It turns out that Chen Xiaohan, like Bauer, is a baby who doesn't like to wear clothes. I got up at seven this morning and spent a whole hour getting dressed. Han Xiao's mother took out the clothes she had prepared and said to the baby, Baby, come and get dressed. Are you going to play in the early education center today? Who knows Eva is like a little loach, she can't catch it at all. No matter how she coaxed and threatened, Han provided just wouldn't cooperate.
Why do some children dress so incongruously? Some old people will tell you that children don't want to be bound, but some children are stubborn. Does the baby love nudity? Or is there another reason behind it? Let's take a look together.
Why don't children like to wear clothes?
Children don't like to wear clothes, and it is not advisable to scold, force or overreact blindly, or let it go because of the warm weather. Find out why children don't like to wear clothes, and let them cooperate or learn to wear clothes by themselves.
1), the clothes themselves.
If the baby suddenly doesn't like to wear clothes, parents are advised to look for problems from the baby's clothes first. Children's skin is very sensitive and delicate. Is there no cut label on the clothes? Is the newly bought clothes a little "stinging"? If the child is over 2 years old, it is necessary to consider whether the child has clothes that he wants to wear. Parents may wish to communicate with their children.
2), rebellious psychology
In "Your Two Years Old", the author mentioned that if you take a tough approach, children may be even more uncooperative and even target you everywhere. If dressing is just one of many things that children don't cooperate with, then parents should check their way of speaking, that is, come and put on clothes. Baby, we need to get dressed. Are you ready? ''
3), fear mentality
Bellagin, a developmental psychologist, found in his research that when babies before the age of 2 wear pullovers, they think that the obstacle of' clothes' blocks their eyes, which is very terrible. On the one hand, this is related to the fact that the concept of object eternity has not been fully established, on the other hand, it stems from children's fear of darkness. If this is the case, parents can play hide-and-seek games with their babies, or choose topless clothes for their babies as a transition.
4), imitate the mentality
A friend told me that Chen Dangdang's clothes were quite suitable for her family, but one day she woke up from a nap, crying that she didn't want to wear a coat and took off her vest. My friend didn't know until she asked her husband. It turns out that dad took him to see the Haier brothers this morning.
He had to wear a bell, and he didn't agree to wear a sweater until his father explained that the two children lived on the tropical seashore. Sometimes children refuse to wear clothes in order to imitate their favorite animated characters, as long as they are patiently guided.
5) Parents' reaction makes the baby feel interesting.
Once, I took Dabao to class and asked my mother to take care of Bauer for me. There is a great temperature difference between indoor and outdoor in winter, so you have to wear several layers of clothes when you go out. Mom wants to take the baby out to buy food, but I didn't put the last coat on Bauer until I took Dabao home. Mother ran after her coat, and Bauer ran around the house with a smile.
In fact, he doesn't really want to get dressed, but he thinks it's fun to play chasing games with grandma. If the baby resists and the parents overreact, the child will only feel more fun.
How can I get my children to dress together?
If children deliberately confront us just because they are uncomfortable with clothes or because they imitate an idol, how can we make them cooperate more and even learn to dress themselves? The following three methods, I hope to help you.
Provide a little more choices.
In the period when children's self-awareness is highly developed, babies gradually have their own preferences and aesthetic awareness has entered the fast lane. At this time, Ma Bao might as well give children the right to choose what to wear. But remember not to offer too many choices, two is enough. The most important thing is to let the child realize that this is my own choice, and I believe he will cooperate more.
Turn dressing into a game
Cohen, a psychologist of game power, points out that game is children's first language. If we want to tell our children something, the best way is to' show them' instead of' tell them'.
Similarly, getting dressed can be an interesting thing. For example, when children wear sleeves and trouser legs, we can play the game of small train crossing the cave with him. In this way, the children will certainly cooperate, and it is also interesting to think about such a game.
Mobilize children's enthusiasm
The "chasing game" between Bauer and grandma ended in grandma's complete failure. I said to Bauer, let's play the next game. You can compare with grandma to see who can get dressed fastest, but since you are 50 years younger than grandma, you can ask for help from other places and ask your mother to help you get dressed. Hearing this, Bauer picked up his clothes and put them on him.
When the baby doesn't cooperate with dressing, let him be the protagonist. Dressing is his own business, and our parents are the second party to cooperate. In fact, when children have the ability to dress up, perhaps not cooperating is just a silent protest against parents. If you give the baby the initiative to dress, it may have a magical effect! The same is true for things like eating or sleeping. The child's rebellion is just an independent attempt. Let him do it himself. what do you think?