Education begins before a child is born. When the baby is still in the mother's belly, various prenatal music and yoga classes for pregnant women emerge one after another. When children begin to speak, some parents consciously carry out bilingual training. Children start early education classes when they are over one year old, and the cost of early education is very high, one or two thousand yuan a month. By the time they go to kindergarten at the age of three, some parents will enroll their children in interest classes (such as oral English and dancing). ). In primary school, the real off-campus training began. Chinese, mathematics, Olympic mathematics and other training courses are arranged to the brim. By junior high school, I was fully armed. In this era when education is so anxious, children's happy childhood is gone forever, which is customized by their parents. Why are parents so anxious? Talk about my views from the following aspects:
We live in an era of advocating eugenics. Most families have only one child or two children, and they are carefully cared for and cultivated. If we find that our children are behind others, we will collapse and be anxious. We wouldn't be parents at first, because no one taught us how to be parents, so we became parents. There will be training for all kinds of jobs in the world, except parents. This problem has been bothering me. All our experiences are inherited from our parents. Later, I found that the times changed too fast, and some previous experiences were out of date. There is no new and correct experience in society for us to learn from. We are all groping for our parents and children's education. When things get out of control, we get very anxious. There are also many kinds of poisonous chicken soup in society, and parents will be affected to some extent. How to raise children correctly? This has become a very serious social problem. Many times, we mistakenly put the concepts and expectations of adults on children and expect children to do things according to the thinking mode of adults. Once a child can't do it, he will be very anxious. We often forget that he is just a child. What he needs is a happy childhood, a gentle mother and a loving father. It is obviously inappropriate for children to ask for their pure and beautiful hearts in the way of adults.
After entering the society, I deeply realized that most of the things taught in school are useless. The school teaches us how to take exams and get high marks, but getting high marks does not mean that you have strong social viability. The ability that society needs most cannot be tested. I don't remember which celebrity said this sentence. For example, pleasant communication with people, enthusiasm for work, love for family and how to live in harmony with family are all very important abilities. These abilities are the foundation of our foothold in society and an important factor related to a person's life happiness.
Whether a house is strong or not is usually the most important foundation. Black young dragon said: "Self-confidence and good character from the heart are the foundation of a child's life." I quite agree with that. People who are flawed, passive or violent are not welcome. I once talked about a boyfriend, 175, who was also very handsome. He usually gets along well, but there can be no contradiction. He is the kind of person with a flawed personality. Every time we are at odds, he doesn't talk or disappear. In short, if you don't contact him, he will never contact you. I told him that it was not appropriate for us to separate, and he didn't agree. Over and over again, many times. In the end, I really couldn't stand this personality, so I separated. Why are there so many divorced couples now? Most of them can't communicate. Of course, I'm a little partial. Of course, it may be caused by various problems, but there is no denying that non-communication really accounts for a large part.
Now the competition is fierce, the workload is heavy, the pressure is great, and the information explodes. As long as we stop studying, we will be eliminated at any time. We are really anxious. The pressure on women in particular is unprecedented. In the past, women only took care of their husbands and children at home, but now they are moving from home to work. How to balance family and career is a great challenge for working mothers. Parents don't have enough nutrition. What can they give their children?
Parenting is not the decision of parents, and children should obey you completely. This is a process of mutual learning and growth.
Let's share some comments from netizens:
If you choose to "raise children slowly", parents need strong beliefs to resist the pressure of cultural concepts, relatives and friends and society.
We also want our children to grow up slowly, sometimes more influenced by social concepts. Society is a very powerful torrent, sometimes we have been pushed out for a long time and haven't had time to think.
The concept of "slow care" is to let children grow up slowly. Facing the shortcomings and mistakes in children's growth, we should adopt an inclusive and understanding attitude to communicate with children, be patient with children, let children realize their mistakes, allow children to make mistakes, and let children experience the consequences of mistakes. Let them have self-confidence and good personality from the heart, which is the best gift from their parents.