My son went to study in America and settled in America after graduation. I found a foreign wife Susan. Today, my grandson Toby is 3 years old. My son applied for a tourist visa for me this summer. After three months in America, the way Susan, a foreign daughter-in-law, educates her children has opened my eyes to my mother-in-law at home. Hungry didn't eat every morning, after Toby woke up, Susan put breakfast on the table and went to work by herself. Toby will climb on the stool, drink milk and eat bread by himself. After eating, he went back to his room, looked for clothes and shoes in the closet, and then put them on himself. After all, Toby is only 3 years old, and Hangzhou Hero Gas Stove is being repaired. He still can't figure out the front and back of his trousers and the left and right feet of his shoes. Once, Toby put his pants on inside out again. I hurried to help him change, but Susan stopped me. She said that if he felt uncomfortable, he would take it off and put it on again. If he doesn't feel sick, let him be. That whole day, Toby was running around in his pants, but Susan didn't see it. Toby went out to play with the children in the neighborhood again. Soon, panting, he ran home and said to Susan, "Mom, Lucy said my pants were on inside out. Really? " Lucy is a neighbor's little girl, 5 years old this year. Susan smiled and said, "Yes, do you want to change it back?" Toby nodded, took off his trousers, looked at them carefully and put them on again. Since then, Toby has never put his pants on backwards. I can't help thinking that my granddaughter couldn't use chopsticks when she was five or six years old and couldn't tie her shoelaces when she was in primary school. Now in boarding junior high school, she brings a lot of dirty clothes home every weekend. One noon, Toby was in a bad mood and refused to eat. Susan said a few words to him, and little Toby angrily pushed the plate to the ground, and the food on the plate spilled all over the floor. Susan looked at Toby and said seriously, "It seems that you really don't want to eat! Remember, you can't eat anything between now and tomorrow morning. " Toby nodded and replied firmly, "Yes!" I laughed internally. Both mother and son are stubborn! In the afternoon, Susan and I discussed that I would cook Chinese food in the evening. I got the news that Toby bid farewell to his love of Chinese food. Susan must think Toby didn't eat well at noon and wants him to eat more at night. That night, I used my cooking skills to make Toby's favorite sweet and sour tenderloin, braised prawns and Chinese cold noodles with pasta. Toby likes that kind of cold noodles best. A little man can eat a whole plate. It's time for dinner, and Toby climbed onto the stool happily. Susan came over and took his plate and knife and fork and said, "We have an appointment. You can't eat today and you promised yourself. " Toby looked at his mother with a serious face and began to cry with a "wow" He cried and said, "Mom, I'm hungry. I want to eat. " "No, you have to keep your word." Susan is not a soft-hearted person. I was so distressed that I wanted to intercede for Toby and say something nice, but my son blinked at me. When I first arrived in the United States, my son told me that in the United States, when parents educate their children, others should never interfere, even the elders. Helpless, I had to keep silent. From the beginning to the end of the meal, poor little Toby sat in the toy car and watched us three adults gobble up. Only then did I understand Susan's real intention of letting me cook Chinese food. I believe that the next time Hangzhou Wanhe gas stove is repaired, Toby will lose his temper and lose his job, and he will definitely think of his experience of watching his parents and grandmother enjoy food hungry. Hungry tastes bad, and besides, I face my favorite food. Susan and I went to say good night to Toby before going to bed. Toby asked cautiously, "Mom, I'm hungry. Can I eat Chinese noodles now? " Susan smiled and shook her head and said firmly, "No!" Toby sighed and asked, "Can I eat when I wake up?" "Of course." Susan answered softly. Toby smiled sweetly. In most cases, Toby is very active in eating. He doesn't want to miss food because he stopped eating and suffer from hunger again. When I see Toby eating with his mouth full, I always think of my granddaughter. When she was Toby's age, Hangzhou Baixin gas stove was repaired. In order to coax her to eat, several adults ran after her ass with rice bowls, and she didn't buy any. She also made a condition: buy a toy after eating this bowl, buy a toy after eating another bowl ... deal with a man as he deals with you. One day, we took Toby to the park to play. Soon Toby and two girls played a kitchen game. Plastic pots, shovels, plates and bowls are all over the floor. Suddenly, naughty Toby picked up a small jar and banged it on a girl's head. The girl froze and burst into tears. Another girl, younger, saw something and cried. Probably Toby didn't expect such serious consequences, so he stood aside and was stunned by the maintenance of the cherry blossom gas stove in Hangzhou. Susan stepped forward and made it clear. Without saying a word, she picked up a small pot and slammed it on Toby's head. Toby was unprepared and suddenly sat on the grass. Hangzhou Wanxi gas stove maintenance, tears streaming down her face. Susan asked Toby, "Does it hurt? Will this happen next time? " Toby shook his head desperately while crying. I believe he will never do it again. Toby's uncle gave him a light blue bike. Toby likes it very much. As a treasure, nobody should touch it. Lucy, a neighbor girl, is Toby's good friend. She begged Toby to ride his car several times, but Toby refused. Once, several children were playing together, and Lucy sneaked into the car and drove away when Toby was not looking. When Toby found out, he angrily ran to sue Susan. Susan is chatting and drinking coffee with the mothers of several children. When the Siemens gas stove in Hangzhou was