The book also mentions that no matter how much we love our children, we instinctively start to be wary of them from the moment they are born. Out of the instinctive desire to save money, we will quickly protect everything we have, even worthless garbage. From the birth of a child, the psychology of adults is dominated by such ideas. Keep the child under control and don't let him get into trouble. Keep an eye on him. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them. But for children, these explorations are gratifying and interesting, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to unscrew the bottle cap, eat and wear shoes. And they will be completely addicted to these simple tasks for adults. They will try and repeat again and again to explore, discover, be excited and be happy, but adults can't stand it anymore, and finally all the affairs are done by their parents.
The pace of children's growth needs adults to wait. For example, taking children out for a walk, adults should also stop and wait. However, in real life, we adults often urge our children to move forward because we don't want to wait. Sometimes, we humans or animals do a good job of respecting children. Just like an elephant, when it is tired, it will stop and wait. Seeing this, I thought of a story I once saw walking with snails. This story is to let us know that we should respect the pace of children's growth.
I think adults should really admit their mistakes. We really can't interfere too much with children's growth. Sometimes it is a good choice for children for adults to "look on coldly".
After reading this book, I solved some doubts in my heart. I prefer to look at the problem from the perspective of children. I feel that my theoretical knowledge has also increased a lot. It seems that I really need to read more books.
I never have time to read the contents of this book. I have been busy correcting students' homework and preparing lessons. I hardly have time to settle down and read quietly. Only in the past two days have I been able to pick up this book and read it carefully. This is really a good book.
The impression of Montessori's works only stays in the textbooks of normal schools. As the greatest thinker and reformer in the history of contemporary education, she devoted her life to the cause of children's education. In the book, she profoundly reveals the secret of children's psychological development, shows that adults' obstruction and repression to children is the fundamental reason for children's psychological deviation, and points out the correct educational methods and remedial measures through her own educational practice in Children's Home. Childhood is the foundation of human existence, and children are the fathers of adults. Only by discovering and liberating children can we have a better future.
This book is divided into three parts: psychological embryo, new education, children and society, and ten chapters to describe various phenomena about children's childhood. When I read the preface for the first time, I felt that there was a very good saying, "A child is a victim throughout his childhood, because after school, he is no longer a child." Here, science is eager to save them. "reflect on the children we are facing now, they are experiencing the best primary school time. Who is the most important to children? What kind of influence has our current education brought to children? Anything that affects children will affect this most subtle and important focus. At this focus, all the life contents are full of vitality and many spiritual secrets are hidden, because adults are formally formed at this focus.
Therefore, this book is instructive to the work of primary school teachers, and analyzes the psychological state of students and teachers' countermeasures to a certain extent. Worth studying.
Three thoughts after reading The Secret of Childhood: "Providing an environment conducive to children's development and growth, and minimizing obstacles to development, such an environment can enable children to gather strength and provide them with indispensable means to carry out activities." It can be seen that the environment plays a vital role in children's growth. In education, the environment is not only the preparation of the classroom, but also the preparation of the teachers.
"Some neat and bright classrooms, low windows, window sills filled with potted flowers, and pocket-sized modern home furniture (small tables, easy chairs, low cabinets that students can reach with their small hands, and things that students can take out at will) seem to have brought real improvement to children's lives." It can be seen that the classroom environment needs to be suitable for the child's body proportion, and it is necessary to create a social environment belonging to the child to make the child more independent and confident.
Just like our firefly class, the environment in our class is for children aged 3-6. Since last semester, our class has become a small class-1. Children aged 5-3 go to school. Because some children aged/kloc-0 are short, we find that children can't get in touch with the environment and are not very interested in teaching AIDS. So, we adjusted and rearranged the classroom in time, replaced all the four-story teaching aid cabinets with three-story cabinets, placed low tables in the living area and sensory area, and placed footstools under the sink. After the change, children are not only in a state of work, but also more independent. Just like Yuanbao in our class just entered the park for one year and three months, Duoduo just entered the park for one year and five months. He is young, a little short compared with the teaching aid rack, and he can't reach the faucet when washing his hands. Before, he needed the teacher's help to wash his hands. After placing the footstool, he can wash his hands independently, so that he can better adapt to life in Children's Home.
