When I met Connie Cho at Orange College, I thought she should be the kind of person that most women envy. Both husband and wife are enviable iron rice bowls. We have a house and children, and the major events in life have been completed, so we can live a leisurely life. But in fact, her mental state is full of fighting spirit, like a poor boy eager to change his fate and brave the beach. She either studies or lectures in her spare time. The schedule is also full.

Why is this? But also from the student days.

First of all, teenagers don't know the taste of sadness.

As a student, she was, in her own words, "an ordinary and extremely ordinary person, with good grades and looks, serious partial grades, and trouble in math and physics."

But because I was ordinary since I was a child, there is no gap, but I have a good attitude. At that time, the teenager was frivolous, and she didn't take her study seriously. She plays basketball every day (you can imagine her height and personality). What she wanted to do most at that time was to become an NBA rocket bear.

It can be said that she was very happy when she was a student until she failed in the college entrance examination.

When she divided the arts and sciences, she was fooled by her good friends and chose the science she was not good at with them. As a result, her college entrance examination score was only 345. As soon as her grades came down, she saw the scores of her classmates and friends and imagined that everyone could go to a good university, but she fell into Sun Shan, and she felt this huge gap for the first time.

Unwilling, she went to cram school again and launched a second charge to the college entrance examination.

Unfortunately, that year's math college entrance examination questions were particularly difficult for her who always preferred math. Although her college entrance examination score is higher than last year 100, it is still not enough for undergraduate students.

Can't just give up, unwilling, she decided to charge for the third college entrance examination. Knowing that I have poor self-control, I deliberately chose a very strict school tutoring in the mining area.

Although she is still a little lazy, she worked harder than in previous years, and with good luck, she finally passed the college entrance examination for the third time and entered a normal college-Jinzhong University.

Erhua pear metamorphosis

After entering the university, she felt the gap again-her classmates were younger than herself. Three years of college entrance examination, two years of repeat reading, the oldest reality, let her feel unprecedented pressure, let her know the value of time and opportunity.

The old horse squad leader in Soldier Assault once said: Don't dawdle, or you won't get along.

Ni Qiu Er changed her usual laziness, as if she were a different person. In classroom study, making friends, social practice and so on. She spent four years in college with high density and gained a lot.

After graduation, she actively took the postgraduate entrance examination and became a student majoring in developmental psychology in Normal University. Her dream is to be a master like Zhang Defen.

Just as she went to school with the hope of becoming a person like Zhang Defen in the future, another piece of good news came. She won the first prize in the recruitment examination of a public institution in Jinzhong. In the 1000-person exam, she was the top three in the written test and the first in the interview.

She is very happy that she didn't get the first place in the exam since she was a child, and she has always had feelings for Jinzhong City. Thinking of seeing teachers and classmates again and having a small world of her own, she was very excited to report to the unit.

You can't have your cake and eat it. You have to give up what you want for the postgraduate entrance examination.

Be in a daze for three or five years

After entering this institution, she still holds the mentality of a student and always wants to know more about the work, but the leader said: "Our administrative unit doesn't need to know too much about business, that's a matter for the design institute. Just do your job. "

The year when she entered the company was the year when New China paid the most attention to water conservancy in 60 years. Document No.1 of the Central Committee issued a decision on accelerating the development of water conservancy. There are many things in the office, but they are basically simple and trivial. It seems that you don't need any professional skills. Just be patient. As a result, she became a very busy person, working overtime every day without complaining, and felt that she was a diligent and enterprising person.

In this way, unconsciously, five years have passed. One day, everyone who has worked for more than five years can attend a speech on job competition, and she happens to be qualified to attend. Although it is not her turn to rank according to seniority, she still wants to join in the fun.

She didn't feel anything when she spoke for the Post. Anyway, writing a popular speech with a clever pen can't beat her who loves writing. She also got a lot of applause.

Then, the jury asked her, "What impressed you most in your work these years?" ? What is your most fulfilling thing? "

She was completely confused, and suddenly realized that she had nothing to say in her five-year career: "I don't know what a person who answers the phone, sends faxes and writes soup-repellent materials all day …" She painfully found: "These five years of youth have been fucking fed to dogs! I have nothing great. "

Fourth, Jing Shizhong is back!

