Too high a requirement of 1 will inhibit children's "advanced thinking"

When parents ask their children to do something beyond their intelligence level, children's brains often escape to a state of "low-level" thinking, creating an illusion that they have already done it, and the skills acquired by "learning" in this way may need more time to correct in the future. For example, a two-year-old child may recite the multiplication table, but that doesn't mean he knows what multiplication is. By the time he really understands the algorithm of multiplication, he may be used to treating it with low-level recitation, but it is difficult to treat it with high-level mathematical thinking. Professor Elkind called this behavior of being forced to recite the multiplication table because of parents' vanity "pony trick", and should not treat children like this.

Parents' pressure on their children will stifle their curiosity.

Children are naturally curious about the world. But if parents only put forward strict requirements for their children, they may be curious and ask, "am I interested in this thing?" As a result, because of his parents' requirements, he first asked himself, "What should I do and how can I satisfy my parents?" His curiosity about things will gradually disappear, and many things will be unwilling to explore and even become utilitarian in order to cater to his parents.

Parents' constant anger and disappointment will have a psychological shadow on their children.

When some very young children are unwilling to do (try) something beyond their ability, some parents show disappointment, unhappiness and even great anger towards their children. At this time, the child is helpless about the situation that his parents are out of control. Psychologically, this situation faced by children is called learned helplessness. If a child is exposed to such negative emotions that he can't control for a long time, it will be very unfavorable to his intellectual development and psychological development.