Children often appear when they play together? Get something? If you watch carefully for a period of time, you will find that there are always one or two babies who have a good impression on other people's things. Once you grab it, play it twice and throw it aside. Jindou, a 4-year-old baby from his girlfriend's family, is such a behavior pattern. His girlfriend gave him this reason, but the next time he met a child who concentrated on playing games, he would still go up and grab it. Every scene is so embarrassing that I really don't know what to do.

My best friend said to me anxiously: Do you think we did something wrong that led to his strong possessiveness? ? I laughed without saying a word, and then told her that in fact, many babies have the behavior of golden beans to varying degrees. In social interaction, robbing and being robbed? This is normal. It is a link that children may experience in the process of socialization. If the baby looks at others better than his own, let's see why.

Robber? Veblen effect?

In economics, veblen effect said that consumers' desire for a certain commodity will increase with the increase of its price tag, which is related to people's spendthrift consumption psychology.

In Bauer's early education class, a little boy likes to rob him. The teacher distributed Orff's musical toys to everyone, and Bauer got a sand hammer and shook it excitedly twice. The little boy came quickly and took the sand hammer from Bauer. Bauer burst into tears at once. Before the teacher came to uphold justice, the little boy got tired of playing with the sand hammer, dropped his toys and looked for his next goal.

I watched him carefully, and his target was children who seemed to like their toys, not those who didn't care about their toys. To put it bluntly, what he robbed was not the toy itself, but the love of other children for toys.

To some extent, like to rob other people's toys, is also a kind of? Veblen effect? . Bauer's love for sand hammers invisibly branded the sand hammers. Price? , causing the little boy to want a sand hammer very much.

So some children like to rob other people's toys, which is not a character defect at all, but a very common psychological state. If so, does this mean that we can stand by and watch the children grab things?

Treat children's robbing behavior with a normal heart

When Bauer's kindergarten classmates were about to grab a little girl's bell, his mother arrived in time to stop his behavior and said to him, Why are you so overbearing? It's someone else's. If you say it, grab it, so you can't play with your own? ? Not only that, but the mother also took the children to apologize to Bauer and me. She explained that children really love to rob other people's things, so they must make him understand that robbing is absolutely not allowed.

But is this really the case? As mentioned above, grabbing things is a normal psychological state of children. Others had a good time, so the child thought it must be very interesting. After catching it, he realized that it couldn't beat you. Like toys is the starting point of children, which is no problem. The only problem is the way babies get toys.

If you go online, label your child as a bully, overbearing, and understaffed, or even deny the idea that your child wants something he likes. It may have a negative impact on children: either because of psychological hints, it will intensify; Or learn to deny your own desires and produce more emotional problems. So, what should parents do in the face of such children?

How do parents deal with children grabbing things?

Stealing from others is just a behavioral deviation of some children growing up. In fact, there is no need to suppress the child blindly, or worry about whether he will become like that when he grows up. Little bully? . Children just need some guidance and some methods. You can try the following methods.

Stop it on the spot (in time)

Robbery is definitely wrong, so Bauer's mother did a good job. Once the child is found to have the wrong behavior of robbing others, the first thing to do is to stop it on the spot. It should be noted that to control his emotions, he should stop gently and firmly, such as holding the baby's hand, first shifting his attention away from the matter and taking him away from the scene. If the baby is crying, don't shout loudly, just stop grabbing things.

Affirm the child's feelings

There is nothing wrong with the idea of liking something and wanting it. When the child cried and lost his temper because he was stopped. Bao's father, Ma Bao, can first express her understanding of the child's feelings and ease the baby's mood. Let the next education return to the rational level. For example:? Mom knows you want that toy. You think it's funny, right? ? Wait for the child to calm down before continuing to reason.

Clear awareness of property rights

If you like a toy, grab it. What the hell went wrong? Rob? This behavior. Why would a child rob it? During the period of self-awareness, children may not realize it? Property rights? The concept of. Thought the whole world was not my toy. At this time, parents should tell him that you like this toy very much, but it belongs to others. You can't take it away or play without others' consent. ? Let children understand that liking is right and grabbing is wrong.

Guide to find a better way.

Dabao has a stage, and he also likes to rob others. Later, we talked. The main content is to discuss how to get what you like. He told me a lot with divergent thinking, such as asking my mother to buy one, or playing for a change, or begging others.

Actually, the baby's? Veblen effect? Is it for their enlightenment? Exchange? A good time for concepts. Even, it can make them understand the truth that many adults will not notice. You know, trade is always more beneficial than disputes.