After this speech, her whole spirit has undergone earth-shaking changes. She doesn't want to fall into such a mediocre life any more. She began to regain her dream, changed the step-by-step and drifting life in the past, and began to use her spare time to do what she wanted most and live the life she wanted most.

Since then, she has been very active in going to work every day, finishing the work of the unit early, and then she can continue to study psychology and family education in her spare time. After work, she actively communicates with her peers and related units. Soon, her work and hobbies have made great progress. ...

At work, the materials she wrote were adopted by many media in the country and were affirmed and praised by the leaders.

As a hobby, she also opened three channels to teach family education and psychology. First, the psychological center of her alma mater; The second is the city rescue station; The third is the parents' class of the cultural class remedial class opened by friends. After several months of reading notes, she has compiled and revised them into courses that can be shared.

There is a bird that has been flying for ten years and soared into the sky.

Ni Qiuer said that she has wasted ten years, and only by catching up can she make up for the lost time. In the years to come, she will go all out to advance towards her dream.

The following is an interview with Connie Qiu Er.

1, do you have any hobbies?

I have many hobbies, such as writing, broadcasting, basketball, swimming, roller skating, singing folk songs, folk dancing, calligraphy and Tai Ji Chuan.

After work, many people have no time. The best thing to stick to is Tai Ji Chuan and writing. This can be done by one person without interaction.

Writing has nothing to do with anything, just like eating and sleeping. Twitter is a very important thing in my life. If you don't write, you will get sick.

2. Do you belong to the kind of person who is as clever as ice and snow or ordinary people? Have you met a lot of luck in your life?

No matter from my appearance to my family, my academic performance and income, I am very ordinary. Therefore, I am in a good mood. For me, personal efforts are far better than genius. I have never bought lottery tickets since I was a child, and blind date will not have any intersection with Gao Fushuai. I never believe in such a good thing as pie falling all over the world.

3. What dreams did you have when you were young? What is your dream now? How do you want others to introduce you in 20 years?

When I was a child, my dream was to be a writer and a radio host.

The dream now is to become a spiritual growth master like Zhang Defen.

Twenty years later, I will be fifty years old. I hope others say that this old lady is in good health and can climb trees!

You have developed the hobby of psychology into a semi-professional job, but many people want to do it but can't. Tell me about your experience in this field.

First, try to bring documents. Although getting the certificate is still far from practice. There are many people who have not done research, but as far as outside recognition is concerned, such a signboard is always needed, which shows that you have the most basic professional level. Besides, textual research also shows your sincerity in this industry. Even if you are reluctant to invest this time and money, what benefits can you talk about?

Second, don't care too much about money. I have been engaged in public service for a long time. When I walk into communities, rural areas and schools, I will take part in any activities. Later, I got married, and there were many things, but I would participate in the leading role. There are public elective courses with group counseling in universities, and the salary is paid according to the teacher's substitute fee, which is almost symbolic. But I cherish that opportunity very much, and I am very careful in preparing lessons, which is of great help to myself. Now, no matter how many people are in the lecture hall, they will not be nervous when they stand up. They all exercised their courage through voluntary activities.

Third, attach importance to the role of the circle. As mentioned earlier, I work in the city where the university is located. Here are my teachers and classmates. They all trust me and recognize my ability. I didn't need to promote myself, so someone invited me. I am ashamed to say that for so many years, I have never left the school circle and earned my own money.

Fourth, the research field should be as narrow as possible and the clients should be as many as possible. In the past, I mainly studied individual and group psychological counseling, but in recent years, I found that few people are willing to do psychological counseling, and the requirements for psychological counseling are very high. My present level and experience are still far behind. However, parents are generally willing to spend money for their children, and there are relatively few sensitive issues, so family education guidance is the direction of my study now. In family education, communication is a common problem, so we should start with communication first.