In addition to the classroom environment, the teaching AIDS in the classroom should also meet their age and individual needs. In addition, the placement of teaching AIDS is also gradual. "Children are growing up, and all means conducive to development fascinate them. They are not interested in lazy activities. " Make teaching AIDS from simple to difficult, and let children realize the transition from low to advanced. Therefore, when choosing teaching AIDS, we should choose according to the children of different ages in the class. The teaching in different classes has a fixed position and should be placed step by step. Our class chooses teaching AIDS according to the existing age groups in the class. In the sensory transition zone, jobs that attract 1 year-old children and jobs that are consistent with children over 2 years old will be placed. Once, during working hours, Lele walked back and forth in the classroom, occasionally doing some simple work for him, such as throwing stones and scooping big spoons, and occasionally disturbing other children to do their homework. After observation, the teacher gave guidance. Finally, I became attached to the work of unlocking, and constantly explored the work of unlocking, as if I had found my inner needs.
If the preparation of the environment is the foundation, then the preparation of teachers is a necessity. "First of all, teachers are required to determine the correct moral stance", and the most important thing is to care about children and remind themselves to love them with professional ethics standards. Especially Mr. Montessori, it is very painful to have no love for children. Although I came from an education major, I really came into contact with Montessori education after I joined Children's Home, a natural tree in Conghua. As for the children, because I have never been a mother, I just think the children are so cute and fun, but after working here, I think the children are amazing. After he feels your love for him, he will often give you unexpected results. Like a giant panda, there was a time when she went to bed at noon every day and said, "Mom, mom, I want her to sleep with me. It sounds really warm. Bubu will say, "Teacher Guang, Bubu is awake. "Yes, the child is so simple, so simple, you really love him, and he thinks of you in his heart.
Watching them grow up, I grow up slowly. My heart is not pure love, but heartfelt love, and I slowly learn to think about problems and methods from their perspective. Even if you are tired, you will naturally be happy to see your child. In addition, "teachers should be psychologically prepared and study themselves persistently, so as to clear their deep-rooted defects and know what constitutes the obstacle to the relationship between themselves and their children." In order to find the defects hidden in our own consciousness, we need outside help and some instructions; Some people point out that we should find something in ourselves, which is indispensable. "Yes, as a Montessori teacher, you should be a blank sheet of paper, or bleach yourself as much as possible and relearn new educational ideas. I am glad that I came here after graduation, and I am also glad that I was exposed to Montessori education when I had no children.
Remove the beam from your eyes first, and then remove the thorn from your child's eyes. Only when teachers realize their own shortcomings and correct them can they help children grow up. And at this point, I am constantly revising. A prepared teacher must have the ability to observe. The observation mentioned here is not ordinary observation, but seeing the essence from the appearance of things. Excavate the reasons behind children's behavior from their behavior. This point is often overlooked by us. Many times, adults like to see the appearance of behavior and immediately draw conclusions and label their children.
Only when our classrooms and teachers are ready, can children choose their favorite jobs according to their own interests and practice repeatedly, so that they can be more focused and confident, independent and self-disciplined. In this way, children gradually tend to normalize. The front is bright, the road is tortuous, and the children are growing up and still need to continue to work hard.
Thoughts on reading The Secret of Childhood 4 Today, I read The Secret of Childhood, which is a book that introduces the healthy growth of children's body and mind. For a child, their mental growth is the most easily overlooked problem for us adults. We always think that children are too young to understand anything, but they are not. Although the children are very young, they have many different ideas from us adults. Montessori said: "Learning to walk is a second birth for children. He changed from a person who couldn't control himself to a proactive person. The success of this kind of effort is one of the main signs of children's normal development, but after taking this first step, they still need to practice frequently. " Children have their own thoughts and positive behaviors of exploring the world since babbling. It seems that we really can't ignore the inner growth of children.