being repaired, she smiled and said, "You can solve your own problem, but your mother can't control it." Toby left helplessly. After a while, Lucy came back by car Toby saw Lucy, pushed her to the ground and took the car. Lucy sat on the ground and burst into tears. Susan picked up Lucy and comforted her for a while. Soon, Lucy was playing happily with other children. Toby rode his bike alone and felt a little bored. Seeing those children having such a good time, he wanted to join in, but he felt a little embarrassed. He rubbed against Susan and muttered, "Mom, I want to play with Lucy and others." Susan said quietly, "Then find it yourself!" "Mom, you come with me." Toby pleaded. "That can't do. You just made Lucy cry, and now you want to play with everyone. You have to solve the problem yourself. " Toby approached Lucy slowly on his bike. When he approached her, he turned around and came back. Going back and forth several times, I don't know when Toby and Lucy laughed again. Disciplining children is a matter for parents. Susan's parents live in California. When they heard that I was coming, they drove to see us. Toby was excited to have guests at home and ran around on the ground. He filled the small bucket with sand and carried it around the house. Susan warned her several times not to spill water on the floor, but Toby turned a deaf ear. Finally, Toby knocked over the bucket and the water spilled all over the floor. The excited little Toby didn't feel that he had done anything wrong. Instead, he proudly went barefoot and got his pants wet. I quickly found a mop to mop the floor. Susan grabbed the mop from me and handed it to Toby. She said to him, "Dry the floor, take off your wet clothes and wash yourself." Toby didn't want to cry and make trouble. The gas stove in Hangmatsu was fixed. Without saying anything, Susan took him directly to the storage room and shut him down. Hearing Toby's earth-shattering cry inside, I was so distressed that I wanted to go in and take him out. Toby's grandmother stopped me and said, "This is Susan's business." After a while, Toby stopped crying. He shouted in the storage room, "Mom, I was wrong." Susan stood outside the door and asked, "Do you know what to do?" "I know." Susan opened the door and Toby came out of the storage room with two lines of tears on his face. He picked up a mop as high as himself and struggled to dry the water on the ground. Then, he took off his pants, carried them with his hands, walked into the bathroom naked, and washed clothes in a trickle. Toby's grandparents looked at me with surprised expressions and smiled meaningfully. This incident touched me deeply. In many families in China, parents' discipline of their children often leads to a "world war", which is often guarded by grandparents, stopped by grandparents, and quarreled between husband and wife. Later, I mentioned this when I was chatting with Toby's grandparents. Toby's grandfather said something that impressed me deeply. He said that children are parents' children, and we must first respect the way parents educate their children. Although the child is young, he is a born diplomat. When he sees the differences between family members, he will skillfully take advantage of the loopholes. This will not only help to improve his behavior, but will lead to more and more serious problems and even bring more other problems. Moreover, the contradiction between family members and the disharmonious family atmosphere will bring more insecurity to children. The maintenance of gas stoves by Hangzhou bosses will adversely affect children's psychological development. Therefore, no matter whether there are differences between parents and grandparents in educating their children, and whether there are differences in educational concepts between husband and wife, there can be no conflicts in front of children. Toby's grandparents stayed at home for a week and are going back to California. Two days before leaving, Toby's grandfather solemnly asked his daughter, "Toby wants a toy excavator." Can I buy it for him? " Susan thought for a moment and said, "You gave him a pair of roller skates as a gift this time. By Christmas, Hangzhou Putian gas stove will be repaired, and then buy a toy excavator as a gift! " I wonder what Toby's grandfather said to the little guy. Later, I took Toby to the supermarket and Hangzhou Haier gas stove for maintenance. He pointed to the toy excavator and said, "Grandpa said to buy this for me as a gift for Christmas." The tone is full of joy and expectation. Although Susan is strict with Toby, Toby loves his mother very much. When he plays outside, he will collect some flowers or leaves that he thinks are beautiful and give them to his mother seriously. When someone gives him a gift, he will let his mother open it with him; If there is something delicious, always leave half for mom. I have to admire my foreign daughter-in-law when I think that many children in China are indifferent and indifferent to their parents. In my opinion, American mothers have a lot to learn from Chinese mothers in educating their children. Christine Press: Although I am not married and have children, after all, when I get old, I will start to think about my family, children and education. China is deformed at present, which may not be reversed by ordinary people like you and me. However, the post-90 s bad reviews are like a tide, so we should learn from the past. So I began to collect some different educational ideas of people from different countries, different beliefs and different lifestyles in the world to learn and think about how to be a competent parent. Some people may despise foreign education methods, but before you raise your chin and despise other people's education with your nose, please think carefully: what kind of person do you want your children to be? What kind of person can you educate your children? Education can be unimpeded, not naive! Don't buy your ignorance and stubbornness with your child's life! Related topic articles