5. Most of the orange colleges are post-90s. Please give them a message about the workplace or job search.

Water is always easy to disappear in water. People are the easiest to disappear in the crowd.

6. When did you join Orange College? What was the reason for joining at that time?

I joined Orange College in August. At that time, one of my high school classmates in Shanghai just got the qualification certificate of a cutting-edge career planner and recruited mice. I'm white rat one. At that time, we talked for two hours, but we didn't talk about dreams.

She recommended Orange College to me, and three things attracted me first. From here, I learned not to be led by others, and I have my own pace every day.

Orange College advocates growing into what you like, which is completely in line with my idea. One day two months after punching in, I decided to join Orange College. Find yourself again.

In this process, there is another very important person, that is, my shell cat. Now less than two years old, he gave me many surprises and awakened some soft feelings in my heart. I envy my children to make new progress every day. If I stop here, let alone others, maybe even the children will dislike me. Joining orange college is also to find the state of learning.

7. What did you gain after you entered Orange College?

First of all, as soon as I joined Orange College, the first thing I did was to switch classes and listen to Xiao Qiang's courses.

Xiao Qiang's curriculum management is not time, but life. Know your strengths, long-term goals, short-term goals and ways to achieve them. Let me have a clearer understanding of the future.

Second, participate in the export training camp.

Originally, I planned to be a first-class builder in September, but I was touched when I saw this activity in Orange College by chance. For me, the community is definitely a cure for all diseases. I never thought I could write five articles a week. You can write 30 thousand words a month. This is almost a broken thought of the past year. In September, time flies. That's what it feels like to do what you like.

Through the output, I know more about my own shortcomings. I read too little and have a narrow vision. The two years of pregnancy and childbirth have almost formatted my brain. Another problem is that you are too fond of showing off in an ostentatious manner, and you are eager to publish your contribution as soon as you write it. Listening to the sharing of red lead has benefited me a lot. She suggested that writing and revision should be done separately. Put it back for a few days after writing. I'm currently practicing. What I need is not how many articles and words to write. But the ability to write good articles.

Third, meet new friends through activities.

Many new people have been added to the circle of friends. Unlike the people who used to bask in baby gangs and eat goods every day, they refresh the life I want every day. Study, activity, reading and speech. Show me that there are other possibilities in life.

8. Are there any good growth tools to share?

My best tool is a notebook.

My classmate who gave me career planning consultation gave me a notebook with a message from the consultant. I write plans and list tasks on it every day. That book, for me, is not something in my original world, and it has a certain sense of sacredness. I even think that anything written in that book will be realized.

In fact, it is.

9. How old is your baby? How do you arrange your time for work, part-time, study, entertainment and communication with your children and husband?

My baby is less than 2 years old. Of all the roles, the most important one for me is my mother.

My goals are many and tangled. My approach is to do more small experiments in life and find my own comfortable rhythm. I reviewed the exam for a while and went home every night 1 hour. As a result, I feel guilty. I don't care about reading. So I gave up decisively and went home to accompany my children as soon as I got off work. Although I failed in the exam, I never regret it.

The time I concentrate on is working hours. No gossip, no chat, no circle of friends. All used for reading and writing. People used to come in to greet each other, but now they don't care. The leader knows that I have a hobby of writing and doesn't say much. Anyway, I will finish everything he arranged in the fastest time, which is very efficient.

For my husband, communication is really much less. I tried to go to work with him, and then we hit the road. Talking about children on the road is also fun. Every day, we have a fixed time to spend with our parents. Dad time is game and English time, and mom time is picture book time. When I read the picture book, the child was quiet in my arms, and I felt very happy. Our shell cat has a strong language ability. When she was two years old, she could tell stories and sing more than 20 English songs. It has something to do with our exclusive time. Every week, our family of three goes to two early education classes, which are fixed programs and can also let the elderly have more rest.

10, what are your expectations for your child's future?

I think it's good that he is healthy and happy. I only know that when he was growing up, I would tell him many stories, read many books, go to many places and eat many delicious foods. It doesn't matter if I don't study well. Anyway, I didn't study hard at that time, so I am very happy now!