gave birth to Liao Bo, I began to realize that "companionship is the best love", and I began to reflect on my feedback to my parents. I seldom go home after marriage, and I started to take action about two months ago-going back to my mother's house for a meal every week. While thinking about how to get along with children and how to educate them, we should also review our relationship with parents. How much energy does it take for parents to raise us?

At this time, on the seventh day of the first month of 2020, I will accompany my baby 10 and prepare to start work tomorrow. Because of the epidemic, there is a depressing smell in the air. As ordinary people, there is nothing we can do, so stay at home and spend time with your family. I wrote an article the other day: "Did you take photos of your family?" I hope you can not only count leaves and raisins at home, but also organize your family to take pictures. Maybe it will be a good memory point in a few years! I wish everyone peace, happiness and success.

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