We can meet children's material needs, but we can't just meet their unreasonable troubles, which will breed children's bad habits. Montessori stressed: "When adults make concessions to children's demands, children will expect a second victory after they have already won the initial victory. The more concessions adults make, the more things children crave. In the end, the fantasy that adults use to satisfy their children's desires turned into bitter fruit. Because the material world is extremely limited, and imagination can roam to infinity, and finally there will be conflicts and fierce conflicts. The child's willfulness became a disaster for adults, and adults suddenly realized that he was wrong. He said, "I have spoiled my children. "
There are many snacks at the entrance of the kindergarten, which are sold for a bag of fifty cents, 1 yuan for children to eat. Eating these foods is harmful to children's health. Every parent knows that children can't eat too much such junk food, but when their children cry and make trouble, parents will be soft-hearted and always comfort themselves: "It's not expensive anyway, so children should buy it once." However, children have captured the minds of adults. Whenever they walk to the school gate, they cry, and when there are many people, they cry loudly, so that parents will feel that if they don't buy it for their children, they will lose face if they continue to make trouble like this, so they have to compromise and pay for it themselves. And the children picked up by grandparents. If you don't buy it, the child will come home and say to his parents, "I want a bag of candy, but grandpa won't buy it for me." It seems that they don't love their children very much, which will also cause anger between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My colleague is very upset because her mother-in-law doesn't buy anything for her daughter. She always says that her mother-in-law doesn't love children. If we indulge our children casually, their material desires will continue to expand. When we can't meet their material needs, we will feel that we are not cultivating a child, but a debt collector, as if we didn't pay him back in our last life. When you grow up and graduate, you have to buy a house, get married with a bride price, give birth to a child, and force you to buy him a car when you see someone else's car. How can our meager salary satisfy him? Therefore, don't spoil your children, and don't think that you can satisfy their desires now, let them eat the best and wear the best, and compare with others everywhere, so that their children can become the most dazzling little child stars. Wherever they go, they will be praised, saying that this child is beautiful, dressed in foreign style and looks like a doll, which satisfies the vanity of adults and breeds children's bad habits. Let the child's vanity continue to escalate.
For the healthy growth of children, Montessori also believes that it is very important to prepare a suitable environment for children's physical and mental development. She stressed: "The materialized child is a spiritual embryo, and he needs his own special environment. Just as the physical embryo needs the mother's uterus and develops there, the mental embryo also needs the protection of the external environment; This environment is full of love, warmth and rich nutrition, everything in this environment. Everyone tends to welcome it without hurting it. " Creating a loving environment suitable for children's growth is conducive to their growth.
As a mother, we should know that gentle care is love, and brave letting go is also love. At the same time, we should always educate our children to understand that he will grow up one day and face the society alone. At that time, mom and dad will always be his strong backing, but don't forget that mom and dad behind him also need care ... and the children's care.
This is the tradition of our Chinese nation for thousands of years to "raise children to prevent old age". If we just give love to our children now, asking for nothing in return and not letting them know how to be grateful, we will be old when our children grow up. Will our children take the initiative to care about us then? Will you take care of us? This is a question worth thinking about.
Thoughts on reading The Secret of Childhood. I have been reading the book "The Secret of Childhood" intermittently for nearly two months, probably because the book is a little difficult and time is tight, so I can't calm down and read it for a while. I decided that Harle should finish the book. Finish reading this book on the return train. Strangely, when I was reading this book, a baby of 1 1 month became interested in it and played with it. At the same time, through the baby's various behaviors and actions, put the contents mentioned in the book into practice. I think Montessori also made such an outstanding contribution out of curiosity and love for young life!
