Family conflicts in China are often power conflicts. For example, the differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between father and son, are often aimed at winning or losing on the issue of "who has the final say". This cultural brand of thousands of years makes us often unconsciously show off our parents' shelves when we get along with our children.

"Why are you so disobedient?"

"How did I raise a child like you?"

These questions, seemingly communicating, are actually telling children, "You have to listen to me." To love someone, you must first learn to speak well. Although the child is weak, when he realizes that he is always a weak person in the communication with adults, he will unconsciously protect himself and close the door to communicate with his parents.

Home can pass on love and accumulate harm. Whether communicating with children or relatives, please remember to always put love first. The purpose of communication is to exchange views, not to win or lose. Because even if you win and push the person you love further and further, you will still lose in the end.

Communication ability is a kind of inheritance, which is accumulated bit by bit in the family environment of mutual tolerance and understanding through parents' words and deeds. I believe that children who can communicate will not be too unlucky in the future. Looking at my two-year-old daughter, I often think that if she is smart and sensitive, she is lucky, but if she is gentle and reasonable, she is really lucky.