Today, children's competition is different from before. It is simply a shopping era of fighting for family, knowledge, intelligence, talent and parents. Under this invisible pressure, parents have to be anxious-1year-old, a little older early education class, followed by painting class, English class and piano class, accompanied their children all the way, and successfully sent their children to the long-awaited primary school. For a better life, this is only the first step of the long March. In addition to finishing school homework on weekends, it is still full of excellent classes and interest classes.
In short, it seems that if children are not allowed to learn more, they will fall behind; It seems that if you don't sign up for more excellent classes, your child will not be excellent; It seems that if children are not allowed to take grades and win prizes, their whole life will be bad in the future. In the era of mobile Internet, massive information comes in an instant, and reports of all kinds of little prodigies are overwhelming, so parents can't slack off on their children's education for a moment.
The results of the 65438+February monthly exam just came out, and the mother of the children and classmates in the circle of friends sent a paragraph:
"Just because I didn't get a hundred points in math, I cried until now after school at two o'clock, and all kinds of persuasion were useless! I also learned to throw things! "
I'm only in the first grade of primary school, and I have a general monthly exam, 100. Children care so much!
A circle of friends sent by an old classmate:
"Calm down and think about how to educate children. Is there a problem? When my daughter was about to fall asleep, she suddenly remembered that some Chinese studies could not be recited, so she began to cry, saying that there would be a Chinese studies class tomorrow afternoon, and she was not afraid of the teacher's questions. I didn't listen, but I found that paragraph and cried and read it until I knew it. "
Such children will be considered as serious children, excellent children and stressed children. As parents, do we just want our children to be excellent? Or do you want your child to be happy? Or do we think that children can have a happy life as long as they are good enough?
Once, in the competition of Super Brain broadcast by Jiangsu Satellite TV, China teenager Li Yunlong played against Italian teenager Andre and won the competition, so he was called a genius boy. While everyone cheered, they forgot a cruel fact. Li Yunlong's behavior at the game shows that the child's mind is extremely pale.
The competition was originally an interactive entertainment activity, but it was regarded as the goal and pursuit of life by Li Yunlong. He bases his happiness on winning or losing. He cried for a possible small mistake in the game and fell on his seat several times. At that moment, he didn't think that he was representing China and Italian opponents, and he didn't care about his image in front of foreign companions. He cried willfully, and his character defects were exposed.
When Li Yunlong cried for his little mistake, his opponent, Andrea, an Italian boy aged 12, also shed tears. When asked why Andre was crying, he said: I saw him (Li Yunlong) crying badly, and I was very sad, so I cried. "
This is the gap between education and children's hearts. The Italian boy who is full of love and calmly faces failures and setbacks embodies a good family and a good character.
Most parents like to train their children into learning machines, memorize hard disks, and deprive them of their innocent childhood, enjoy the joy of life, feel the beauty of spirituality and the opportunity of self-education under the guise of thinking about the future. Under the behavior that parents only pursue achievements, their hearts are barren. How can a barren heart bloom wisdom?
The world is changing rapidly, and no one can foresee a child's life. The unknown life is interesting and full of infinite possibilities, and everyone's life is ultimately in their own hands. How many sons and daughters of famous universities have gone astray because of the lack of mind and thought and the lack of wisdom in life, and even harmed others and themselves, destroying youth and life, which is deplorable.
Who doesn't want their children to have impressive achievements and be admired and praised? But what parents expect most from their children is actually a job that can support themselves. If this job is what children love, it is a blessing. Then there is family harmony and happy life. This seemingly ordinary and simple wish is actually not easy to realize. This requires great wisdom in life to understand and master, whether for children or for you and me.
Let's see how the classic fables written by the master vividly tell us the wisdom that these happy lives should have:
1 Everything has advantages and disadvantages, so we can't just focus on the advantages and ignore the possible disadvantages.
The innate nature cannot be changed;
Don't look down on anyone, because no one is too weak to even get revenge for being insulted;
No matter how glorious the past is, it is difficult to avoid the disrespect of others after losing its glory;
5 don't abandon what you are familiar with and do what you are unfamiliar with;
6 don't envy others, what is suitable for others may not be suitable for yourself;
7 blind self-confidence often brings danger to yourself;
8 fortunes change alternately, and the strong sometimes need the weak;
People often treat themselves and others with different standards;
10 We should recognize good and evil, and don't help those who will hurt ourselves, even if it is a small help;
If your child is kind, considerate, able to share with others, has the courage to start over in the face of failure, and always keeps a pure and beautiful vision in his heart, then no matter what career he will take in the future, who he will meet in his life and what parents he will meet, he need not worry too much. God will take good care of your child and make him happy, which is far more valuable than money and status.