In the book, I saw Montessori's complaints and dissatisfaction with adults. Although adults are children's "children" and don't understand the inner essence of children's lives, they hurt in the name of love under the illumination of fame and fortune in the real society. Montessori takes the basic philosophical idea or Christian idea of the western world as the basic starting point, and thinks that man is unique in this world, and he is rational and noble. Compared with animals, "people are like handmade products, and everyone is different." Everyone has his creative spirit, which makes him a work of art. But it takes a lot of effort and effort here. Before revealing any results, internal work must be completed. It is not a ready-made and simple copy, but a new and positive creation. When this product finally appeared, it proved to be a surprising and incredible product. It is like a masterpiece, which has poured into the artist's thoughts and feelings, and has been hidden in the artist's studio until it is exhibited to the public. "In Montessori's view, we ignore children in this cognition.
In the first part, Montessori emphasized that children are mental embryos and have a unique psychological development process. No child is born, not only referring to the body, but also its inner spirit, which we can't ignore. In this process, the spirit will go through a substantial process, that is, the child's psychological and physical development. Tetsuko Kuroyanagi's book Little Pea by the Window is popular all over the world. Perhaps there is such a bright spot. She knows children's psychology best.
The chapter on psychological development is mainly aimed at the sensitive period, and my colleagues suggested that I read it well, which is consistent with the educational concept advocated by the company.
In the sensitive period, children learn to adjust themselves and control certain things. He is conquering with inner vitality and feeling happy and happy in a stable rhythm; When he is hindered, he will be sad, mentally confused and even surly. "People still know little about the child's psychological trauma, but most of his scars are unconsciously branded by adults." Montessori said. Next, Montessori illustrates the child's performance in specific aspects through specific cases.
The second part of this book is children's education, including observation and discovery of children, educational methods and requirements for teachers. The third part of this book is about the relationship between children and adults and the rights of children.
A general review of the contents of this book is also to deepen the impression. After reading Montessori's book, the biggest feeling is deja vu. During my four years in college, I read many classic western works: literature, philosophy, history, poetry and prose ... Montessori's concept of early childhood education is similar to those described in these books, so I am not so confused. However, the biggest confusion lies in where and how China people's thoughts, including educational thoughts and concepts, should go. Through the valuable opportunities provided by the company, I came into contact with the educational reality of kindergartens and primary schools. I hope I can find more in practice, just like Montessori, and create more value with a loving heart.
Thoughts on reading the Secret of Childhood 6. The Secret of Childhood is a classic early education original. This book reveals the mystery of children's psychological development and puts forward a revolutionary concept of "sensitive period", that is, children's development in intelligence, rhythm, movement, character recognition and work has a special sensitive period, and children in the sensitive period will absorb and learn from the surrounding environment in a unique way according to the "sensitive" instructions. If we can grasp the sensitive period, it will greatly promote the development of children. At the same time, this book also reflects on the way parents educate their children, pointing out that adults should be in the position of observers, not to suppress the development of children, but to learn to love children wisely. How to address a wise son? I think we can do these things:
1, don't be keen on "helping out" your children.
Adults pay more attention to the final result of behavior, always take "maximizing interests" as an important criterion, choose the most effective and direct methods and strategies, and achieve the goal at the fastest speed. In our eyes, children are very keen on something that looks broken and worthless. For example, children find the tablecloth crooked and want to put it flat. We watched the children overcome difficulties, gave them help, and then let go. By doing this kind of behavior, we deprive our children of the opportunity to grow up.
Adults should take the responsibility of helping children.
Children always observe the surrounding environment with enthusiasm, and our behavior is more likely to attract them. We must act slowly and calmly. Only in this way can we provide children with correct guidance and let them clearly observe the subtle differences in movements. This is what we call setting an example.
3. Be a gentle person.
We often lose our temper with some behavior of our children. Losing your temper is like a storm, which will make the child's heart unable to be truly displayed and deeply hidden. Then we can't really understand children and free them from all the bondage. Only when children live in an unconstrained environment can their psychological life develop naturally.
4. Free choice.
Children's free choice shows us their psychological needs and tendencies. Children's interest and focus will come from the heart.
Finally, I want to share a sentence with you: Emerson said: "Children are like the Messiah. He came to the fallen people and led them back to heaven. "